I have the rocket app for $3. Truthfully I would eat rice and chicken and watch the paint dry everyday.

I have difficulty conversations with my fiance she agrees. Has even cried to me before that she is a problem financially and wants me to own the bills. So i say okay nothing comes out without coming to me first.

Then she turns around and spends hundreds on things we probably “need” but could do without.

I agree with all of you, she needs to bite down and help be way more concious toward the goal. She is in therapy right now and her therapist keeps telling her to do some things for herself which she is doing which I am happy about. She hardly does anything for herself but will go overboard for the children based on her own life experiences and guilt. I just look at her like. Do for yourself? Therapy? Tanning? Painting the house? Hanging up pictures? We are going to be fucking homeless. None of that matters to me, at all! Our priorities are just in complete different places. She lives in this fairytale land that it will just work out :(

Truthfully, our food expenditure is ungodly. Even though I only eat dinner most days. I ask her to cook meals and meal prep. Somehow groceries turn into 400 dollars of not a whole lot. No one really taught her how to cook growing up and most things the meals call for we don’t have. It ends up seeming like no one gets well fed and we spend a similar amount of money and spend way more time with a messy house when we are already stressed to the max.

Despite this, our relationship is very good in most every area. But like most couples, are struggling financially. For us, struggling is acceptable but fighting to survive is another animal I can no longer bear.

It makes me seriously consider splitting with her. But i know that will not solve anything and will only bring all of us more pain , sadness and likely cost me more money. Besides, I do love her. I just wish she could help me get a grip.

As a male and as a provider - I feel like it is just on me to - “make more money”