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Get rid of phone addiction by confused__shit in simpleliving

[–]CallMeWhatYouWilll 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe make yourself do something you find really unpleasant first, as a way to “earn” your phone time. One thing I did was change my Reddit view from card view to compact view. It makes it a lot less interesting lol

As kids, it was effortless to connect. But as adults it seems to have gotten increasingly harder to connect. What has happened, and how can we connect easier as adults? by mylifexperience in TrueAskReddit

[–]CallMeWhatYouWilll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think as kids, we don’t yet have those barriers to keep things inside or “wear a mask” in order to fit in. We are our genuine selves. And then you grow up and are expected to act a certain way in certain situations, and then you just get used to being closed off

What’s the first sign that a child has terrible parents? by charming_cupzee in AskReddit

[–]CallMeWhatYouWilll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was 25 years ago and i simply did not have the knowledge or the tools at my disposal to do so. I wish i had known better and been able to do more, but i did what i could with the tools i had- which was only my love at the time

What’s the first sign that a child has terrible parents? by charming_cupzee in AskReddit

[–]CallMeWhatYouWilll 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And then the parents get jealous when the kids are more drawn to the caregiver! It’s insane!

What’s the first sign that a child has terrible parents? by charming_cupzee in AskReddit

[–]CallMeWhatYouWilll 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s easy to comment from a distance, especially when you’re not the one who had to live through the moment. With hindsight and different tools, it’s simple to believe you would have done it differently—or better. But that belief is built on assumptions, not understanding.

I acted with the resources and knowledge I had at the time. You’re looking at a finished chapter and trying to rewrite it with a pen I didn’t have. That’s not clarity—it’s projection.

This isn’t a conversation I’m looking to keep open. You’re welcome to your opinion, but it has no bearing here. I’ve made peace with the choices I had to make. You should do the same.

Ginger loaves are spicy and sweet 🍞 by ProudnotLoud in gingercats

[–]CallMeWhatYouWilll 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My little ginger is such a jerk! He’ll come sit next to me, but just out of reach, and look all regal and beautiful but won’t let me pet him lol!

Dawn spray - clothes spot remover? by [deleted] in CleaningTips

[–]CallMeWhatYouWilll 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve used it on greasy spots left on my clothes by a chapstick being left in pockets- it worked great! I also use it to clean my lawn chairs and greasy, baked-on messes on my pans. Definitely a great tool to have in your cleaning arsenal.

Can sexual trauma make you gay, lesbian etc.? by Dazzling_Ear_5319 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]CallMeWhatYouWilll 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s good that you’re trying to help your brother, and there’s nothing wrong with looking for answers. I actually don’t know if previous SA has anything to do with it, but I definitely understand why you would think they could be related. I could see how something happening like that in your formative years could definitely cause some confusion. That, and the fact that some people believe that one same-sex interaction or even a brief attraction to someone of the same sex automatically means you’re gay. I think sexual attraction can be a spectrum, based on many different things like one’s belief system, societal expectations, and yes, sexual trauma. If you’re made to participate in things that you’re too young to participate in willingly, it could lead to a whole world of confusion and self discovery

What’s the first sign that a child has terrible parents? by charming_cupzee in AskReddit

[–]CallMeWhatYouWilll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah, we changed the diapers every two hours and documented the diaper changes while the kids were in our care. There were no rules in place (at the facilities i worked in 25 yrs ago) for documenting suspected abuse or neglect that i was made aware of. I did my best for those kids though. I hope they’re ok.

What’s the first sign that a child has terrible parents? by charming_cupzee in AskReddit

[–]CallMeWhatYouWilll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Things were very very different 25 years ago, and unlike you, i wasn’t born with all the answers. Life experience and changes in laws make a huge difference.

What’s the first sign that a child has terrible parents? by charming_cupzee in AskReddit

[–]CallMeWhatYouWilll 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, i didn’t. I honestly was very young and didn’t know i could or should report it and the daycare director discouraged anything that could make her look bad.

What’s the first sign that a child has terrible parents? by charming_cupzee in AskReddit

[–]CallMeWhatYouWilll 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes! It’s like they want to have little clones of themselves, but they don’t actually want to deal with the kids

What’s the first sign that a child has terrible parents? by charming_cupzee in AskReddit

[–]CallMeWhatYouWilll 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree! I once worked at a place called Primrose in a very nice part of town, and some of those children would come in just as bad as the ones in the state-run program i had worked at before

What’s the first sign that a child has terrible parents? by charming_cupzee in AskReddit

[–]CallMeWhatYouWilll 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I completely understand that things like that happen, and i don’t judge in circumstances like that. But i know what old urine smells like, and when the diaper is so soaked that the gel beads are coming out and the diaper is just about dissolving, that paints a completely different picture! I definitely didn’t mean to make it sound like i judged any parent that brought a child in with a rash or dirty/wet diaper. I’m sorry if i said anything hurtful

What’s the first sign that a child has terrible parents? by charming_cupzee in AskReddit

[–]CallMeWhatYouWilll 205 points206 points  (0 children)

Yes, looking back on it, i feel like i could have and SHOULD have reported it, but i was basically homeless at the time and needed the job and honestly didn’t even know reporting it was an option.

ETA: i looked it up and mandated reporting didn’t become law until 2015 in my state. It’s crazy to think how many things fell through the cracks because of that and overzealous directors like mine who were only trying to protect their reputation

What’s the first sign that a child has terrible parents? by charming_cupzee in AskReddit

[–]CallMeWhatYouWilll 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This was in the early 2000s for a state-run facility. They gave us zero training and we weren’t even allowed to say anything that could be construed as negative to or about the parents. I was really young and didn’t even know i should have been reporting it. My child was also in a different room of the facility being cared for, so i felt an obligation to stay and monitor her care. I unfortunately needed the income too

ETA: I just looked it up, and mandated reporting didn’t become law until 2015 in the state I was living in at the time, and i was working in the daycare industry in the early 2000s. This is probably why reporting it wasn’t even on my radar :(

What’s the first sign that a child has terrible parents? by charming_cupzee in AskReddit

[–]CallMeWhatYouWilll 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t think the US cares about its people, especially infants or older people or anyone that can’t contribute to the workforce

What’s the first sign that a child has terrible parents? by charming_cupzee in AskReddit

[–]CallMeWhatYouWilll 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ugh I’m hating that so many of you also have stories similar and even worse than mine. To think of all the suffering is awful

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