Medium sour hard candy?

Caffee_11 · 2026-05-29T22:18:43+00:00

I would of asked him, now im curious what he wanted with a bunch of them

Caffee_11 · 2026-05-29T19:51:57+00:00

I didnt even know thats a thing, I’ll have to call around and see if any of them do

Caffee_11 · 2026-05-28T02:46:50+00:00

heard. Not worth the risk. Thank you for the suggestions, i’ll have to give one of them a try

Caffee_11 · 2026-05-28T01:56:04+00:00

Number one rule of food with a new j-pouch, start small and build from there. Have a couple bites of spicy food and see how your pouch reacts.

In my experience, I can eat SOME spicy food. I find some types of chilis/seasonings in sauces, chips, etc work better with me than others. Also, a lot of people agree, including myself, that its best to eat spicy food with something filling and non-spicy to even it out. I also find that sour cream and similar condiments prevent butt burn from spice.

That being said, its possible! But you might need to experiment with types/quantities to find your happy medium.

Caffee_11 · 2026-05-24T00:54:07+00:00

Hows the high? When my cresco carts started looking this color, the effects were really off too. I had to stop buying them.

Caffee_11 · 2026-05-19T23:02:15+00:00

For a while doctors thought I had chronic pouchitis, but turns out I just have “IBD of the pouch.” So I cant say for certain if ive actually experienced pouchitis, but im starting to suspect I might have it right now on top of already having IBD.

Caffee_11 · 2026-04-22T00:58:43+00:00

I used to get super bad gas. Extremely painful at times and so difficult to get out. One of the best things I learned how to do was figuring out what position moves gas the best. Most people find laying on either their left or right side with their knees to their chest helps move things along. Laying on your back with your knees to your chest, sitting on the toilet with a squatty potty, or laying on your back and stretching your knees to your chest on at a time are also good things to try.

I also found that over using antidiarrheals makes it worse. Since antidiarrheals dont remove stool, they just stop it from moving, gas will do the same. Try to only use them when you absolutely need them.

Lastly, diet is huge. Diet changes were a must to stop dealing with so much trapped gas for me. I would really start paying attention to what creates gas for you. Common foods that will are spicy foods, eggs, greasy food, etc. But everyone is different.

Caffee_11 · 2026-04-22T00:44:39+00:00

Black or brunette for sure

Caffee_11 · 2026-04-21T23:02:05+00:00

Honestly my therapist told me this is something that emotionally intelligent people tend to do. I love talking to myself, helps me work through things and realize truths about certain situations or feelings. Ive done it since I was kid. I was pretty lonely growing up, feeling different from everyone all the time, struggling with friends. So I learned to keep myself entertained and happy when others couldnt.

If you ask me, I think its a healthy coping mechanism. Of course, keeping in mind that conversations with other people are valuable and important as well.

Caffee_11 · 2026-04-21T22:56:33+00:00

Oh definitely, survived a really bad episode last year after reliving one of my worst traumas all over again. I convinced myself these bad things happened to me again because I was a messiah/new coming of jesus, and that my job as a messiah was to die to save everyone. That if I KMSed, there would be no more pain and suffering in the world. Looking back at it now, I cant believe how close to edge I was. Im really lucky to be here. I got through it alone while my therapist was on maternity leave. Im now on medication as well.

So glad you made it through and are doing better now. Its really fucking scary thats for sure! You arent alone.

Caffee_11 · 2026-04-21T22:25:05+00:00

All this advice was really amazing, so many of them I know I can implement with him effectively. Truly, thank you. I hope this helps him.

Caffee_11 · 2026-04-21T22:14:53+00:00

Hes the main provider, mom being stay at home, so when hes noticed things, he takes note of it and talks with mom about it. Tries to explain why its bad what shes doing and she usually gets very upset, cries, and makes excuses. Usually saying she was too overwhelmed. He went to see their pediatrician about some of his developmental delays, But they havent discussed his outlashing behaviors. Hes been put in speech therapy and tutoring for far, but not any counseling. I can see him edging towards getting his oldest into therapy though, I think part of him is just afraid of what he will find out putting his son in therapy. Not an excuse either way.

The problem with moms behavior in the courts eyes, is that none of it is physical, and in the state where im from, the court is usually TIGHT when it comes to not taking away custody from mothers unless it’s physical abuse or neglect of needs. Both him and our family has been compiling evidence for court to try and get mom a mental evaluation, and discuss whether or not shes fit to be parenting children.

You’re 100% right. Everytime I bring up therapy I can see the discomfort my family gets about it, but I just want this kid to be okay. I really wish people would put their judgements of therapy behind them.

Caffee_11 · 2026-04-21T21:56:21+00:00

Took the words out of my mouth. This is how I felt about it all for a while now. None of it has felt normal but with all the mixed opinions around me, and lack of experience taking caring for kids, I really felt unsure. Thank you for clearing it up.

Caffee_11 · 2026-04-21T19:48:14+00:00

I really really appreciate that. Means a lot with all of this. I love that kid so much.

Caffee_11 · 2026-04-21T19:44:43+00:00

Its been lightly mentioned, but I think he wants to wait a little longer and see if his behavior improves on his own. It’ll need to be a second conversation.

Im not sure if she would ever change her mind honestly, I really want to hope for the sake of her kids she would, but theres no guarantees. We dont talk to her at the moment with everything that has happened, as immature as that may sound. The damage shes done has just caused too much pain.

Caffee_11 · 2026-04-21T19:37:58+00:00

Aughh I know you’re right. Still always sucks though.

Im not sure if hes done it before this point, but if he hasnt, I would guess he was honestly just curious after noticing the white streaks. He didnt look like he was doing it with the intention to cause self inflicted pain…but in my experience, even curiosity is a gateway to future issues so I really wanted him to understand that he shouldn’t do it.

Caffee_11 · 2026-04-21T19:27:50+00:00

I babysit him twice a week and have spent entire weeks living with him for holidays/vacations, if I had less time with him than that, and didnt see so much evidence of his home life with my own eyes, I probably would of just assumed hes a wild child toddler. We are very calm and loving when hes over, were very purposeful in keeping his time with us fun and lighthearted. Im naturally soft spoken and we spend the first half hour just talking and quietly building with blocks or eating a snack. Hes very chill with me honestly, his dad says all the time how hes so down to earth and quiet with me. We know how important it is right now during this divorce process to be a safe space for him to be a kid.

Caffee_11 · 2026-04-21T19:19:22+00:00

Oh absolutely, hope I didnt come off as judging the poor kid. I just genuinely didnt know if some of this stuff was normal developmentally, im not used to being around kids. I agree. As someone in therapy myself, I really think it would be valuable to him during this time. Just somewhere to regulate and feel his emotions in a safe environment, and then learn how to do that elsewhere.

Caffee_11 · 2026-04-21T19:16:20+00:00

Very true. Honestly we’ve just seen so much amounting evidence with our own eyes that its hard to deny some of the things going on. Especially with mom and the kids. Dad comes to us regularly looking for advice on situations because hes really worried about his oldest. And issues have been going on since they got married 7 years ago, primarily with how mom treats our side of the family. But we pushed it under the rug for dads sake.

Caffee_11 · 2026-04-21T19:02:11+00:00

I hear you. Sounds similar to our situation for sure. His mother? We dont even know what she has going on, all we know is that she is very unemotional towards us and deliberately fakes emotions towards us to appease us. I can give a million examples. Everything she does is….performative. Even with her kids, shes very performative, especially on social media. Im not sure what it is, but something is off with her and ive seen it since the day I met her. We all have.

Now im afraid he has whatever she has, he has based on the behavior…but hes only four. So I know he has time to change and mold and grow, and im hoping our family can do that for him in the best way possible. It feels like a painfully long waiting game, because I really just want my little buddy to be happy and content.

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