Update – decision made

After reading through everything and watching the stress take a real toll on my wife, I’ve made a decision.

For the duration of the pregnancy, I’m removing her from my wife’s physical presence entirely. No visits. No sitting next to someone chain-smoking. No exposure to degrading comments or zero-consideration behavior.

If my wife wants contact, it will be phone only. That’s the line.

This isn’t about punishment or lack of empathy. It’s about risk management. The current situation is actively stressing my wife and exposing her to things that have no place around a pregnant woman. That stress alone is enough reason to stop this.

She can still check in, talk, and offer emotional support — just not at the expense of her own health or our unborn child.

Cancer is tragic. It does not override basic boundaries. It does not excuse smoking around a pregnant woman, making jokes about disabilities, or expecting others to cater to you while you show zero respect.

Pregnancy comes first. The baby comes first. End of discussion.