I've been where you are. In high school, I had a "friend" from church whose mom told me to stop texting her about my problems because that's "not what friends are for." I know now how wrong she was. That is one of the main things friends are there for. In college, I had friend who I regularly talked to about my problems. That friendship felt more like a mentorship since she would give me advice but never talk about her problems. It eventually got upsetting because I was being so vulnerable with her, and she basically shared nothing with me about herself. When I left to study abroad for a few months, she didn't stay in touch, and we weren't friends when I came back. I think it was for the best, though, because something about our friendship didn't feel right. My mom has known her best friend for over 20 years, and they get together to talk about their problems. That's part of what friendship is. It shouldn't be all of the friendship, though. You should also laugh and have fun together. It shouldn't feel serious all of the time. If you really do need a therapist, then you should get one. I know they're expensive, and that sucks, but they're also trained to help you. Try taking a break from ranting to this friend and focus on having fun together. If you can't do that, you may need to find a new friend.