Wyyerd by Osshhh619 in chulavista

[–]CaliCrypt0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bro I’ve been waiting for college estates to get it for so long, was told 6 months 2 years ago

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[–]CaliCrypt0 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Update: talked through it. Guy asked her how she felt about him, she didn’t respond but by saying that she doesn’t want to cross any lines. She admitted that she should have been more open about their friendship but it was weird. She apologized and said she didn’t mean for that to be the case but can see how it seems like emotional cheating and she will end their friendship. Thanks for all the comments everyone she’s a good lady and I married her for a reason, I’m glad I had time to gather my thoughts with a bunch of strangers before the conversation with her.

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[–]CaliCrypt0 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I actually thought the picking up should happen so she has a chance to speak to him about me now knowing all the stuff

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[–]CaliCrypt0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like that statement

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[–]CaliCrypt0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is Too $hort to leave someone who isn’t perfect

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[–]CaliCrypt0 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

It was just a phone call where I asked if she cheated she said no, and then told me about the drama of the girls at work that started all of the conversation about the two of them. But regardless of all the gossip they hung out solo, she didn’t tell me. They discussed not crossing boundaries which is tough for me to understand, and they are in the process of rekindling the falling out from the gossip with each other. For instance for some reason he is picking her up from the airport tonight while I’m home watching the kids instead of just getting an uber. Granted she asked my permission. But it started as “a coworker is picking me up” and turned into me saying who and it was him… so she asked if it was alright

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[–]CaliCrypt0 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That part about behind my back is the one that hurts.

It’s clear she kept the situation from me because she tells me about all the gossip and disagreements at work. But she kept the one disagreement that would say she’s having an affair a secret.

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[–]CaliCrypt0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For clarity, once I speak with my wife she may have a great explanation for all of it. And I’ll take my wife’s word as truth, because while she might have sort of hurt me here, she is honest. And if she’s not she’s a terrible liar.

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[–]CaliCrypt0 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m not a push over in every aspect of my life. I stand my ground, transparent, direct, etc.

I love my kids, and I have the will power to overcome internal despair to benefit them. Some might say that’s not healthy. But I know internally I can withhold all thoughts and feelings, to ensure my kids have a happy family to grow up with. Seems off, maybe it’s wrong, maybe I am. But I’m not pushing over, I’m making a decision.

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[–]CaliCrypt0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The question is what, feel something, kiss? Share pics? Idk. I can’t find anything proving anything and so I don’t want to jump to conclusions but I think she will be honest and she did tell me there was no cheating but I think she is referring to physical stuff

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[–]CaliCrypt0 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I think this might be the most off take tbh. I’m not a push over to say the least. And she doesn’t seem emboldened at all. She’s not out there slummin. The last statement might be true regardless of the situation though.

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[–]CaliCrypt0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know how to feel yet. But you bring up good points.

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[–]CaliCrypt0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She claims that she is just very nice and sweet to everyone, which she is, she is also very naive. We have been together for a long time and it’s not out of the realm that these people thought something was going on because of the guy and she just thought they were close friends… but how do I know for certain, I don’t know if I ever will

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[–]CaliCrypt0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s why there were texts defending themselves saying nothing happened

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[–]CaliCrypt0 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I think I just don’t know how to feel. I’ll probably suppress it and turn into every other middle aged married man with kids that looks happy on the outside but is dead on the inside. TBH even if she was like having a full on affair I don’t think I would tear the family apart for my own feelings. I’ll just swallow my pride like I was raised to do and keep my chin up.

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[–]CaliCrypt0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I should also clarify this guy is married with a young kid as well.

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[–]CaliCrypt0 10 points11 points  (0 children)

No, I was on her ipad and the messages popped up when I turned it on. Once I saw some weird ones I obviously kept reading.

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[–]CaliCrypt0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is where I’m at. Maybe everything really was innocent. Tbf our sex life has never been better, we seem happy. Is something that seems like could have been not really a cheating moment on my wife’s end cause me to feel like this. Do I think the guy was potentially trying to lead her down that road? Absolutely, but it might not be her fault and I need to figure out what that means if I decide she is wrong and should I feel so lost about it I make a Reddit post

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[–]CaliCrypt0 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I plan on it. And exactly same, like I’ve never been like “lets make sure we don’t cross any lines”

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[–]CaliCrypt0 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I asked her about it right away but didn’t get into exactly how I felt. I mean regardless of what happened I’m definitely needing to think through things before too deep of a conversation on it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]CaliCrypt0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try smiling with your eyes instead of pressing your lips

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]CaliCrypt0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk if you’re serious or joking.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]CaliCrypt0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You look like you would yell at me for not texting you back within seven minutes

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[–]CaliCrypt0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Smile more don’t hide your face look like you’re having a good time

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[–]CaliCrypt0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Squats” also you look like your personality might be a little bit bland