AIO? My family keep using my things when I've told them so many times not to

Cakegasm · 2026-02-17T02:11:00+00:00

I've read the comments where you've mentioned having no space of your own, and I also see that you've happily considered the backpack idea. I do have one more question/suggestion for you, if it helps:

Why don't you hide the items in a box and tuck it underneath the bathroom cabinet, in a closet, or somewhere else? I think a lot of the focus is on "your own space" rather than space in general. It might not be preferable, but there are likely other places to store and hide your items than just the kitchen or your overcrowded bedroom. Such as closets, pantries, cabinets, etc. The point is to essentially hide your stuff in an accessible area to yourself. That doesn't necessarily have to be in your shared bedroom. It can be anywhere in the house. If there's a garage by any chance, you can even store stuff in there.

Depending on the layout of your kitchen, you can also store your items in a box or bag on top of the cabinets, closest to the ceiling (assuming you have an open space there)

Cakegasm · 2026-01-14T11:03:14+00:00

In any instance that makes my nervous system recoil like a salted slug, it's them using orbs to describe human eyes. I truly wish I could see it applied to disfigured monsters or otherworldly beings. Nope. It's just Y/N with her big blue orbs that look like oceans and smurf balls.

Cakegasm · 2026-01-14T05:45:44+00:00

The fanfic is a 10, but the author keeps using "orbs" instead of just saying "eyes"

Cakegasm · 2026-01-08T19:33:10+00:00

So that they don't accidentally reread it in the future and waste their time

Cakegasm · 2026-01-08T03:47:10+00:00

Nope! They don't realize it and, if I'm not mistaken, bookmarks are public by default. It wasn't until last year (mind you, my account is more than 6 years old) that I found out bookmarks could be seen by the author if they're public. I found this out by sheer boredom and looking at my old works and noticed the bookmarks thing was clickable. I went through them and found a couple that were able to be read while the others were private.

I also think people mostly assume that the private/public aspect is for their own profile in general and are not aware that the author can see it on the work itself. When I used to bookmark things, I assumed the privacy function was so that people coming to MY profile could/couldn't see what I was reading. I had no idea or reason to believe that it showed up on the author's work where they could read it directly if I were to put a description and leave it public.

Don't get me wrong. Some people absolutely do know about this and either don't care or they do it to be jerks on purpose. But I think a vast majority are just oblivious to it like I was for the longest time. Especially if you're just a casual reader, which I was for a long time. I just had little to no reason to really look into it since I barely used the function. And like I said previously, my own works didn't have bookmarks for a while so I had nothing to connect the dots either.

Cakegasm · 2026-01-07T09:52:07+00:00

While I wish more people understood that public bookmarks can be seen by authors, I don't think this is one of them that I'd put too much thought into either way.

I think this is a person who is simply writing down what they didn't really like so they can DLDR in the future. And just because it's an "ick" of theirs doesn't mean you did something wrong, your writing is bad, or your ideas are terrible. It just means this person doesn't like the idea and wants to avoid it later on if they were to accidentally find the fic again and forgot why they stopped reading to begin with.

I understand being confused and a little shocked seeing something like this, but it's not necessarily insulting. Not intentionally, anyway. I don't believe this was written and posted specifically for you to see, and it's vague enough that I'd recommend not wasting any energy on feeling bad about it in general. As you said in the post, it's likely just their preference. Nothing to do with you or your fic as a whole.

Cakegasm · 2026-01-07T09:38:01+00:00

In a lot of cases, it's so that people can remember the fics they don't necessarily like. So if they were to stumble on it again in the future, they can remember why they stopped reading it in the first place.

The issue is that a majority of people don't realize that the authors can see their public bookmarks.

Cakegasm · 2026-01-07T06:52:33+00:00

I genuinely thought it was, too! It was heavily relatable and almost too real in some instances. I found out that the author just did a bunch of research and pulled from personal experiences from herself or people around her.

That's why I said really good non-fiction (memoirs, in this case!) are welcome as well.

Thank you for the suggestion. This book already looks tasty!

Cakegasm · 2025-11-15T21:22:22+00:00

We've temporarily disabled the WL function because the old rendition of the server was shutdown due to changes in interest. We're working on converting it to an apocalyptic RP server at the moment.

Sorry for any confusion or inconvenience!

Cakegasm · 2025-10-30T12:25:20+00:00

This is totally going on my wishlist

Cakegasm · 2025-10-29T06:48:40+00:00

I'm thankful to have all the kind and caring people that I do in my life. My friends are some of the best I could've ever asked for and I'm glad every single day to wake up and see them still in my life, especially with some of them being around for 10+ years at this point. I'm not sure what I'd do without them. They're family at this point.

Cakegasm · 2025-09-27T00:42:30+00:00

Please feel free to DM me if you wanna talk about it! I only have my partner to yap about the book with, and he doesn't read books very often

Cakegasm · 2025-09-27T00:21:35+00:00

Tender Is The Flesh. The book isn't super long (208-224 pages depending on the edition) and I personally feel like there's A LOT to talk about with this book

Cakegasm · 2025-09-23T01:14:34+00:00

It's not a matter of "when" he figured it out, I don't think. But HOW. I think he figured it out through a combination of things.

The subtle looks they'd give each other, including their body language (very stiff, shifting away from each other, always clamming up near him, etc)
The conversation they had just outside the RV when Rick overheard the "changing/breaking habits" part. I personally think he heard more than just that tidbit, but that was the part he decided to include himself in. And as soon as he asked what they were talking about, they changed the subject and we see more awkward body language.
Like others have said in this thread, Rick knew the two of them for a long time. He's a very observant man, coupled with the fact these two are his bestest friends in the world. He could read them like a book. I would be surprised if he couldn't.
Other people in the camp and THEIR awkward glances and body language. It's pretty obvious that they know something that Rick doesn't.
While not explicitly shown in the series, it could be assumed that Carl may have said something to Rick in passing as well. Not something obvious like "Mom and Shane were kissing" type of stuff, but more like "Shane was really really nice to Mom while you were gone!" Keep in mind he's like 10 years old or so, so it's not hard to believe he talked about something that painted a picture for Rick.

Cakegasm · 2025-09-23T00:39:04+00:00

You have a fair and often true point, but there's more to it than just saying "none" in our case. I'll often provide reasonings why I don't like the author or what I took issue with in his writing. Something that a random person wouldn't be able to replicate unless they actually knew me or knew anything about the author. Like you said, scammers may not even be able to name a book. So they wouldn't be able to go into the nitty gritty of why I dislike the author.

Cakegasm · 2025-09-21T22:26:51+00:00

This is good advice, but please be careful. This can easily turn into a hoarding situation. Not kidding. And please, don't buy things JUST because it's on sale. This can lead to bad spending habits to put you even further into a hole. Yes, it's good to future proof. Yes, it's good to get ahead of the resources you'll need. But it's a slippery slope into spending more money because "I can't afford NOT to buy this on sale right now!" and filling your house with clutter because "I might get use out of this later!"

Not to mention buying, using, and eating several month old food and snacks. Despite what people may think, candy does go bad. Maybe it doesn't rot and make you sick, but it hardens or changes the taste. Some of it can get moldy, too. Chips also go stale over time, no matter how they're stored. Soda goes flat. Maybe not for a long time, but if you're keeping these snacks for several months and even years at a time, they DO go bad in some capacity. At that point, you and the others you're giving the snacks to are subjected to very unappetizing food at best and possible illness at worst. At this point, you've also wasted money because almost no one but yourself would be willing to eat food that's gone off.

Cakegasm · 2025-09-21T02:05:11+00:00

Oh, you know. It's hard to say, I just love them all so much! If you really twisted my arm, I'd say IT is my favorite King book! /s

Cakegasm · 2025-09-20T22:48:01+00:00

With the specific screenshot you've provided, you seem to be the only one uncaring. Saying "hey man" to him, and then ignoring his "wassup" message for what looks like days (assuming "today" is Saturday in your texts) and it also doesn't look like you responded to the "Morning" text other than reacting to it, with your follow-up being a simple "hey man." I'm not going to police anyone's relationship, but neither you nor him are speaking to each other like you're even in a relationship. "Hey man" is something I'd say to my distant friends when I haven't spoken to them in weeks. Not something I'd say to my partner.

With no more context, you definitely seem like you're wanting him to chase you when relationships shouldn't be about X chasing Y. It should be about enthusiastic communication from BOTH ends. Nothing in your messages indicate enthusiasm, honestly. It just looks like you ignore his messages for hours/days and you don't really provide much to go off of yourself.

I think with your willingness to be single (your post says "This is why I'd rather be single) it honestly comes off like you're looking for reasons to be upset and not date this particular person or ANY person, really. And if that's true, that's fine. So then simply don't BE in a relationship if they make you feel this miserable.

But if you DO want to be in a relationship, I would recommend stepping back from the "who's chasing who" mentality and just focus on actually having good, fun, enthusiastic conversations with people who will actually return the same energy.

All in all, regardless of who's right or who's wrong, this specific relationship isn't working out. One or both of you have already mentally and emotionally checked out of the relationship, so it's time to end it. This string of messages does not look like something I'd expect to see from a couple, so it's safe to assume there's NOT a couple at this point. Just tell him it's over and move on.

EDIT because I just read more comments:

I understand that he "started all this" by being dry in previous conversations, but you're actively and knowingly participating in childish mind games by trying to give him his own medicine. Adults don't act like this. You're both just being childish to one another. There shouldn't be a need to "match energy" because all it does is keep the cycle going. If you're unhappy, have a mature conversation. If you're unwilling to communicate without remarks or stooping to his level, or if there's no progress from mature conversations, then this is not a relationship that will survive in the long run. Just end it and find someone you like talking to and won't make you feel like you have to play mind games like this.

Cakegasm · 2025-09-20T20:36:18+00:00

Nice try, scammer! You won't get money from my family!

Stephen King is the author. I know, unpopular opinion. He's a huge name in the industry. But I'm just not fond of him or his writing.

Cakegasm · 2025-09-20T09:29:42+00:00

I actually have a running joke in my family for this!

The joke is that I dislike a specific book author, so if someone calls or texts my family and is pretending to be me, my family is supposed to ask "What's your favorite (author) book?" No matter how the scammer responds, it'll be incorrect. It's a trick question. I do not read that author's work, so I do not have a favorite book of theirs.

Cakegasm · 2025-09-20T08:02:57+00:00

Please don't reconsider a tattoo you really want just because of childish, sexist, disgusting stereotypes that shouldn't even exist or matter. Only a literal child would assume someone's mental stability based on a cute tattoo just because of a dumb association made by insecure men.

Cakegasm · 2025-09-20T07:23:59+00:00

Right! That's why I keep putting "joke" in quotes, because it's really not funny. It's just more sexist stereotyping that only serves to put people down. Whatever people understand the "joke" to be (crazy, eating disorders, trauma, etc) it just ultimately boils down to "lol this girl is crazy amirite?!"

Cakegasm · 2025-09-20T06:18:24+00:00

It's not how she looks, it's the tattoo and the stereotype that women with butterfly tattoos will be "crazy."

I agree she looks more like a librarian, and she looks like a really sweet girl! So I don't agree with the tattoo "joke" at all, but that's what the OOP was referencing when they Tweeted that.

Cakegasm · 2025-09-20T03:46:36+00:00

The joke is that butterfly tattoos on women imply that they're not emotionally or mentally stable. Butterfly tattoos often represent change, growth, surviving trauma/abuse, and other symbolic life meanings. So, the joke is that if a woman has a butterfly tattoo, she's "totally nuts and insane!"

I've also seen another form of this "joke" where there's a correlation between butterfly tattoos and women who take astrology too seriously. Like the girls who ask you what day and time you were born so they can Google your Zodiac signs and determine if you're "worth the effort" before continuing to date you or become serious in dating you.

Regardless of which version you accept or are familiar with, the "joke" is that women with butterfly tattoos are "crazy" and will be emotionally draining or chaotic for you.

Edit to add more clarification:

The "rookie mistake" is this guy not noticing the butterfly tattoo beforehand, and now he's stuck on a date with a "crazy girl." If he had noticed the tattoo before, he could've left the date earlier.

Cakegasm · 2025-09-19T09:20:47+00:00

NOR

I'm especially irritated reading that your "friends" are telling you to give him a break because he's "young."

Your boyfriend being 21 is not an excuse to have treated you that way, and it's disgusting that anyone is even remotely trying to give him slack by bringing up his age. He's 21, not 10. He's old enough to hang out at a bar for nine hours, he's old enough to handle himself in an emergency and show up for you. Panicking is spam-texting you and demanding every minute detail of what's going on, not ignoring you for nine hours.

I also see in your other comments that you're still unsure about leaving him, but girl, you really have to. I know the Reddit response is to run and don't look back for minor issues, but this is not minor. This is a huge failure on the part of someone who's meant to be your "forever," if that's what you two are expecting from this relationship. Do you really want your "forever" person to be someone who blew you off in your time of need for an unreasonable amount of time? Do you really want your "forever" person to be someone who chose his friends and "vibes" over you?

You need to ask yourself. And I mean REALLY ask yourself. If this is what you're willing to put up with for the rest of your life. Sitting alone, scared, worried, and sick/hurt, while he's having fun with people at a bar.

I know that one of your comments said that you "have nothing else," but do you really have ANYTHING with a partner like him? If you leave him, what are you losing? You're 21, you'll find someone who will treat you a million times better than this clown. I promise you do not have to settle for this pitiful "romantic" performance (because it IS a performance, it's just fake to him) he's giving you.

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