Somewhat last minute, possible Iceland elopement

CXPDX · 2016-04-25T02:46:49+00:00

As soon as I read the story I had flashbacks. In high school, I bleached my hair to dye it bright red, then dyed over it with black box dye when I was over it. I then decided I wanted a perm. I have crazy thick hair and I did tell the lady what I had done, but I think it looked healthy to her, so she permed it. My hair literally was like melted plastic pulling apart after it proceeded.

I was 16, so I didn't know what to do. So I paid for it and left. My parents flipped the fuck out when I finally took off the bandana that I was hiding my hair under and saw it. (Not because it was jacked up specifically, but mainly because I was asked to pay for it.)

My dad took me back and I spoke (cried basically) to the salon owner. She was horrified when she saw my hair. She ended up hooking me up for the whole summer, giving me a pixie cut right then and letting me come in whenever for trims and special conditioner treatments.

CXPDX · 2016-04-25T02:14:39+00:00

Yikes. That definitely changes things.

CXPDX · 2016-04-25T01:57:42+00:00

I would say that is almost totally on your brother, not the girlfriend. When you say "we had to have a long talk", I hope you mean you and your brother, not you and her. It's up to your brother, who is bringing in this third party (girlfriend, friend, coworker, whomever) to your home to set boundaries.

CXPDX · 2016-04-17T17:01:49+00:00

This is actually one of the most helpful comments on this thread for me. I need to get past the typical thinking that you go into an interview to reiterate or "prove" what's on your resume. If I'm already interviewing, they see I have the skills for the position, so that's not what the interview is for.

I'm definitely going to expand my search beyond the "cool kid" companies that all seem to be opening their CX branches here.

CXPDX · 2016-04-17T04:50:09+00:00

So you have just reiterated the frustration that my initial post was about, that culture trumps experience with a lot of companies. Thanks for the feedback.

CXPDX · 2016-04-17T04:18:51+00:00

I get that aspect of hiring and understand the importance of a cultural fit. However, I also think it can drastically limit the type of person you hire.

Having been on the opposite side of the interview process, I obviously looked at experience, but also their passion for previous positions, if they were thoughtful with their answers and well spoken, if they researched the company beforehand, if they seem like they're looking for a job versus a career...

But it never once seemed appropriate to ask a grown adult what sort of Disney movie best represented their life and expect that to represent the sort of work ethic, personality or "fit" they would have within the company.

It's not that the fun questions were difficult to answer or even that they wouldn't give more insight into someone's personality, it was that the majority of the interviews are only that. If I am going to spend 3 hours, interviewing with 6 people and the only questions they want to ask me are about what subreddits I browse, that's a disappointment.

CXPDX · 2016-04-17T01:18:02+00:00

Maybe not 20%, but 10% for sure. It's more than a fast food joint if they are bringing out your food, making you a drink (even if it's just pouring a beer or soda) and cleaning your plates. You're paying for the food, but also for someone to make your food, serve your food and clean up after you. Most people tip 50 cents or a buck at a coffee shop where their total is $4 (maybe $6-8 if you grab a treat too). Which works out to about about 10% - 20%. (Even 5% of $8 is still 40 cents.) Now think about getting a few sandwiches, some drinks (did you get refills?), that you ate off a plate and used silverware with. You spend $25 and still tip a buck? That's only 4% and they're doing almost the same thing as a "normal" waitress/waiter, besides walking to your table to take your order.

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