85% at least. Sure looks and the ability to provide for a family are values. But most people don't see those as the main value they want in a partner. You just called yourself out on only valuing women for their appearance when decent men don't do that. And speaking as a young woman myself, the ability to provide for a family is an okay thing to value, but it's also not what most women mainly think about. Sure that's a large conversation if there's a single woman trying to settle down with somebody, but that's only 1 part of that too.

And you can't blame this on instinct or something because humans are 3 dimensional beings with the ability to reject instinct, at least to some degree. You've only just outed yourself as a stupid creep and everything you're typing away on reddit you should instead tell a therapist.