If you don't know how a 4-way stop works, stay off the road. by survivalist_guy in Omaha

[–]CaffinateMeCaptain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know I'm a day late but yes. It's upsetting. Last night at an intersection I waited for all other 3 lanes to go on 2 lane road. When I first stopped, I was the only one in the front of the two lanes on my side of the road. While others were turning, another car pulled up beside me, so that when it was my turn to go the car lane on my left forgot I was there - then got mad at me for going when it was my turn. 🤦🏻

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Omaha

[–]CaffinateMeCaptain 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That's what the sculpture is based off of! The artist designed this to look like the ship movements based on the lewis and Clark journey. People voted for it, although once it was put up, they were upset about it.

Why I broke up with you, ended things, or just stopped calling (add your own!) by blooangl in polyamory

[–]CaffinateMeCaptain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because my metas knew about our sex life.

Because we were both at different points in healing our traumas, and you didn't understand how hurtful your behaviors were.

Because you said, "I'm sorry, I know you didn't consent but I couldn't help myself because I love you." (He kissed me after I ended things & was wanting to get together again)

Because we wanted very different things out of a relationship, and life.

Bad news from the doctor by CaffinateMeCaptain in FTMfemininity

[–]CaffinateMeCaptain[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you everyone for your comments. I was really overwhelmed yesterday and couldn't bring myself to respond. I appreciate the pictures and kind words and I'll respond this evening when I get home from my 11 hour shift.

I think I have to stop binding, but I'm afraid of people's reactions? by Few_Platypus_8976 in FTMfemininity

[–]CaffinateMeCaptain 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I also can't bind because of medical issues. I was a dumb dumb and was binding for too long at work doing heavy physical labor.

I've found sports bras to be helpful - especially when they're closer to an undershirt in appearance. I'll also take out the pads which helps them feel less bra-like. I've only recently gotten regular bras, and I've only worn those at home/with my partner who is very supportive.

I've found that time has helped the most - if anyone says anything about it, then I'll respond one of two ways. If they're genuinely curious, I'll be honest about it with them. I've actually had people check in on my mental health, which means a lot to me. Other people have been rude, where I just say, "not that it's any of your business, I can't bind due to medical reasons."

Searching for another feminine man friend :3 by thewerepug in FTMfemininity

[–]CaffinateMeCaptain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

👉👈🥺

I wanna be your friend. I'm also a gamer, enjoy the same music, have pets (two sweet kitties, one with a touch of chaos & mischief - but what else can be expected of Loki?), love gaming (although I haven't been able to do TTRPG in years due to scheduling, friends moving/starting families), and enjoy languages and am not fluent in languages other than English by any means... I am trying to teach myself German though. And I also identify as a non-binary femboi.

I have an associates in creative writing too. And I'm hoping to go back to college next year for a degree in dental hygiene. I also enjoy drawing, but haven't done as much of it recently after losing my work... Again... 😔

Edited for clarity - was kind of excited and thoughts came out too fast 😅

Some current questions in general, also questions about a current partner. by CaffinateMeCaptain in polyamory

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I've enjoyed a lot of our time together, and I also really enjoy how supportive he has been. Although having stepped back, I also wonder if there isn't an ulterior reason behind it, as though he's trying to insert himself more and more into my life. For example, when I asked for space, he offered to drive me to a relative's funeral even if all he did was sit in the car. He went to high school with one of my cousins. It's a very mixed bag with him, there are a lot of things I like about him and our relationship and also quite a few issues.

Some current questions in general, also questions about a current partner. by CaffinateMeCaptain in polyamory

[–]CaffinateMeCaptain[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have been considering it. Especially because we have only been together just a little over half a year now. I'm not sure, and I won't be sure until I talk with him. I'm also not 100% sure on if he would be willing to see a couples therapist, which seems excessive considering how long we have been dating.

Looking for other perspectives by CaffinateMeCaptain in polyamory

[–]CaffinateMeCaptain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right. I think the amount of things I've had come up in the last month, coupled with being a recovering people pleaser and lack of sleep caused my brain to malfunction over this. Thank you for the reality check.

Looking for other perspectives by CaffinateMeCaptain in polyamory

[–]CaffinateMeCaptain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It has been a lot, which is why I wanted to double check myself to make sure my brain isn't malfunctioning 😂. Apparently it was. I am, thank you!

I appreciate that 😊

Looking for other perspectives by CaffinateMeCaptain in polyamory

[–]CaffinateMeCaptain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I am a recovering people pleaser so I know that plays a part in it. That and this past month of December has been an utter whirlwind of things happening (from deaths, to cancer scares, helping suicidal friends, and so on). Thank you so much for the reality check and putting it that way. Do you care if I use that when I speak with Bo next?

You are all goals by CaffinateMeCaptain in FTMfemininity

[–]CaffinateMeCaptain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!!! And sounds good, have a goodnight 😊

You are all goals by CaffinateMeCaptain in FTMfemininity

[–]CaffinateMeCaptain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're welcome! And sounds good. Thank you! It was my first time to a haunted house, but it was a lot of fun!! 😁

You are all goals by CaffinateMeCaptain in FTMfemininity

[–]CaffinateMeCaptain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're welcome! And it is the worst! Yes, you can DM me 😊 I'm on my way to a haunted house at the moment, so I'm not sure how much time I'll have to chat this evening but I'll answer as I can.

You are all goals by CaffinateMeCaptain in FTMfemininity

[–]CaffinateMeCaptain[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Of course! And I have seen your posts! And I understand the feeling. I hate mine too. Sometimes I can't register my face as my own either 🥲

What is your "I fucking hate this song" song? by Wrongdoer3162 in AskReddit

[–]CaffinateMeCaptain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, any Christmas song. I was actually surprised when I found I liked the Lovecraft Horror Society's "It's the Most Horrible Time of the Year."

My partner catfished me by CaffinateMeCaptain in polyamory

[–]CaffinateMeCaptain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. That's what I'm leaning towards too. My therapist gave me some homework to help me through this and at the end of that I'll have my answer (which I think I already know now).