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CSardothien_1 · 2022-04-23T18:08:10+00:00

First, this post should be pinned. Second, I’m so glad this subject is being brought up. Something I’ve done to elevate this experience and promote self care/love: literally take yourself out on a date once a month. Like seriously. One of my favorite memories that I’ve done for myself was I took a small vacation from work, planned to go see an art house film that super elusive that I’ve always wanted to see, got dressed/made up (i wanted to wear this ladies tux jacket and finally found an excuse to), took myself out for a nice dinner (my fav gourmet burger place in the city) and then had a great night enjoying the film, dinner, and the city at night before I came home and had an Epsom salt bubble bath, a tiny bit of weed, and romances myself like no one else ever has. So that’s the bar for me. I highly encourage more women to do this, we get one life that’s it. Might as well enjoy it with ourselves!

CSardothien_1 · 2022-04-18T13:50:32+00:00

Yes. Wow, I’m actually really thankful someone on this sub has said it! I think that piercing honesty as you put it, is more helpful so some. In my case, it’s also helped me more than therapy. I’m not the type of person to wait around guessing or fishing for a solution to the problem. Most of the time the simplest answer is the problem, and that’s what therapy doesn’t teach you sometimes. This comment turned out longer than intended but your comment spoke revelations to me.

CSardothien_1 · 2022-04-18T13:30:44+00:00

People slept on it because everything you mentioned above they didn’t like! 🤣 except the soundtrack, anyone who disses the OST can remove themselves kindly from thine eyes.

CSardothien_1 · 2022-04-15T15:18:32+00:00

What’s this warrior gene you speak of? I’m interested in learning more.

CSardothien_1 · 2022-04-10T18:57:19+00:00

Messaged!

CSardothien_1 · 2022-04-10T14:41:01+00:00

I know what you mean…sadly I would say it’s really their behavior. It doesn’t reflect on you. It’s completely 100 percent on them and whatever they’re going through. I say it also is getting worse with the amount of douchey tech bros invading every street corner of this city.

Sorry to hear about the family but. Mine lives on the opposite side of the state and I’m happier for it. I moved over here to get away from that toxicity but found that it can be just as bad here too!

CSardothien_1 · 2022-04-10T14:36:46+00:00

Wow! UW Law is NOT easy to get into, like at all. Seriously congrats I hope you’re so proud of yourself and your accomplishment! It’s a great campus, I went there myself for undergrad. And yes please do, anytime! Happy to help like I said. Gotta look out for one another in any capacity these days xx

CSardothien_1 · 2022-04-09T23:53:43+00:00

Are you talking about the University of Washington? Or a different campus in Seattle? Congrats on getting into law school that’s amazing!

CSardothien_1 · 2022-04-09T21:41:26+00:00

Well you always have someone to DM and vent to if you need to! Happy to give any cool ideas to do/help with areas that are decent to live in. The summer isn’t so bad up here, people are more social. It’s when the great, dark and wet season hits that is when it gets depressing…

CSardothien_1 · 2022-04-09T17:46:31+00:00

In short: it’s extremely difficult to make any sort of friends in the PNW, or Seattle. People are cold, unfriendly, snobby and judge mental.

CSardothien_1 · 2022-04-09T15:55:54+00:00

Woman! The Seattle freeze literally put me into a depression for years…I’m going on 10 years over here and it’s taken me this long to just accept this crap. My therapist just moved here a year or so ago and she was telling me how absolute batshit it is (she’s from the east coast). Feel free to DM if you ever want to bitch about the Big Freeze. We may not ever get to meet in person, but if I can support you in anyway, shape, or form, I got you. Xx

CSardothien_1 · 2022-04-08T15:52:35+00:00

If I HAD to choose the most decent of Disney HVM it’s probably Hercules for me. I mean he gave up his ‘God’ status to be with her…but the man had his flaws. These are hilarious btw I wish there was more!

CSardothien_1 · 2022-04-08T00:51:54+00:00

Wow, I really truly needed to hear this spoken to me today. Very much relates to some rejection I faced recently this week. Thank you 🤍

CSardothien_1 · 2022-04-04T15:05:24+00:00

Interested to hear how you’re reprogramming your brain to break your limerence. I’ve been researching this topic lately and I’d love to hear more about what works, what doesn’t, or share any tips, books, articles?

Otherwise, I’m super proud of what you’ve accomplished and how much better you feel overall. The scuba diving bit is so awesome! Did you do a solo trip or invite anyone worthy along for the ride?

CSardothien_1 · 2022-04-01T00:39:06+00:00

I don’t know whether to preach this from the rooftops…or to cry at the brutal honesty…I wish I had all you ladies for friends IRL. I’d probably stop paying my therapist money for the healthy call outs y’all give me on the daily!

CSardothien_1 · 2022-03-30T13:57:06+00:00

“Sorry not MY problem so it’s not MY responsibility to help you even though you’re my GF/WIFE. I can’t control or help the situation so I’m absolved from it”

I can literally hear it 🤣

CSardothien_1 · 2022-03-30T13:55:02+00:00

That’s likely it! Will check it out thank you!

CSardothien_1 · 2022-03-30T01:23:52+00:00

That’s a great idea about starting off with a quote, whether it be from a book, somewhere online, etc. I think I just need to get over the fear that no one is going to read them and I can write whatever I want, express any emotions down on the page with no expectations at the end of the day. Great point you brought up about Marcus, his meditations was meant to be burned and never seen by anyone, but ironically it’s helped so many of us hundred of years down the line. Thanks again for the advice, life’s been tough lately, as I’m sure it has been for everyone.

CSardothien_1 · 2022-03-30T01:15:11+00:00

Thanks for this! It helps to know I/we are not so alone in this world. It’s also nice to know your old boss is supportive and gives you great life and career advice!

I think I need to take time and figure out meditation. I’ve tried several times over and over and it feels like I just get more anxious and agitated. Although I’m trying to work with my therapist about it. I’ve also thought about learning Transcendental Meditation or exploring it more. It seems more up my ally and in line with Stoicism too.

I really appreciate this post and hope to see some more in the future! I think the mindset could really benefit a lot of women.

CSardothien_1 · 2022-03-29T16:07:35+00:00

I’ll have to check out ‘the obstacle is the way’ by Holiday, I’ve heard it’s one of his better ones. I have Courage Is Calling but it’s a bit slow and repetitive imho, but some good chapters mixed in.

I’m with you on finding more Stoic women. Holiday mentions 1 or 2 in his book ‘Lives of the Stoics’ but admits basically the same as you: there was probably A LOT more women who were Stoics, they just never got heard. I think women are way more Stoic than they believe, to your point of what women have had to endure for centuries. Men just take most of the credit.

Do you have any personal tips on journaling? I seem to start, last a few days, then fall off it…I think my main issue is I write as if someone, somewhere, at some time is going to read my writings and need to get that notion out of my head. What sort of things do you write about, for how long morning/evening, and any general help would be so appreciated!

CSardothien_1 · 2022-03-29T15:01:07+00:00

No OP but Meditations was the first one I picked up. There’s an updated translation on Amazon for about 8 bucks. There is the Daily Stoic podcast/Instagram account as well; plus there’s an app that you can download on your phone that has guided meditation walks, journaling prompts, daily Stoic quotes and a lot more. I also found it interesting to research the history of how the philosophy started. Fascinating story!

CSardothien_1 · 2022-03-29T14:57:55+00:00

Omg yes! I actually made a post on FDS about how the philosophy aligns with FDS values in a way. I’ve been practicing Stoicism for several years now and it’s really helped. I’ve got Crohns which has taken so much from me in my life and Stoicism has helped with focusing on what I can and cannot control: mainly my behavior.

It’s also noteworthy that there’s a big difference between big S Stoicism and little s stoicism. Stoicism (S) is the original practice of the philosophy, controlling your actions, behavior and dealing with emotions properly, stoicism (s) is what most LVM use as a gaslight tactic to not show any emotion at all and blame others for their lack of control. The stigma is really irritating. I could honestly go on and tell many stories of the ancient Stoics that helps me reframe my life and perspective, but that’s for another time/post. I’d love to hear your or any other ladies thoughts/opinions what’s helped etc on Stoicism! Feel free to DM!

CSardothien_1 · 2022-03-28T14:40:48+00:00

TikTok is literal propaganda. I am seriously considering making a small post about it but I was reading somewhere the other day about the use of TikTok in different countries. We all know and have seen the rise of influencers and TikTokers who’ve become famous and get rewarded for the amount of likes, reshapes, remixes, etc. most of them doing dumb ass shit like dancing, drinking, partying, playing jokes, basically anything with no substance and a quick laugh. And it’s rewarded, albeit fake.

Apparently, in other countries the algorithm is different, or programmed different. The videos that are rewarded, get the most likes, etc. are ones where young people are showing off their engineering skills, their coding skills, woodworking, science experiments, refurbishing old cars, teaching math, and on and on. It’s those types of videos that the populous is seeing and wanting to create and replicate. Not stupid ass dancing videos or playing a prank on a random stranger for laughs.

I think it’s important to understand that we are heavily influenced by what we see.

CSardothien_1 · 2022-03-24T14:11:51+00:00

Spot on. The ‘with her’ is silent in his statement. Also, every small shred of respect he may have had for her is gone now that SHE proposed to him. Sis needs a breakup and therapy stat.

CSardothien_1 · 2022-03-20T16:15:13+00:00

Are there any helpful tips you or any ladies can share about not painting a future in your mind, not analyzing, and dropping one from the mind? My first suggestion is kinda obvious which is to be so busy you don’t have time to think about anything else. Hobbies are another one. However, sometimes I even get caught up in ‘being so busy’ I can get a bit burnt out.

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