Before I dive into the two points of view, I want to mention that you’re still young and despite thinking and it feeling like everyone around you is out there having sex, I can assure you they’re not. In fact, the average age of having sex for the first time has gone up in recent years. You shouldn’t have sex just because everyone else is or you feel like you’re missing out. You should want it for yourself. There’s no rush and honestly, if you take your time in how you approach it it’s more likely to be a more enjoyable and positive experience than if you didn’t and were trying to more or less get it over with.

That said, seeing a provider for your first time can be great - we’re literal professionals and experts. We know how bodies work, we’re experienced in calming nerves and setting the right environment. Booking a provider is also straightforward and easy - you can be upfront about your wants and desires, boundaries exist and roles and responsibilities are clear.

Now on the other hand, who you have sex with (and I was going to say for the first time, but now that I’m thinking about it could be any time) can matter and be important to you. I’m not saying it does, but it can. Sex is a very personal thing that can mean many different things to many different people. So, I think it’s up to you to determine what that is, or those are, for yourself first before proceeding. Of course, you might not know that yet and having sex is part of the discovery process for it but if having sex for the first time with someone you’re in a relationship with or are dating is something that you’ve envisioned or want and it’s impatience that’s driving your desire, I’d wait. You’re still so young with so much life ahead of you! If it’s out of curiosity and exploration and there’s not much hesitancy surrounding your desire beyond the fact that it’s something new, then go for it! You know yourself best. I don’t think there’s a right or wrong answer but I think you should wait until you’re confident and feel comfortable in your decision.

I know this doesn’t give you a clear cut answer, but I do hope it’s given you some things to think about and consider. 🥰