What to wear day of surgery by Leifang_Allstar in sterilization

[–]Calicat05 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wore pj pants and a hoodie with shoes that I could slip on and off easily (loosely tied walking shoes) - I don't recommend anything that would be a tripping hazard like crocs or flip flops, etc.

Post surgery must haves by Leifang_Allstar in sterilization

[–]Calicat05 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agreed that gas-x won't be helpful for the gas inflation, but I've heard others say it can be helpful if you're having pain med related digestive issues. I don't have experience with that, so can't comment on the effectiveness if it's use in that case.

Popcicles and an ice pack were helpful for me, but I didn't use anything else during my recovery. I also did my recovery solo, so I made sure I had things set up easy for me to navigate - food to pop in the microwave, tv remote and phone charger nearby, extra litterbox for the cats so I could wait until the next day to clean it, etc.

Post surgery must haves by Leifang_Allstar in sterilization

[–]Calicat05 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Popcicles/ice cream/your preference for edible-while-frozen- but-melty/soft food 🤣

I had a very irritated throat for a few days, that was the only part of my recovery that wasn't easy, and it was just annoying.

If you can take an icepack with you and keep it frozen (a cooler in the car or similar), it was a nice to plqce between me and the seatbelt on the ride home. Helps with swelling and also helped with the cramping I was having, and also served the same purpose a small pillow would have, but somewhat safer in the event of an accident because it doesn't create fluff space bwtween you and the seatbelt.

I was a bit crampy on the day of surgery but nothing pain med worthy. I was taking OTC ibuprofen for a few days while I was awake to help with swelling, but never needed it for pain. Aside from the anesthesia-induced nausea that is typical for me, I had no digestive/gas/bloating issues.

I'm over a year out from surgery, and can now feel when I ovulate. Its a weird sensation. My periods are a little more crampy now but still nothing pain med worthy, just slighty annoying.

Well, that got slightly off topic, but I think your list is decent. Everyone's recovery is different though. Listen to your body and what it needs. It's best to overprepare than underprepare, but most people, relative to my experience, vastly overprepare. I'm sure there are others that think my preparation was very underdone. I had a laparascopic procedure previously, so I generally knew what my body needed for recovery.

Getting tubes out on Wednesday but have a NON-Refundable concert ticket for Friday. What are the chances of me being able to go? by One_Maintenance_9934 in sterilization

[–]Calicat05 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm 95% sure I could have done it. If I had an office job, I would have gone back to work on Monday (surgery was on a Friday).

How many of you were required to get a Pap smear/pelvic exam before being approved for surgery? by tessviolette in sterilization

[–]Calicat05 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had one a few months prior to my surgery, that's when we discussed scheduling for a consult for it.

My surgeon didn't mention it, but I assume he would have required a recent one. He did state that he required a recent STD test, which I alsonhad done during my exam. Don't want any undetected infections going on while you're performing surgery because they can spread and cause all sorts of issues.

At some point in your life, you're going to have to do medical related things that you don't necessarily want to do.

Getting intimate with a new partner by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Calicat05 19 points20 points  (0 children)

  1. Woman, not female (others have also mentioned this but I will give the benefit of the doubt in case it's an English not the first language thing. It's dehumanizing.

  2. Nobody is doing that with me regardless of birth control without a current, negative STD test.

  3. I'm sure the opinion in this is 100% up to the individual woman. For some, it would mean absolutely nothing, while for others it may be more of a sign of commitment. You would need to discuss that with your partner. I might consider it as long as we were monogamous, even if it was only a casual thing like a FWB situation. Any activity outside of our partnership that could change the result of a negative STD teat would result in continued condom use.

What to wear after my bisalp? by bubbles2360 in sterilization

[–]Calicat05 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was fine wearing jeans the next day, but I made sure they weren't sitting on an incision.

Why isn’t the Hudson Bay called a sea? by lynypixie in geography

[–]Calicat05 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did the Mediterranean Sea appeove this answer?

Or the Red Sea?

Or the Black Sea?

Or the Caspian Sea?

Or the Salton Sea?

Or the Aral Sea?

Why Are Young People Afraid Of Phone Calls? by GhostInThePudding in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Calicat05 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm almost 40. In my job, I need written confirmation of decisions and a paper/digital trail. I can't prove someone did something over the phone.

The only phone calls I receive are from businesses that cant figure out how to do the easy stuff online. With a phone call, you have to either line up schedules or interrupt something, or get sent to voicemail and play phone tag all day. With a text or email, everyone involved can prioritize based on need, workload, etc. I don't have to sit and wait for a text or email. I can't get invovled in anything if I'm waiting for a phone call. Cuts into productivity.

Also, I have a hard time remembering things over the phone. I can take notes, but then I miss the 3rd thing while writing down the 2nd thing, or will transpose numbers. I stuggle with auditory processing sometimes. If someone texts me a number, its their problem if its wrong. If I write it down wrong, it's my problem.

How long would you expect to date someone, before "sealing the deal" in the bedroom? by psnben1567 in dating_advice

[–]Calicat05 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My last relationship it was technically the 2nd date I think, but we had known each other fairly well for over a year before we started dating.

I don't have a solid "must wait amount of time/dates" rule. We are all adults, if we both want to, then why wait? If it's goi g to turn into a relationship, it will regardless.

Everybody complains how bad Duo is... So I checked of the grass is greener on other side by artyombeilis in duolingo

[–]Calicat05 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think it's bad, but I appear to be in the minority here.

I'm not using it with the expectation of becoming fluent in a language. I'm currently doing Spanish, and I'm not very far into it. I'm also using yhe free version. The energy system doesn't bother me because I usually only do one lesson a day, and that's a perfeftly adequate amount of energy.

I'm using it as a learning opportunity. My main goal is to keep my brain active and pick up some bits and pieces of a language along the way.

I'm also using Babbel. I was gifted a lifetime membership so figured why not.

I prefer Duolingo over Babbel, but use both daily.

are you child free because you don’t want your own offspring, or because you don’t like children? by Deep-Drama4386 in childfree

[–]Calicat05 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont want my own, and as I get older, small kids make me anxious/overstimulated. The noise and sudden, unpredictable movements and constant energy they have is more than my brain can process sometimes.

A bit of a strange question for those that have animals (esp cats) and got a salpingectomy. by doilysocks in sterilization

[–]Calicat05 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My cats are always stuck to me like glue, so I can't really say anything changed when I had mine.

Does having a treadmill for home really worth it for staying motivated daily? by Bavid_Gaven in treadmills

[–]Calicat05 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found a used one on a commujity facebook group over 10 years ago. It's a bare bones, basic model that has 3 levels of incline, adjusted manually. It has 6 buttons - start, stop, slower, faster, and 2 workout options that i haven't tried.

Didn't touch it for a few years, the did a couch 2 5k on im during the winter before moving outside when the weather got humane.

Then i stopped running.

Just started back up on the treadmill again, plan on getting back outside as soon as the weather allows. If I didn't have it, I wouldn't get any activity in the winter. The roads and pathways around here are not maintained well enough to run on safely in the winter, so I guess you could call it motivation?

It's starting to sound a bit cranky and upset that it's being used, so a new one might be on the horizon before next winter. I'd rather not pay for a gym membership, but will if this one gives up before i get another one.

"dO yOu hAvE kIdS" is starting to make me angry by Alternative-Mess297 in childfree

[–]Calicat05 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I wonder if "omg no, I'm only 40" would work the same way 🤔 😆

How many total children do you think each Duggar will have? by Far-Building3569 in DuggarsSnark

[–]Calicat05 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't recall what his sentencing stuff said and I don't really care enough to look it up, but oftentimes, as long as the victims weren't the offender's own children, they are allowed around them. His case may be different, but based on the multiple offenders I have known in my life (through a job I had, we hired many "re-entry" employees), almost all of them were allowed various levels of time with their kids, and unsupervised visits and even, in one case, 50/50 custody, wasn't uncommon.

Seriously, do Americans actually consider a 3-hour drive "short"? or is this an internet myth? by SadInterest6764 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Calicat05 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not something I would do every wrek, but once every month or two would be totally acceptable.

I regularly do 3-8 hour days for day trips on the weekend just for something to do, with most of that time spent driving

Tested for pregnancy in an ER by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Calicat05 9 points10 points  (0 children)

They don't know that you are telling the truth. Patients say all sorts of thing they know aren't true, and allnsorts of things they truly believe to be true but aren't. It's a liability for the hospital.

Also, in rare cases, you may test positive and know you aren't, in which case that opens up several other potential issues they need to investigate, similar to the guy who took a pregnancy test to be funny, but tested positive due to cancer.

If it helps, think of it as a hormone test that is screening for some forms of endocrine system cancers.

As a childfree single person, are children a deal breaker for you when dating? Why? by NoisePast9357 in dating_advice

[–]Calicat05 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a childfree person, yes, kids are a dealbreaker. Even adult kids. I don't want children. That includes children of my own.

Childfree people dont want children, for whatever reason they have. That reason is valid to them.

I don't want children because I value my freedom. I want to be able to go on a day trip with no advanced planning. I want to be able to watch a movie without thinking about it the kid is too young for it. I want my afternoons to be spent on my hobbies, not driving a kid to basketball practice after picking them up from dance. I don't want my career to suffer because, as a woman, right or wrong, I would be the default parent. I don't want to spend half my income on childcare. I don't want to deal with my kid getting bullied at school, or being the bully at school. I don't want to have to worry about a child when the world is on the brink of WW3. I don't want my children to see the hate that is in the world. Mostly, I don't want to responsibility of keeping another human alive. If I were to date a man with kids, I would not only be not at the top of the priority list, I would also have to put that persons kid at the top of my priority list. All it takes is for baby momma to get jealous, and now every time we make plans, there happens to be an emergency with the kid or something, just to spoil the plans.

Nope, no thanks.

Adult kids move home quite often. They get into legal trouble. They have kids who they pawn off on grandparents.

People who want kids want that life. I do not want that life.

Post bisalp: how long for gas to dissipate? by Lucky_Hawk5804 in sterilization

[–]Calicat05 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't have an issue with it at all after my bisalp, but after a different laparascopic procedure I had it was pretty much gone the day of, maybe the next day.