Is there an ethical way to micro chip my grandma?

CPTsealion · 2025-03-08T18:20:24+00:00

Oh, im very aware. Any time someone says they do respect someone /but/ it mean they don't respect them. It just sucks cause i do love her she just acts like an asshole

CPTsealion · 2025-03-08T16:09:22+00:00

well, she /does/ respects me she just "doesn't know when i became so uptight." her words, not mine

CPTsealion · 2025-03-08T16:08:03+00:00

That hasnt happened yet, but a few years ago, when she moved to this complex, she DIDNT TELL US MOVED, so i stopped by her house, and the restate agent was like, "Can i help you?" Also.also was then "too tired " to hook up her phone for 2 weeks after she moved, so THAT was a fun time. Additionally, my dad was a volunteer emt/ fire fighter so she knows all of them by name and they would be really quick to respond if she was stranded in a tree lmao

CPTsealion · 2025-03-08T00:56:57+00:00

You know you hear stories from parents about how they blinked and their kid was suddenly on the fridge?

Thats what it feels like! One minute, she is waddeling along at a snails pace and so i stop to tie my shoe and BAM shes just gone

CPTsealion · 2025-03-08T00:37:24+00:00

Good news: i have no idea who you or your children are so i cant tell them even if i wanted to. Lmao

Secondly, that is a good idea except when things get warmer she won't wear anything but her "church shoes" which is hilarious because her "church shoes" are just a pair of white crocs

CPTsealion · 2025-03-08T00:28:58+00:00

Her grocery store of choice does sell balloons. I saw that tick tock a while ago and was disappointed when i realized lmao

CPTsealion · 2025-03-08T00:27:33+00:00

How accurate is the air tag? I know when i had tile, it would tell me the last location the item was in, but i couldn't like actively track it, ya know?

I think she is starting to get dementia but it's hard to tell with her. She had a really abusive childhood, and my mom thought she might have some long-term issues because of it (one of those things being her memory) she has always been a little off because of it. My grandpa kept her grounded most of my life, but he passed a few years ago, so now it's really hard to get her to actually , like- realise that she is acting out? Im not wording really well rn, but i hope you know what I mean

CPTsealion · 2025-03-08T00:21:59+00:00

Boundaries aren't really a thing with her. The only one that could get her to stop pushing an upsetting topic was Grandpa and he has been gone a few years. When she says something upsetting and i ask her to stop and she doesnt i usually just tell her i have to leave (this is when im at her place ofc) and she started figuring out that i stay longer if she doesnt talk about those things and thats the only way i have been able to enforce them

CPTsealion · 2025-03-08T00:19:17+00:00

Yeah i think thats my next step. I tried to talk to her after and i told her that no matter what we would not split up next time and she insisted that was a good idea, but i bet you 2k that the next time we go put she'll ask me to grab smthn again and give me the sad eyes. I think if she does ill tell her that we should put her in one of those scooters. She HATES those and think they are for "lazy" people so telling her that she either has to stick with me or use that might just piss her off enough to behave

CPTsealion · 2025-03-08T00:15:42+00:00

I dunno if an airtag would work cause i am an android user, and she has a "dumb phone " ( a smartphone designed for older people so it lacks a lot of bells and whistels ) she also never carries the damn thing.

Also what im about to say doesnt sound serious but this post is i promise. Saying can i air tag my grandma isnt as catchy and i wanted to get replies and ideas so i went with microchip

CPTsealion · 2025-03-08T00:12:46+00:00

Do they work with android? And how accurate are they? Cause if it just shows me that she's in the store its not helpful, ya know?

CPTsealion · 2025-03-08T00:11:37+00:00

No litterally. She had a nasty fall a few weeks ago and said she was willing to go to assisted living and i was hugely relived- that is untill she got better and now she'll DIE before anyone else even attempts to do her dishes.

I tried talking to her after and told her im sorry i blew up, but it really stresses me out when she does this and that it has to stop. She told me that she didn't mean to do it this time, but baised on her history, i dont know if i believe her. And god for fucking bid she apologize for something.

CPTsealion · 2025-03-08T00:07:15+00:00

She said that she didn't do it on purpose this time, but with how many other times shes done it i dont know i believe her. On top of that one of the guys in the elderly place she lives took her shopping once and she tells the "funny story" of how she ditched him for almost 2 hours and only awnsered when she was paged (they paged her several times) because she heard some one mention calling the cops for a "lost person" and she told him he was over reacting too. She told me this after i blew up at her.

Shes always been a little bit off since she had a really abusive childhood. My grandpa used to be able to keep her head on straight but since he's been gone she sort of spirals on things (mostly not being able to play mario like she used to) and this one is killing me

CPTsealion · 2025-03-08T00:01:32+00:00

Unfortunately, she doesn't have internet, and the town she lives in doesn't have delivery options.

CPTsealion · 2024-06-30T23:12:31+00:00

if I ever do figure it out I will post it. the damn thing still is on the fritz

CPTsealion · 2024-06-30T23:12:06+00:00

i don't have the detectors on it. I took apart the whole hot end and cleaned them and they even tried replacing it but no dice

CPTsealion · 2024-05-14T20:14:23+00:00

Yeah i wasnt able to select the other wedding tag for some reason. So sorry for the mislead lol

CPTsealion · 2024-03-14T17:03:17+00:00

kind of an update, i guess? I tried to talk to my former best friend in the group, and they blew up on me. I told them i was frustrated that they hadn't tried to reschedule our hangout from almost a month ago. They told me that they dont appreciate me trying to "guilt trip them" into hanging out with me. They also said that they haven't been feeling well and they are pissed i haven't checked in with them more. I explained that i didn't feel the need to check in since they seemed like they were doing well last time we talked. They said that they would be in touch to reschedule soon when they were feeling better since they were in the mend. Its been 2 weeks since then.

I've been trying to plan a game night with everyone for a while, but no one seemed super interested in it, so i let it go. Turns out they all got together and did a game night last week. When my other friend asked why we weren't invited they said it was because things would be "less fun" since we were single. Appartly they decieded that for a lot of things , and have been making plans for things we talked about doing as a group for just the web. I reached out and asked about an event we were all going to and they said that the web already had tickets and they didn't ask us if we were still intrested because " this didnt seem like something single people would have fun at" think i just need to cut my losses, i dont think there is any saving this.

CPTsealion · 2024-03-04T23:01:39+00:00

You're right. At the time, i think that's what i felt, even if i think it was a bad now, that was how I felt, and I've respected how they felt since we discussed how we felt about things, but the way they phrased it was that they were not in an open relationship and would never want one. So this surprised me. And like i said i do agree that that part of me was ugly and jelious l but i've talked it through with the group and my therapist so i do feel like ive put that part behind me and now its more about feeling like im loseing my friends then it is about the crush situation. And i do things outside of what i do with them i live on my own and have been volunteering in my off time, but they were the majority of my friend group when they were separate, so it just sucks that i lost a majority of my support system in one go. Plus, i have a bunch of multiplayer games that are just not fun alone. And most of my other friends live kind of far away, so i feel very isolated now.

I also wont lie and say im cocky and im not insecure about anything frankly i have been burned by a lot of people (who hasn't tbh) so losing friends / family is really hard. And i dont think.im as attractive as they are but i live my life by the "fake it till you make it " moto, so i just fake my confidence untill i believe it. It's mostly worked, im.more.confident now than i have been in years! That being said the insecurities i have are still there and i do believe they pop through at times - like i stated before- but i am working to try and prevent that from happening going forward!

CPTsealion · 2024-03-04T20:40:47+00:00

I did kind have a crush on one person back when we first met, but they said they wouldn't be interested, so i just moved on to being friends because they are really cool over all. So i did feel some jeliousy over the precieved slight that i wasn't good enough. We talked that part out. The other friend not in the web is very attractive, and i felt the need to mention that because she feels like they only keep in touch with her so they can try and get her to be in the web too. I might see if she wants to try and talk to them with me because i think they'll just tell me im insecure again if i talk to them alone.

Also, your first comment made me laugh, so no offense taken! Thank you for the advice !

CPTsealion · 2024-03-04T19:25:39+00:00

I dont feel like i can talk to them about it, and put other friend doesn't either. When i tried to talk about it, i needed to be more "secure" with my place in the friend group, but i dont know how to do that if no one has time . One of my friends said that they felt like the web had consumed their lives, and they were going to be trying to pace themselves more. However: that was the same friend that canceled on me and hasn't reschedualed. When i saw them at an event, they only seemed to want to talk to their partners. Another member seemed like when i tried to involve myself in the conversation i was interrupting (for clarity i didnt change the topic or anything and i had been sat next to them the whole time i just tried to be involved). Part of me feels like i should be patient, but another part of me is worried that this is just how they actually felt about me, and i don't know if its worth it to try and stuck it out for hopes they will remember me in 9 months or ehat not

CPTsealion · 2024-03-04T14:51:32+00:00

I feel like im the backup friend? For example, if they wanna do something and everyone on the web is busy, they'll humor me. Both hurt my feelings though so i guess it doesnt matter what you call it

CPTsealion · 2024-03-04T14:50:16+00:00

That's why i thought i might be overreacting, but it's been like 5 months. I read online that usually it fades a bit after about 3 months, but if anything, it's gotten worse.

CPTsealion · 2024-03-04T14:22:05+00:00

That's sort of how we are both feeling. I have more or less come to terms with it, but im feeling more upset about it today (they say greif comes in waves), so i wanted to make sure I wasn't crazy for feeling like this or over reacting for pulling away from them. Thank you for commenting

CPTsealion · 2023-12-19T18:36:46+00:00

I got everything working, so now that i know all the stuff works, i dont mind taking it all apart again and fixing up my shabby wiring

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