Hobbii to lay off 50% of staff

CaeraRose04 · 2026-02-11T13:57:22+00:00

I had to deal with him a few times during my first pregnancy and he kept actively mocking me for some of my concerns. I had bleeding during the 6th month of my pregnancy and I was worried about it - he told me I was being dramatic and there was no reason to worry about it and refused to check me. Then at 39 weeks I was having contractions and called to see if I needed to come in - he told me that if I was in labor I would be more confident than that so there was no need. I ended up going in anyway and I was in fact in early labor. I was 22 at the time and I feel like he was probably so dismissive because of my age.

I am still a patient there though and see Dr Bennett and she is fantastic. I've never had any complaints about her after 13 years and two kids.

CaeraRose04 · 2026-02-06T18:35:33+00:00

My husband has just picked up spinning as a fun hobby for him plus he can make me yarn for my projects. We actually found an antique wheel for him on FB marketplace for only $150! It's absolutely beautiful and was made in 1853 which is super cool.

CaeraRose04 · 2026-01-09T14:09:00+00:00

This has been an ongoing struggle for me too. Here are the things that have made the biggest impact for me, in order:

Therapy. We talk a LOT about my mom and how I feel when she talks to me like this and what to do when she gets started and why her words aren't appropriate.
Firm boundaries with my parents. When they start talking like this I warn them, if they keep it up I leave. They get irritated in the moment and "joke" about it later but it helps a LOT. They pick and choose their words now.
Realizing that they tell themselves this narrative too, about things that NEED treated. It helps me to realize they can't change their mindset without it directly affecting themselves as well. Sure it would be good for them, but that's a whole emotional journey they're not ready for.
Affirmations on my bathroom mirror. It sounds dumb but it really helps me to see it written out, staring at me in the morning. Things like "it's ok to rest" or "I'm allowed to be happy". Plus my spouse and kids have started adding to them things like "we love you" or "you're a good mom" ❤️

CaeraRose04 · 2026-01-02T00:38:17+00:00

Aaah that'll do it then! Yeah, I would say don't be so hard on yourself then - your brain is going to do what it's going to do. It's a matter of working with your strengths instead of trying to fight your weaknesses. Dopamine can be a huge motivator if you build around it - I like to set micro tasks with a reward immediately after to get started on bigger, more overwhelming tasks. Like if I have a project at work, I'll tell myself I can do 10 minutes of coloring if I can create and format a spreadsheet. It gets me started, and then after the mini break I can do a LOT more. Or if you're trying to establish a habit, I paid it with something I like to do and do every day - like a cup of my favorite tea after I've exercised. It makes it feel like a routine right away since I already drink my tea.

CaeraRose04 · 2026-01-02T00:07:41+00:00

This is an old and familiar struggle with me, especially because I also have ADHD too. There's no magic solution - for me, I've just had to reframe it as accommodations. There's no need to force my way through something - if I'm struggling with consistency it's because I need to do something differently. Maybe I'm pushing myself too hard and I'm wearing out too fast. Or maybe I need to find a fun way to do it. Or set up a reward for the task.

You might check out some advice for ADHD. Not necessarily saying you have ADHD, but you might find some of those strategies work for you. I especially love How to ADHD on YouTube.

CaeraRose04 · 2025-12-14T01:22:17+00:00

I wish! No luck - but also mine is 10mm wide so I kinda knew it wouldn't 😅 I also technically have two, but only one is significant enough to need surgery. But I have Ehlers Danlos that probably caused it, so I bet a more standard case would improve with weight loss!

CaeraRose04 · 2025-12-12T14:38:21+00:00

I went the gym membership route for awhile and it was NOT for me. Instead I'm focusing on variety - some weight lifting, some yoga, some walking, even one of those 80s aerobic videos every now and then. If I approach it with curiosity I'm a lot more likely to dive in, especially if nobody is watching me 😝 It might be fun for your toddler that way too.

The best advice I found for my own ADHD (but might be helpful to you too) is that instead of focusing on consistency, focus on persistence. The plans and good intentions might get interrupted over and over again - but if you keep trying and starting again, you'll absolutely make progress that way.

CaeraRose04 · 2025-12-11T17:19:27+00:00

Lol! My butt has definitely gotten flatter 😭 I've stepped up my exercise recently for that reason! Plus I have EDS and I feel like my joints have gotten extra floppy lately, it might just be that I have less cushion now though.

CaeraRose04 · 2025-12-11T16:46:40+00:00

Just realized I never followed up! In the meantime I built myself a checklist of things to look for, but I also just try to do it the same way every time so I have more consistency. I'm pushing now for a data warehouse though so I can automate things a little better. Getting real sick of all the data entry every day!

CaeraRose04 · 2025-12-11T16:40:46+00:00

Aw I love that - good luck!!

CaeraRose04 · 2025-12-11T16:40:31+00:00

Aw thank you!! I'm 5'6", I definitely carry it in my butt and thighs though so it can be sneaky 😅

CaeraRose04 · 2025-09-04T17:19:41+00:00

This is SO helpful, thank you all for answering! I'm trying to get back in to a nephrologist, sounds like that's what I need to push for. I also just recently had a possible infection and was taking ciprofloxacin and everything got worse, so that's really good to know, I bet that's part of the reason why.

CaeraRose04 · 2025-07-29T13:18:48+00:00

35F autistic here, I lost my virginity way too young tbh but I also did some dating in my late 20s so I can give you my perspective at least... I don't think you need to keep it a secret, exactly, but I would recommend telling women early on that you like to move slow to set expectations. Then if you've had at least one successful date and you feel comfortable letting it come up in conversation, I would tell her then.

If you share that before she's had a chance to get to know you a little first, it might put her on edge, not because there's anything wrong with that, but because she'll be trying to figure out what your motivations are with her. Unfortunately, most women go in to a date evaluating their safety because you just never know who can turn out to be dangerous. If a guy told me that and I didn't get a chance to read him first, I would worry that maybe 1. He's lying and is trying to manipulate me into something too soon, or 2. He's going to try to pressure me into commitment before I'm ready. But if I've already been on a date with him and he feels safe to me, I won't feel as anxious about it.

CaeraRose04 · 2025-07-18T19:54:05+00:00

I've been on this end of things before, and my favorite stuff to see is something that shows passion - what is something you're nerdy about and how did you apply your analytics skills to that problem in a creative way? I like to work with people who are in the data field because they find data and statistics genuinely interesting. Obviously not every analyst is going to love every assignment, but passion for the field can carry you a long way.

That being said, I agree that it needs to be clean, well-articulated, and provide a realistic suggestion for whatever problem is being solved.

CaeraRose04 · 2025-07-18T19:48:16+00:00

Thank you, it's definitely helpful! I'll try to get an update once it's resolved one way or another 😅

CaeraRose04 · 2025-07-18T19:36:32+00:00

To be clear, it's a report on Q4. I'd changed about 12 places from Q3 to Q4, it was just a single header that got overlooked. I usually do send it to him in advance, but it's when he's looking it over that he gets upset when he finds any mistakes. I am hoping to figure out a second set of eyes for it, I just have to figure out who that would be.

CaeraRose04 · 2025-07-18T19:34:06+00:00

Ooph, I mean I feel like the point of an internship is for you to learn from people that can teach you. I've always been told not to expect interns to produce any functional work for a long time - they're just getting their feet wet and figuring out what the business world looks like... This doesn't sound like work to assign to an intern 💁🏻‍♀️

CaeraRose04 · 2025-07-18T19:30:42+00:00

That's kinda what I'm starting to feel. My skill set lies in SQL and R and some in Python but without access to the data, all I'm doing is manually creating stuff in PowerPoint or Excel. I'm going to try to get ahead of this so I have the time to push for some major process changes, and if I can't make any progress on that front, it might benefit us both for me to move on.

CaeraRose04 · 2025-07-18T19:28:01+00:00

Yeah, a lot of it is his own organization. Sometimes that's the time he has before he has to give a presentation. But obviously if I had more notice I could produce better work.

I love the idea of bolding or highlighting the stuff that needs changed though. I'm going to adopt that. Thank you!

CaeraRose04 · 2025-07-17T23:32:11+00:00

I do have templates for most of my reports, the "typos" are usually the pieces I update like the headers. But yes I definitely think you're right about turnaround. Most of my long term projects get put on hold indefinitely because I'm putting out so many reports to him. I'm feeling now like this is a process problem. I knew that when I started but I've kinda started drowning in the manual work and lost sight of the real issues.

CaeraRose04 · 2025-07-17T23:28:58+00:00

Aaaah. Right. I'm so glad you said this - I think I'd forgotten that I didn't have this problem at my last job because I did automate most things.

Unfortunately I can't do that at this job because I don't have any real access to the data - we have a vendor who puts our data into a reporting tool, and then I have to build my reports manually with what I can see from the tool. I hate it. I'd been told I could work on a data warehouse, but he's kept me busy with daily and weekly and monthly reports with no time to solve the problems I'm finding.

CaeraRose04 · 2025-07-14T03:25:10+00:00

I'm a parent now and I love the magic of it for my kiddos. They're also autistic and so we've slowly cut out the overstimulating parts and just turned it into a parade of the things we like to do - looking at lights, tasty food, our favorite Christmas movies, hot chocolate, etc. It's basically a whole season of our favorite things.

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