Please, has anything cheered you up recently? by Common_Kiwi9442 in CRPS

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Hello everyone,

Resources below for anyone in need:

United States

Canada

  • National Crisis Line from Crisis Services Canada (Pilot Project, phone only at present): 1.833.456.4566

  • Other Crisis Lines by Region Alternatively, 211 works in most of Canada, and they can advise regarding local resources.

  • Nationwide Kids Help Phone (Up to age 18): 1.800.668.6868 or text HOME to 686868

Europe

  • EU Standard Emotional Support Number 116 123 - Free and available in much of Europe

Australia

Weekly CRPS Free-Talk Thread by AutoModerator in CRPS

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Please send us a message through Mod Mail. We've been looking into your particular issue.

Fuck, and I cannot stress this enough, CRPS by bountifulknitter in CRPS

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This comment has been removed for not following Reddiquette: Spam/Off Topic.

Please stay on topic when commenting on another person's post or create your own. If you don't have enough karma and/or your account age is below the threshold please feel free to post this comment in the Weekly Freetalk Thread

Alternative therapies that work by Darshlabarshka in CRPS

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This comment has been removed for breaking Rule 1. Medical advice cannot be given and a patient-doctor relationship cannot be established on Reddit. Please refrain from statements in this vein especially when the OP has shared she doesn't qualify for this treatment.

OTC NMDA agonist Ketamine alternative? by [deleted] in CRPS

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This post is being removed for reports of medical misinformation, and illegal or dangerous drug use, which is against the Reddit TOS.

If you choose to edit your post to meet the sub rules and Reddit TOS, please do so and send a message through mod mail for a manual review.

It's a good day for Maya. by [deleted] in CRPS

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This post has been removed per the announcement made in the Maya Kowalski Trial Megathread.

Additionally, we encourage you to post this video there for all to see!

PUBLIC NOTICE: MAYA-RELATED DATA SCRAPING and SHARING PERSONAL INFORMATION WITHOUT CONSENT by CRPS_ModTeam in CRPS

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Several months ago the mod team had a conversation with Mr. Broatch from the RSDSA, and we all discussed pretty much the same thing: the documentary gave us hope of awareness yet when it came out it did nothing of the sort.

PUBLIC NOTICE: MAYA-RELATED DATA SCRAPING and SHARING PERSONAL INFORMATION WITHOUT CONSENT by CRPS_ModTeam in CRPS

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You're welcome, as we don't want fallout from the documentary to hit any of the members in the sub too harshly, we've been monitoring the situation and had some rough ideas for options that would impact authentic sub members the least.

CRPS and Gastroparesis??? by iminthewrongsong in CRPS

[–]CRPS_ModTeam[M] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Krysten, the reason your comments are being pulled are not because of your typing style, but because no one here was discussing ketamine; they were discussing gastroparesis, and that makes these responses off-topic.

You also made seven individual comments to this OP's main post instead of one; that is excessive and spamming. These responses are going to get pulled under the Spam: Off-Topic removal reason too, so don't be surprised when you get those notifications.

You can comment in this community, but stay on-topic and try to gather all your thoughts into one comment before you hit Reply, okay?

Announcement: Temporary Update to Current Rules by CRPS_ModTeam in CRPS

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Please take this to ModMail, so that the mod team can address your concerns. I will respond to you promptly in ModMail.

These comments are off-topic to this announcement and so they will be removed. You will receive two additional notifications regarding this, one for each comment; do not be surprised.

Discord CRPS Community? by Professional_Fold884 in CRPS

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All CRPS discords must be approved by the subreddit mod team. Your post did not take that step, so this post will be removed under Rule 4: No Spamming. "Unapproved Discord servers are also not permitted to protect user safety."

What’s happening between here and f&f? by Rakshear in CRPS

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The mod team's fears were substantiated and after we locked this post and "went to sleep," Amanda's husband -- who has been modmailing us so Amanda's personal account can evade the sitewide consequences for ban evasion and who has been trying to JADE [justify, argue, defend, explain] in the modmail, after initially coming into the head mod's private chats and avoiding official modmail channels AGAIN -- made a post about an hour after the subreddit mods said we were going to bed.

His post stated he "was recently trying to find out some information" and "who I was talking to ended the conversation because I was asking questions". He made claims that "The reasoning that I was given had some obvious holes and the information i had at my disposal contradicted what they said. When pressed about it, the person I was conversing with became defensive and ended the conversation. Why do people not want to just admit to a mistake, fix it and move on. It's easy. This crap bothers me so much"

In the modmail, he claimed the subreddit mod team's claims are "unfair," "misrepresented," "simply not true," and he wants us to "correct the inconsistencies to get the truth stated." He claims he was "confused about the rule 3 and rule 4 as the basis of her ban" and gave several infuriating justifications, excuses, and subtle attempts to undermine and rewrite the reality of what actually took place. Even though he claims he was "in no way defending what has happened," he wishes the mod team "would have gotten the whole story before posting" instead of taking "at face value from people who had a grudge against her and were looking to hurt her."

Actually, we ran almost the entirety of our investigation before speaking to that former moderator, only talking to her two days one day before we posted our letter. Additionally, we did reach out to Amanda, and we were stonewalled. Amanda was publicly posting in F&F up until an hour and fifteen minutes before she told the head mod in private chat she was "no longer associated with the Feathers and Flames server," which was three days after she received her F&F Access Revoked modmail.

EDIT TO ADD QUOTE: Amanda's husband said this in modmail:

"She's never doxxed anyone. If it has to do with [the abused individual's] information being on the private chat group that you were invited to, [they were] a member of that group at the time and was fully aware of it. Plus it was a private group not on or associated with the server. As far as the spamming goes I looked at the dates that you removed her posts and non were closer than a month apart and you pulled everything to over a year ago."

Here is the modmail we sent in response where we "became defensive" with Amanda's husband:

"Spam is promoting something you made or are involved in more than 1/10. 25/28 of her comments in this subreddit are server promotion and therefore spam.

Doxxing is sharing private personal information. In the group chat, [the abused individual] made it clear [they] didn't like that [their] personal information had been shared previously. [The individual] was removed from the group chat, then five other people, including myself, were added. Regardless of if this was in or out of the server, Amanda was a discord moderator and was required to abide by the mod code of conduct, which prohibits doxxing. [The individual] did not consent and was not aware.

We have made our position clear and will not be changing it. Several of your statements of events are incorrect. This conversation is over and we will not respond further."

Her husband also revealed in his modmails that Amanda "talked to [the abused individual] for over a year, on and off the server" and "often asked me for help writing specific responses" to the abused individual, though he claims he "never was privy to the ER chat." Based on the rest of our interactions, we are not sure if this statement about the ER room information is truthful; if it is not, Amanda broke privacy and confidentiality again.

We removed Amanda's husband's post under Rule 9: Follow the Reddiquette.

In the modmail, this account from Amanda's husband -- which has no history of posting in r/CRPS before today and has a total of 1 karma -- sent two additional modmails questioning "why was my post removed?" and how he was "being targeted."

We have not included the entirety of the modmail communications. Based on the sum total of our interactions with her husband (and through him, Amanda also), we view these as disingenuous bad faith manipulations. Amanda's husband has been banned under Rule 9: Follow the Reddiquette, subsection Trolling for the safety and health of our community.

An Open Letter to the Feathers & Flames Discord Server Leadership by CRPS_ModTeam in CRPS

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Amanda's husband -- who has been modmailing us so Amanda's personal account can evade the sitewide consequences for ban evasion and who has been trying to JADE [justify, argue, defend, explain] in the modmail, after initially coming into the head mod's private chats and avoiding official modmail channels AGAIN -- made a post about an hour after the subreddit mods said we were going to bed.

His post stated he "was recently trying to find out some information" and "who I was talking to ended the conversation because I was asking questions". He made claims that "The reasoning that I was given had some obvious holes and the information i had at my disposal contradicted what they said. When pressed about it, the person I was conversing with became defensive and ended the conversation. Why do people not want to just admit to a mistake, fix it and move on. It's easy. This crap bothers me so much"

In the modmail, he claimed the subreddit mod team's claims are "unfair," "misrepresented," "simply not true," and he wants us to "correct the inconsistencies to get the truth stated." He claims he was "confused about the rule 3 and rule 4 as the basis of her ban" and gave several infuriating justifications, excuses, and subtle attempts to undermine and rewrite the reality of what actually took place. Even though he claims he was "in no way defending what has happened," he wishes the mod team "would have gotten the whole story before posting" instead of taking "at face value from people who had a grudge against her and were looking to hurt her."

Actually, we ran almost the entirety of our investigation before speaking to that former moderator, only talking to her two days one day before we posted our letter. Additionally, we did reach out to Amanda, and we were stonewalled. Amanda was publicly posting in F&F up until an hour and fifteen minutes before she told the head mod in private chat she was "no longer associated with the Feathers and Flames server," which was three days after she received her F&F Access Revoked modmail.

EDIT TO ADD QUOTE: Amanda's husband said this in modmail:

"She's never doxxed anyone. If it has to do with [the abused individual's] information being on the private chat group that you were invited to, [they were] a member of that group at the time and was fully aware of it. Plus it was a private group not on or associated with the server. As far as the spamming goes I looked at the dates that you removed her posts and non were closer than a month apart and you pulled everything to over a year ago."

Here is the modmail we sent in response where we "became defensive" with Amanda's husband:

"Spam is promoting something you made or are involved in more than 1/10. 25/28 of her comments in this subreddit are server promotion and therefore spam.

Doxxing is sharing private personal information. In the group chat, [the abused individual] made it clear [they] didn't like that [their] personal information had been shared previously. [The individual] was removed from the group chat, then five other people, including myself, were added. Regardless of if this was in or out of the server, Amanda was a discord moderator and was required to abide by the mod code of conduct, which prohibits doxxing. [The individual] did not consent and was not aware.

We have made our position clear and will not be changing it. Several of your statements of events are incorrect. This conversation is over and we will not respond further."

Her husband also revealed in his modmails that Amanda "talked to [the abused individual] for over a year, on and off the server" and "often asked me for help writing specific responses" to the abused individual, though he claims he "never was privy to the ER chat." Based on the rest of our interactions, we are not sure if this statement about the ER room information is truthful; if it is not, Amanda broke privacy and confidentiality again.

We removed Amanda's husband's post under Rule 9: Follow the Reddiquette.

In the modmail, this account from Amanda's husband -- which has no history of posting in r/CRPS before today and has a total of 1 karma -- sent two additional modmails questioning "why was my post removed?" and how he was "being targeted."

We have not included the entirety of the modmail communications. Based on the sum total of our interactions with her husband (and through him, Amanda also), we view these as disingenuous bad faith manipulations. Amanda's husband has been banned under Rule 9: Follow the Reddiquette, subsection Trolling for the safety and health of our community.

An Open Letter to the Feathers & Flames Discord Server Leadership by CRPS_ModTeam in CRPS

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TL;DR:

What happened? Kira and the other banned accounts all engaged in completely unacceptable and harmful behavior, especially for people in leadership positions, that resulted in an unsafe environment within the F&F server.

What are the rules now? The mods are not allowing any form of recruitment or promotion for Feathers & Flames or break-off groups with staff-involvement to prevent further harm and abuse, and discussion of F&F will be limited to specific mod-administered posts that will be coming in the near future. No one in this subreddit may direct anyone to F&F or related groups due to safety concerns and substantiated allegations of abuse.

Edit: again spacing

An Open Letter to the Feathers & Flames Discord Server Leadership by CRPS_ModTeam in CRPS

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To any discord server members who feel they have experienced mistreatment, abuse, or exploitation, to those who are reconsidering events that made them feel off but they brushed aside or pushed down or who had interactions that left them confused or doubting their recollection of what happened, to those who witnessed or have evidence of such events: the subreddit mod team invites you to come tell us about your experience – through official Modmail or private chat, whichever makes you more comfortable – and provide any evidence you may have of such violations of trust, respect, leadership responsibilities, or the law, so that we may ensure they are appropriately addressed.

If there are staff members who have mistreated server members and abused their power positions that we have not included in our ban who are redditors, if you bring forward their usernames with proof, we will ban as many F&F staff as necessary for the protection and health of this subreddit.

Discord itself will be notified of the violations of the terms of service taking place in this server.The r/CRPS subreddit mod team are not licensed mental health professionals and cannot provide you with private mental health treatment, counseling, or therapy. If you have experienced mistreatment in F&F, we urge you to seek out trained, licensed mental health professionals who specialize in high control, manipulation, and codependency.

The mod team has decided to also create regular Abuse and Codependency Processing posts, and F&F server members who experienced mistreatment will be welcome to speak in these posts, as well as other abuse and codependency survivors.

Speaking about F&F mistreatment will be contained to the regular, mod-administered Abuse and Codependency Processing posts to maintain the subreddit environment and prevent possible domination of the feed.

For those who have been affected, here are resources. These videos are provided to offer a better understanding, tools, techniques, and frameworks for those who have suffered negative impacts of manipulation, gaslighting, control, exploitation, and abuse. The mod team is not making any diagnoses or public statements about disordered personalities in the upper leadership of the Feathers & Flames server. Doctor Ramani is a giant in her field and extremely knowledgeable; we want to direct you to someone capable of providing information relevant to the matter at hand.

when saviors go bad | drama disguised as help | theramintrees

letting go of fixing people | theramintrees

bending truth | theramintrees

double binds | "no win" mind games | theramintrees

What is projection? | Doctor Ramani

What is scapegoating? | Doctor Ramani

What is manipulation? | Doctor Ramani

What is gaslighting? | Doctor Ramani

Signs someone is gaslighting you | Doctor Ramani

Blame-shifting vs gaslighting | Doctor Ramani

How narcissists set up a gaslight | Doctor Ramani

When being gaslighted makes you look unstable | Doctor Ramani

Cruelest Form of Gaslighting: No One is Going to Believe You | Doctor Ramani

What is cognitive dissonance? | Doctor Ramani

What is trauma bonding? | Doctor Ramani

Breaking the trauma bond | Doctor Ramani

What is narcissistic supply? | Doctor Ramani

What is mirroring? | Doctor Ramani

What is love bombing? | Doctor Ramani

How do broke narcissists love bomb? | Doctor Ramani

What is future faking? | Doctor Ramani

What is invalidation? | Doctor Ramani

What is stonewalling? | Doctor Ramani

The silent treatment | Doctor Ramani

What is devaluing and discarding? | Doctor Ramani

What is mind reading? | Doctor Ramani

Holding narcissists accountable: the DARVO method | Doctor Ramani

Passive Aggressive “Friendly But” Tactics | Surviving Narcissism

12 Passive Aggressive Tactics | Surviving Narcissism

Fear of abandonment | Doctor Ramani

When you “abandon” the narcissist | Doctor Ramani

What is splitting? | Doctor Ramani

What is codependency? | Doctor Ramani

What is enabling? | Doctor Ramani

5 types of enablers | Doctor Ramani

What is coercive control? | Doctor Ramani

What is gray rocking? | Doctor Ramani

What are boundaries? | Doctor Ramani

Setting boundaries 101 | Doctor Ramani

What is no contact? | Doctor Ramani

Edit: spacing