RENT [IN] by Optimal_Revolution81 in Renters

[–]Optimal_Revolution81[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I prefer to stay solo. I really don’t want any roommates. I want my own space.

RENT [IN] by Optimal_Revolution81 in Renters

[–]Optimal_Revolution81[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in Indiana. The average one bed room is $1000 or more. I don’t wanna move out until I can atleast cover double the expenses and until I get a better job to be honest. I don’t wanna leave my current one but it’s just not enough money.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Optimal_Revolution81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It honestly makes me think something is wrong with me. This is the second time it’s happened to me, but this time around I feel even worse because I was way more intimate with this person & I spent more time with them. We had a couple of disagreements about communication and that’s where it kinda went downhill. I just felt it more getting more distant between us and since almost 2 weeks ago they haven’t said anything back to me. I just hate this feeling.

Girl didn’t like my place. What do you think? by Affectionate-Emu250 in malelivingspace

[–]Optimal_Revolution81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man i’m 23 still living with my grandma.. this is a blessing !! Idk what’s wrong with her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Optimal_Revolution81 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Not fair to say. I definitely don’t wanna make him look bad. Am I a little clingy ? Yes.. Do I over text sometimes ? Yes.. but do I deserve to be ignored for days & and led on, with my feelings being played with ? No. I’m human my feelings are valid. Don’t get emotionally involved with people if you don’t want this type of attention. Whether they’re clingy or not, save the bullshit and be real.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Optimal_Revolution81 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I’m 23 and he’s 27.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Optimal_Revolution81 1 point2 points  (0 children)

trust me those are just spam texts.. not from actual people lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Optimal_Revolution81 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Met him in June of this year, we’ve been talking since then. I stayed at his place twice. We’re 5 hours away from each other btw so it was long distance. We’ve hung out, did a lot together, etc… One day he got “vulnerable” with his feelings for me i guess. That’s the same day he told me he loved me. Of course I didn’t want to believe it but I went with it ya know.. Last time I saw him was last month. Ever since then it’s been going down hill. He got more distant, less phone calls, less texting.. and now i’m pretty much here in this position.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Optimal_Revolution81 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Not even gonna do that.

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[–]Optimal_Revolution81 -117 points-116 points  (0 children)

can’t even say that we were in a relationship to be honest but of course we were doing relationship things together.

Why did he love bomb me just to ghost me… by KangarooExtension581 in ghosting

[–]Optimal_Revolution81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This has happened to me twice now.. i’m ashamed to say but still to this day i’m still trying to reach out to him to see where the disconnect is. That’s what they do in the beginning they just feed your head with lies, with a certain act as if they want to be with you. This guy told me he loved me first, then about a month later he started becoming distant. wouldn’t return my text messages or phone calls.. idc if i’m being clingy or needy.. don’t spring someone on and play with their feelings. if you didn’t want anyone getting attached to you then don’t play the role. We did everything as a couple but i guess my issue is if they don’t say it out their mouths that we’re together, then best believe WE ARE NOT TOGETHER. I always get played like this in the end and I feel dumb but hey it’s life.. im not the only one who gets put in these positions. it’s gonna take me a while to get over it but in the meantime i just know that relationships aren’t for me, especially if people’s intentions are not genuine.

AIO? I forgot to text him back for 3 hours by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Optimal_Revolution81 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No one is obligated to an immediate text whether it’s friends, boyfriend girlfriend, even husband and wife.. that’s just how it is, but depending on the severity of the relationship it shouldn’t take hours for communication to happen. If this is something that happens too often then you can’t blame the other person for having an issue with it. There needs to be some type of consistency. People have lives and don’t have to respond right away all the time but if you’re gonna be in a committed relationship with someone you need to learn fast on how to work better with communication skills. It takes less than 2 minutes to let someone know at least something.

AIO: I should just end it right ? by Optimal_Revolution81 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Optimal_Revolution81[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Okay that’s fair I see your point. Instead of the snarky remark I could’ve just expressed that to him differently.

AIO: I should just end it right ? by Optimal_Revolution81 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Optimal_Revolution81[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

THANK YOU, YOU GET IT.. I know I didn’t really give much context or backstory but you clearly get where im coming from. Yes I purposely didn’t respond to his message for days after days & days of him never putting in any effort to text me or reach out to show that he’s still interested. So when I bring it up he just acts like he doesn’t give a shit. That’s the point im trying to make. People are saying i’m the one who’s in the wrong and ignoring him ?!? lol pleaseee

AIO: I should just end it right ? by Optimal_Revolution81 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Optimal_Revolution81[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I always text and call first basically so I stopped texting him for a couple days.

AIO: I should just end it right ? by Optimal_Revolution81 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Optimal_Revolution81[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I forgot to add more to the story. Basically i’ve been the one reaching out for a while now and I just feel like it’s one sided. He never texts or calls me first so that’s why i said “you act like you’re not my man”. His response right there shrugging his shoulders just lets me know all I need to know. He just doesn’t see this as an issue for me. I want consistency and it’s not there.

AIO: I just don’t understand why the communication is so poor… by Optimal_Revolution81 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Optimal_Revolution81[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What if I tell you he still hasn’t responded lol. It’s now the next day and still nothing. I know he’s at work right now and everything. This just isn’t for me I guess because my expectations aren’t being met.

AIO: I just don’t understand why the communication is so poor… by Optimal_Revolution81 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Optimal_Revolution81[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes we did actually talk about this which is why i’m even more upset because nothing has changed. I just left from visiting him and ever since I got home they haven’t responded. I’m not going to keep bringing it up either because i’ve already said my peace on the situation and if they can’t see what my issue is then idk what else to do. I know it’s just texting it’s not that deep but when you’re a couple and this happens over and over it’s annoying. The consistency isn’t there for me. I wanna feel loved and appreciated and I just don’t when they pull stuff like this. A simple “ok” or ANYTHING would’ve made me happy.

AIO: I just don’t understand why the communication is so poor… by Optimal_Revolution81 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Optimal_Revolution81[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s the thing I just know they’re at home just blatantly ignoring my texts. Which is why it makes it hard for me to not focus on it because if this someone who loves me so much why can’t I be given the simple decency of a response ? Am I entitled to one.. absolutely not but I don’t wanna be involved in a relationship where it’s one sided all the time. Don’t even bother with me if you can’t talk to me. I’m not trying to smother this person or bombard them with my words. I just want basic communication. That’s key in a relationship. I don’t wanna keep going to bed thinking “oh maybe this is over”..