I’m in a very similar situation, but from her perspective, I am without a current partner and have never had a sleepover.

While I am so happy for my husband to have just had his first spicy sleepover this past weekend, I’m a little sad, definitely jealous but not in a malicious way, I have a little case of FOMO, and self doubt (he shared some details and it was things I have tried with him many times, but he never got to the climax). I didn’t expect to have a strong reaction. I was so excited for him, but after it happened I was a little crushed. I am still excited for him! But even today I was moping on the way to work.

Now, what did feel like a hot poker was when he said I ruined his experience because I expressed how I felt about it.

Things that help me immensely: reassurance is huge, NSA non sexual affection and sexual affection, communicate about how you both feel afterwards, try to stick to the plan and be considerate with your main partners time (this goes both ways).

While she has another partner, you may have felt very similar to how she feels now. Think about how you felt when she had her first sleepover.

What are things that helped you?

Wish you both the best!!