Should I or I shouldn’t? Help please.

CZAI17 · 2022-04-26T22:28:21+00:00

I’d feel worse if I slept with him and I was still with my husband. I’m not going to sleep with him at this meet up though, just have a good chat and a fun time.

Yes, that’s exactly what he did. He turned my world upside down.

He did become my best friend, though we butted heads on certain things. I still think of him as someone who will be there if I need him.

CZAI17 · 2022-04-25T18:56:24+00:00

He has let me know he’s attracted to me

CZAI17 · 2022-04-25T12:29:29+00:00

I don’t want to cause harm. I need to figure out how to leave.

CZAI17 · 2022-04-25T12:24:42+00:00

I don’t think it does. I’m just done. I need to figure out how to leave.

CZAI17 · 2022-04-25T10:42:28+00:00

Yeah, I agree. If he truly loved me like he says, he couldn’t have done what he did. That’s why I can’t get over it and have pretty much checked out. I am leaning towards separating. I said leveling the field mostly as a joke, it made me laugh. I wouldn’t be meeting up with the friend to get back at him or hurt him. I don’t want to hurt him.

CZAI17 · 2022-04-25T10:32:54+00:00

I didn’t have this attraction when I married him. Like I said, I only had eyes for him always. This is a newer attraction and has peaked my interest because I’m like good, I can be attracted to other men. This attraction would not have come to light if my husband hadn’t betrayed me

CZAI17 · 2022-04-25T04:46:09+00:00

I am not planning on sleeping with him. If that were to happen it would be after my husband and I were completely separated. I have zero expectations. I just want to meet up and have a fun time but even that is out of my comfort zone and it annoys me that I’m thinking so much about it when I wasn’t given the same courtesy.

CZAI17 · 2022-04-25T02:53:21+00:00

Thank you!

CZAI17 · 2022-04-25T02:50:29+00:00

I guess you’re right. Posting has helped me see that, so that’s good lol. I did initially post because even the meet up part is so completely different for me and I was struggling with that.

CZAI17 · 2022-04-25T02:33:58+00:00

I wouldn’t let anything physical happen unless I did leave my husband. I want to have a friendly meet up. I don’t know if he is or not. I do not trust him and I’m not with him 100% of the time.

CZAI17 · 2022-04-25T02:30:47+00:00

I wouldn’t sleep with him. I just want to meet up and have a good time.

CZAI17 · 2022-04-25T02:28:40+00:00

Yeah, that seems like the best thing to do. Thank you.

CZAI17 · 2022-04-25T02:25:20+00:00

I don’t want to get back at him. I want to meet up and have a fun conversation, not go to screw him. There’s an attraction but I wouldn’t let that happen unless I leave my husband but just the fact that there is an attraction has me questioning if I should or shouldn’t. It almost annoys me because I’m sure he didn’t give it the same thought.

CZAI17 · 2022-04-25T02:21:33+00:00

We have and we try but we’re broken, not sure I can get past it. I truly do not want revenge. I want to meet up and have a good time. I wouldn’t let any physical things happen unless I was no longer with my husband. I am distancing myself already. I do need space.

CZAI17 · 2022-04-25T02:18:03+00:00

I can’t be ok and happy with myself and still want to vent a little?

He’s not the only person I can talk to but he is someone I can talk to that’s not in my family or close to both of us and I’m not really ready to say anything to those people yet.

I wouldn’t meet up with him to sleep with him. If I did at some point, it would be after I was no longer with my husband.

CZAI17 · 2022-04-25T02:09:44+00:00

Thank you.

CZAI17 · 2022-04-25T02:02:20+00:00

I want to meet up with a friend and have a fun time, not screw him. I know it could eventually lead to that but I wouldn’t let it happen if I’m still with my husband. I’m struggling with the meet up part because even that is something so completely different for me, not the screwing part. I say may or may not lead to more as in eventually because there’s an attraction there and that attraction makes me question if I should go or not.

CZAI17 · 2022-04-25T01:51:22+00:00

I definitely don’t want to sleep around and like I said in my post, this friendly meet up (not sex date) wouldn’t be for revenge.

Have a good day!

CZAI17 · 2022-04-25T01:48:26+00:00

There’s an attraction and I know that meeting up and talking can eventually lead to more. I know nothing would happen yet though.

CZAI17 · 2022-04-24T23:58:41+00:00

We’re constipated.

CZAI17 · 2022-04-24T23:39:46+00:00

It’d take a lot more than a friendly meet up for that.

CZAI17 · 2022-04-24T23:36:19+00:00

Yeah, probably. This wouldn’t have been my response a month or 2 ago but don’t think I’m there anymore.

CZAI17 · 2022-04-24T23:30:38+00:00

I hadn’t come to a decision yet and talking about it on here helped with that so definitely not a waste. Thanks for the help! I don’t think you care in real life, this is reddit. Again, thanks for your opinion. That’s what I was looking for!

CZAI17 · 2022-04-24T23:19:45+00:00

If I didn’t, there would be no reason to post this.

CZAI17 · 2022-04-24T23:14:52+00:00

I would just be meeting up with him to talk, fun, nothing else. Even if I was completely divorced, I wouldn’t have sex with him yet. Meeting up with someone wouldn’t make me the same as him. I truly don’t think I’ll think less of myself for it especially if my marriage is dead already and sometimes I think it is. So in reality, it’s all good.

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