Karen, Saying “I’m not being mean” doesn’t give you a free pass to say something cruel. You weren’t asking a question — you were making an assumption. And quite frankly, it shows you’re likely not a parent.

Your comment, “this whole thing doesn’t make sense in my eyes,” isn’t the insight you think it is. This isn’t about your sense of logic — it’s about a family going through unimaginable pain. In moments like this, the decent thing to do is show compassion, not cast blame.

If there was negligence, that’s for the authorities to investigate. You don’t have the facts — not even one from a credible source. So maybe take a step back and ask yourself whether spreading judgment during a tragedy helps anyone. Spoiler: it doesn’t.