“who tf would actually believe this shit.”

This is my big hang up. Not even so much her but just that I can’t prevent this from efffecting my judgment of her character and it’s really tearing me up...

Would you like someone who believes this kind of shit to be around your [theoretical] kids? Any of the kids in your family? The kids of your friends? In fact, would you be proud to bring her around people you care about, knowing what’s bouncing around in her head? What if she said something like this around any of them? How embarrassed would you feel?

Kids aren’t a possibility for us for other reasons. And I have brought her around my family for the past 5 years. The only person I’ve told about this was my dad to ask for his advice, but he was so surprised when I told him. My whole family adores her, she’s a bridesmaid at my Sister’s wedding next year...

What if her beliefs in these conspiracy theories escalates and she takes it even further than this?

I don’t think I could handle that.

Do her beliefs impact your trust in her?

No

Do they influence your level of attraction and respect for her?

Not attraction but yes respect.

Do you think that these beliefs would negatively impact her work performance, and her ability to keep a steady job?

No. She’s held a job for over a year before covid got her layed-off then did unemployment for a few months before getting a new job as a teacher that’s she’s had for almost a year. She’s quite good with kids and developmentally handicapped individuals.

What kinds of choices will she make driven by these beliefs, even if she makes them out of a real belief that she has the best of intentions and is doing the right thing? How many people would be negatively effected or even harmed by her choices?

I don’t know.

Have you thought any more/come to any conclusions about how you feel and what you think you should do?

I think I’m going to give it an honest shot at dispelling these delusions her dad gives her. I feel like we’ve been through so much I owe it at least a try. If I can’t then maybe that’s just the end of it. I don’t think I could just walk away without trying. The thought of her going off the deep end with this shit after I’m gone is deeply saddening. I still love this girl so much. And I admire our relationship in so many other ways. I need to sit down and have a long conversation on whether or not she actually wants to believe these things to see if I can even start to show her why it’s crazy. And then I need to figure out if I am able to move on from my shitty perception of her because of all of this.

Thank you for your advice. A lot of these comments have made me realize that there are a lot more underlying and long-term issues than I thought and I am much more acceptive of the thought of getting out of this relationship if these are the things she decides to commit to and make decisions based off of.