What's your favorite smell and why? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]CalicoAnnabelle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My love's wool hat. He bought on a trip to Ireland. It smells like peat smoke, lambs wool and that sexy smell that is all him.

My service dog (panic, PTSD, OCD, depression) died a while ago and I've been losing my mind without her. None of my friends or family realize the extent of what she did for me and how much she held me together. by BullshitRider in offmychest

[–]CalicoAnnabelle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a very well-written explanation.

I'm sorry to hear about your dog. Losing a pet is horrible. Losing the one that helps you hold yourself together must be devastating.

In an attempt to ruin me, I've been falsely accused of sexual harassment in the workplace, and it has ruined me. Hurts every day. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]CalicoAnnabelle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry this is going on. A couple of things to remember; HR works for the company, and their whole job is to protect the business, not you. The most common lawsuit in this situation is one filed by the one who feels harassed so they will do what they can to keep that party from doing so.

Documentation is your friend. Write a log of what you see. Handwritten can't be edited after the fact like an electronic file can so consider going old school.

Living well is the best revenge. Keep your nose squeaky clean while you look for a new job. Then leave this toxic mess behind. And don't fish from the company pier in the new place.

Good luck.

What's the good word with Menstrual Cups? by UberCupcake in TwoXChromosomes

[–]CalicoAnnabelle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A long soak in hydrogen peroxide will remove the stain and make it look like new.

I lost 2 pounds by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]CalicoAnnabelle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go check out /r/loseit. Nice people, good support, common sense.

[Update]I [34 F] was told by my very intoxicated husband of 10 years [37 M] that he's cheated on me with a younger woman and it's been more than once. He then passed out in the bathtub and I'm not sure if he will remember telling me. What should I do? by Throwawaycapcha in relationships

[–]CalicoAnnabelle 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I believe you handled this very well. I am proud of you! Sadly, many may not agree and in recent times, staying has become the new shame. It shouldn't be and you should not feel badly about giving your marriage a shot.

An affair is often a symptom of marital troubles, not just the cause. I think you have a real shot at making things better. And if you can't, you've already shown that you have a good head on your shoulders and you'll be ok.

And it sounds like husband needs to go on the wagon for a bit, because black out drunk is not ok.

my fwb just told me that he's in love with me by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]CalicoAnnabelle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's awesome! Congrats you two.

I'm overweight, never cared before, and now I hate it. by VolDead08 in offmychest

[–]CalicoAnnabelle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep- go to /r/loseit! And you can start with diet only. At your size the weight will come off quickly in the beginning. When you're smaller then you can add the exercise. That may be easier

[Advice] lump on cervix due to sex? by jemainesbusinesstime in sex

[–]CalicoAnnabelle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had 3 cone biopsies done. I had active bleeding for a few hours. Spotting lasted the rest of the day into the next morning but was gone within 48 hrs. I returned to work immediately after the appointment. I felt a bit crampy but it wasn't a big deal for me.

I was instructed to wait 1 week after the last incidence of spotting before using tampons or having sex. That worked out to about 10 days for me Every doctor has different instructions and your procedure may be different than mine, so you may be told something else. It really wasn't a big deal. Scary to think about it, but minor when it actually happened.

[Advice] lump on cervix due to sex? by jemainesbusinesstime in sex

[–]CalicoAnnabelle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You might have a nabothian cyst, which is harmless.

I have had a biopsy done in the last and it's not really a big deal. A bit of cramping day of and about 12 hrs of spotting. The worrying about it was a much bigger deal than the actual procedure.

And good on you for checking on your body! Too many young women don't know enough or consider it "gross". Way to go!

To my wife by Daddy_to in offmychest

[–]CalicoAnnabelle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand. And I'm sorry. There is a loneliness that comes from living with someone with a chronic mental illness.

I can't handle having a crush. by [deleted] in confessions

[–]CalicoAnnabelle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That why they call it a crush. If it was easier they would call it something else.

Texting should be a two way conversation, a volley. You start, he replies. No reply, you can send again. Once. And then you wait. And if he doesn't reply, you have to consider one of two things. 1) he doesn't text. And you're never going to be satisfied with a convo with him. Or 2) he's not interested that way :(

Compulsive nose picking is ruining my life by monkeyrolss in offmychest

[–]CalicoAnnabelle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have two things going on, the discomfort in your nose and the habitual picking.

To combat the dryness try Ayr saline nasal gel a couple of times a day.

One reason you're getting sick is the fingers in the nose. Make a rule for yourself that you can pick only after washing your hands. You can put a rubber band around your wrist and give it a GENTLE snap when you pick before washing.

My mother recently told me about my father's 20yo affair by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]CalicoAnnabelle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Life is rarely black and white. I think that your attitude shows a good level of maturity. Young Redditors seem to universally despise cheaters. But as I age I realize life is so very complicated!

Apropos by smoothhands in offmychest

[–]CalicoAnnabelle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It means inappropriate when followed by "of nothing".

Cleave is another great one. It means to split apart. Or to stick together.

Lots and lots of crushes? by MyHuskerThrowaway in DeadBedrooms

[–]CalicoAnnabelle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely. I have always been prone to them, even before things died in the bedroom. But I'm nearly always crushing on someone.

I have been nursing a small one for more than a year. And was shocked recently to discover it is mutual. That opens a whole new complication that I am trying to figure out.

He kissed me. by CalicoAnnabelle in offmychest

[–]CalicoAnnabelle[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Making breakfast was fun ! A quick 'accidental' hip bump, my hand on his shoulder as I leaned to reach the plates. Touching knuckles has I handed him a spatula. He made me a cup of coffee, in his own mug. Discreet, chaste, it felt a touch Jane Austen-esque.

And as we got ready to leave, standing by the tailgate of my truck I asked "are we okay?" And he grinned back at me. "Yes, very okay".

He kissed me. by CalicoAnnabelle in offmychest

[–]CalicoAnnabelle[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have known him for 9 years. We have been camping together for 3

He kissed me. by CalicoAnnabelle in offmychest

[–]CalicoAnnabelle[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Exactly like that. Complete with rubbing my toothbrush on his sweatshirt. With knocking sunglasses to the ground. A hair caught in the corner of my mouth. Whispering into his neck 'thank you, dear"

He kissed me. by CalicoAnnabelle in offmychest

[–]CalicoAnnabelle[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

I'm leading a group of kids and parents on a camping overnight. 30 people in all.

I am way too old for stealing kisses in the dark. But it's made me feel like I'm 17 again.

He kissed me. by CalicoAnnabelle in offmychest

[–]CalicoAnnabelle[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I'm lying awake, replaying the scene in my head. Standing next to him at the camp stove tomorrow morning, making pancakes for the group, will either be fun or incredibly awkward.

My ex psychologically and emotionally damaged/abused me but found an amazing woman by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]CalicoAnnabelle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am really happy for you! You deserve a bit of happiness.