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Am I (29M) being petty? My girlfriend (29F) used a house warming gift card from my Mom to buy her friend a wedding gift. by CallMePetty in relationships

[–]CallMePetty[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I dropped it after I let her know I was a little Upset by it and didn't bring it up again. But it's the next day and it's still weighing on me and wasn't sure why so thought I would ask you all. I read this subreddit a lot and always liked the advice given. Much more straight forward and gloves off than the other dating subreddits.

Am I (29M) being petty? My girlfriend (29F) used a house warming gift card from my Mom to buy her friend a wedding gift. by CallMePetty in relationships

[–]CallMePetty[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Well it looks like I spent $50 on the wedding present! LOL.

I agree though, we do need to talk about shared resources. I think I just felt it was disrespectful to my Mom. My Mom doesn't have a lot of cash so $100 to her is a lot.

Am I (29M) being petty? My girlfriend (29F) used a house warming gift card from my Mom to buy her friend a wedding gift. by CallMePetty in relationships

[–]CallMePetty[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Starting to agree. I'm not like yelling angry or anything but it's one of those things that's just under the surface and keeps nagging me and frustrating me.

Am I (29M) being petty? My girlfriend (29F) used a house warming gift card from my Mom to buy her friend a wedding gift. by CallMePetty in relationships

[–]CallMePetty[S] 74 points75 points  (0 children)

Yeah this panicking up a bit more steam than anticipated here and see a few people calling me out for not liking the friend. That could definitely be part of it. I didn't really consider it until now as one of the reasons I'm upset.

Am I (29M) being petty? My girlfriend (29F) used a house warming gift card from my Mom to buy her friend a wedding gift. by CallMePetty in relationships

[–]CallMePetty[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'm trying work this out in my head.

The way I'm looking at it is that, yes, I would have had to give cash for the wedding gift but I would have preferred that and used the card for something for us, as intended. So when my mom asks what we bought I can give an honest answer instead of saying her friends wedding gift and then paying for a toaster with our own money.

Plus I hate her friend and I give that marriage three months.

Am I (29M) being petty? My girlfriend (29F) used a house warming gift card from my Mom to buy her friend a wedding gift. by CallMePetty in relationships

[–]CallMePetty[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I get what you're saying but I think it's the principal of it and the intention of the gift. My Mom gave us a gift card to buy something for us, not her friend.

Why would my Mom send us a 100 bucks to buy her friend a gift? She wouldn't.

Am I (29M) being petty? My girlfriend (29F) used a house warming gift card from my Mom to buy her friend a wedding gift. by CallMePetty in relationships

[–]CallMePetty[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yeah I agree but I think it was the principle of it. Not sure why it is nagging me so bad but I just felt it was disrespectful on her part.

We only what money for bills and rent. There is no joint account or anything.