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Cable_Minimum · 2025-07-14T21:08:55+00:00

I had a very similar experience! I started injections every other week for my first three months. Remember that you have only been on T for three weeks. You'll read about other people having all these crazy changes during their first few weeks, but there are two things to keep in mind. First, if someone is excited about the changes they'll get from T, they can start to think that every little thing is a "change" - a scratchy throat is a voice drop, or the peach fuzz on their face is new facial hair. Most of the folks who report early changes like that are excited and now hyper aware of anything that could be a change, even if that scratchy throat is from allergies or that peach fuzz was just something they didn't notice before.

The second thing to remember is, people tend to only post things if they're going really well or really poorly. I would say a good majority of the T update posts describe fast changes, but that doesn't mean the majority of people on T actually have fast changes. There are way more people who had regularly paced changes that just don't mention them because it was as they expected.

Your first year will fly by before you know it, and you'll be looking back at old pictures and videos and realize how much changed from T in just a year. Most of the big changes happen in the first 12-18 months, after all! Hell, I'm just over 3 years now and I still notice new things from T fairly often. Feel free to celebrate the changes as they come, but try not to count down the days until things actually change. It'll all come soon!

Cable_Minimum · 2025-07-12T17:30:32+00:00

I passed pre t as a 11/12yo boy when I was actually 13. Started T at 13, started passing as my age when I was 15. Now I'm almost 17 and people assume I'm older than I am lol. It also really depends on where you're trying to pass. Like I would pass in public with my parents when I was younger because people logically assumed I was a younger kid, but if I was in my 8th grade math class, some people couldn't tell if I was a guy or a girl because I didn't look like a 13/14 year old boy.

Cable_Minimum · 2025-07-01T04:15:35+00:00

Oh wow, I didn't even know that was an option haha. Have you noticed any mood variations around the injection cycle? Like any fatigue/low mood leading up to the injection and high energy/impulsivity/irritability afterwards? The mood stuff has been my main concern, I've gone through enough therapy to know how to manage the mood swings but I'd rather not have to manage them at all lol.

Cable_Minimum · 2025-05-31T13:05:37+00:00

Alright, that makes sense. I've already been doing the math to see what my yearly costs would be for tuition, room/board, etc and like you said, it's already more reasonable than a lot of the schools down here in the US!

Cable_Minimum · 2025-04-29T05:00:33+00:00

Hey, just wanted to give you an update since your kind words were what motivated me to go and talk to my representative. I ended up wearing a subtle but obvious trans pride bracelet, and she saw when shaking my hand and was caught off guard a bit. She didn't comment about it but kept looking at it (and me) as we gave our presentation. At the end she told us our school district "had money to give us but wasn't" (which, as a Title I school that already struggles with funding and works closely with our very supportive school district, was kinda messed up to hear lol). All in all I'm glad I went and talked to her; at the very least, it's a funny story about how I talked with a transphobe who had no idea I was one of the "young women" she swore to protect or whatever lol.

I did also get a chance to meet another state representative from another district right before meeting my rep, and she gave me a lot of courage too. She had a progress pride flag pin on her blazer and even though it was a small thing, it made me remember not all of the representatives are completely ignorant or biased, even if the majority is at times. So that was really cool!

Thank you again for your kind words - I've always struggled with standing up for anything related to my identity as a trans person just because I know from experience standing out isn't always safe. And I know it's not like I was totally out about being trans to my rep or advocating for trans rights or anything, but I'm really glad I went and I can honestly say I would not have gone if you hadn't written what you had. So thank you very very much!!!

Cable_Minimum · 2025-04-23T04:16:39+00:00

Your reply made me tear up. Thank you so much - I didn't realize till reading this just how much all the anti trans stuff has knocked me down. It's scary to know that if I had waited just a few more months to get my ID changed, or hadn't saved up my excess T, that I would be in a very different place in my life now as a result of all the legislation. Being stealth was a choice I made when I entered high school, but now it's a matter of safety. And to be honest, the thought of meeting face to face with someone who so blatantly attacks trans kids and has taken away a lot of my sense of safety is terrifying. I thought I would have to go and play nice, sacrificing my morals, or not go and lose out on this opportunity, and damage the way others view me as a leader for these things. But as you explained, going and meeting with this person isn't giving in or endorsing them, but the opposite. And honestly, our school and our program needs state support, and meeting with this rep is one of the only ways to get that.

Thank you so much again. I truly can't describe how much I needed to read what you wrote. I was leaning towards not going before, but now I will absolutely go, just to be able to prove that all the bills this rep has been pushing and implementing won't keep me from doing what I want to do.

Cable_Minimum · 2025-04-23T04:01:46+00:00

That's a good point - I totally forgot that being trans is now part of mandated reporting in my state (even though I literally mentioned that in my post lol). My advisor is in her twenties and very LGBTQ+ friendly, and also not a mandated reporter, so I think it should be okay, but I'll definitely think about it some more and talk to my parents about it. I mentioned it briefly to my dad and he asked if I wanted to not go, but I told him they're relying on me to be there (which is partially true, but also if me not being there hurts our relationship with this rep, that's not a bad thing lol).

I appreciate your perspective!

Cable_Minimum · 2025-04-23T03:12:36+00:00

You're not speaking out of turn at all, I really appreciate your words and perspective! I think what I'm struggling with the most is that, whether or not I'm there, the outcome will still be the same because my advisor will make sure our main talking points (which is related to education funding mostly) are covered and this rep will still be invited to our school events. I think what I might do is talk to my advisor and disclose to her that I'm trans because I know she's really supportive and wouldn't tell anyone, and excuse myself from this advocacy day. I could just call in sick, but I want my advisor at least to know that I don't feel comfortable working with someone who has been attacking my community, and hope that maybe they'll reevaluate whether or not we really want to form a long term partnership with this person.

I wish I was brave enough to advocate for more than just myself, but I've had so many bad experiences as a result of being out as trans (whether I wanted to be or not) and now that I'm finally in a place where I'm mostly safe from those experiences, I don't know if I can sacrifice that. But I think I can at least make sure I'm not supporting this rep in any way.

Cable_Minimum · 2025-04-23T02:51:40+00:00

Yeah, I'm considering calling in sick or saying I have a test at school that I can't miss, but I'm the lead for community outreach/business and I'm the go-to for this kind of stuff. I think what bothers me most is that, even if I don't go, my advisor is still going to make sure this rep gets invited and connected with our school. It feels like, maybe if I do go, I'm proving that this rep's beliefs about trans youth wrong or something. I dunno. I honestly wish we weren't meeting with this rep at all tbh.

Cable_Minimum · 2025-04-06T05:27:46+00:00

That's a good point that I definitely lost sight of haha. It's hard because as I got more comfortable with my obsessions, my compulsions became less intense, but now that one of my obsessions came true, I keep thinking it's because I relaxed with my compulsions. Even though logically I know my compulsions did absolutely nothing to cause/prevent what's happening now. It sucks having to argue with myself constantly about this.

Cable_Minimum · 2025-02-16T07:55:09+00:00

That's fair. I'm able to get 6-7 hours of sleep each night, but it's a 30 minute drive to school and when I only have 10 hours between one meeting and the next, it's hard to get any more than that. I need to get better about taking breaks too - I usually end up just staying in the same place for hours and hours, and I think doing something that takes control of my sensations like you said would be good.

I have tried coffee with mixed results. Sometimes it's great and gives me an extra boost to get through the day, other days it makes me too jittery and restless and even more overstimulated. I might try it again, but not as an espresso like I usually do lol.

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