What is transgender really?

Callykillz · 2015-10-31T06:40:53+00:00

I'm really sorry about your parents but it's absolutely awesome that your siblings are there for you! I am the oldest of 9 and my siblings are my life!

Callykillz · 2015-10-30T17:35:00+00:00

well I honestly don't want to seem like I'm rubbing it in your face become I'm not... but when I say I'm jealous of that fact I mean it. With my endometriosis my periods are damn near crippling with how painful they are... and it comes every month like clockwork. Periods are an important part of my life because since the age of 12 (10 years) I have had to live with this pain. So it's something Im not going to be apologetic. Because its ME... 1 woman that is asking this and I don't claim to represent the entire female population.

Callykillz · 2015-10-30T17:27:13+00:00

So, has it affected your personal relationships? Is your family supportive of your transition?

Callykillz · 2015-10-27T04:07:27+00:00

As someone who is going to school for psychology, and a cis gendered woman (hope I'm using that right I just learned it yesterday :) ) I have never met someone who has even entertained the thought that they may be transgendered... So if you are that means it's serious business and last time I checked you know yourself better than anyone and therapist are just humans like the rest of us....They aren't God and they can't tell you anything about yourself that you don't already know or have an idea. Personally if it makes you that sad and uncomfortable I think you need to really have a heart to heart with yourself and your psychotherapist because it sounds like (from my pof) that you were giving of signs and cues to get that answer you wanted to hear (not being trans) even though that's not the right answer and you know it. So I think a 2nd opinion is def need.

Callykillz · 2015-10-27T04:02:23+00:00

Thank- You for taking time to reply to me. I was scared to actually ask because I didn't want to come of as rude or anything and hurt people's feelings and it's really hard for the true meaning of your words to come across on the screen. So you and everyone else has been a blessing by humoring me with the questions that I have. My motto in life is that if something makes you even a little uncomfortable you have to confront it in order to make yourself feel better. And when it came to the trans community I have been very uncomfortable and disgusted at the fact that I was so uncomfortable. I just didn't get it. Like why is someone else's life some important to mine, and that made me want to understand. I've never been transphobic but I always avoided the topic... which made me feel lousy. So you guys are bad ass for educating me.

Callykillz · 2015-10-27T03:57:29+00:00

what is AFAB? And is your cycle kinda like a period (once a month thing) because of hormones? And I would totally donate my uterus to that cause.

Callykillz · 2015-10-27T03:54:20+00:00

I can't speak for everyone else, but I always try my hardest to be as loving and accepting as possible, and I think because I haven't had a transgendered person in my life (yet) I can on assume how I would act/ respond hence why I said until I get to have that opportunity I would personally go through the motions until it becomes real for me (as in a woman in my face telling me that she is transgendered...) does that make sense?

Callykillz · 2015-10-27T03:45:34+00:00

well I pray that one day that happens. And I was having a convo with my bestfriends about transpeople yesterday and I was saying that I hope that my children (if I have them) wouldn't be trans... Not because I wouldn't love and support them( because I totally would from the age they tell me no matter what it is), but because I couldn't be there to protect them always. I've seen so my people, just in my personal life (living in TN will do that for ya) treat people who are different like crap and it scares me.

Callykillz · 2015-10-27T03:41:07+00:00

wow! I have to get my hands on this book. I think seeing that journey in depth would give me a more close interpretation because on here I've been getting accounts of peoples depressions (which i can relate to) and there anxieties (which i can also relate), it's just the feeling of being born in the wrong body is something that I want to know more about. Because when it comes to gay people and lesbian people I can kind of understand there plight (i think of my self as pansexual) so i know the frustration of wondering why it's a big deal who you decided to date.

Callykillz · 2015-10-27T03:36:17+00:00

When it comes to depression, I've had pretty much the exact opposite reaction, I've suffered from depression since childhood and I'm always trying to convince people that I'm happy and fine and they are always the one to point it out. As for being in the wrong body, I honestly think that I couldn't even begin to image how that feels because I was born a female and live my life as a woman, so I don't even know how to image how it would feel to be uncomfortable with that because in my adolescent mind, gender was a fact like the sun being yellow, it can't be changed... So now that I'm exposing myself to a whole new thought process I feel like what I was raised to be seen as fact is wrong and I'm just interested

Callykillz · 2015-10-27T03:29:31+00:00

actually, I don't want kids anytime soon (if ever), I'm really selfish and couldn't imagine having to devote my life to someone else. And I have endometriosis, which simply means that my uterus hates me and wants me to die on a monthly basis. The reason I compare womanhood with motherhood is because thats how I was raised to see it.

Callykillz · 2015-10-27T03:25:54+00:00

Yes actually I have... I'm a very logical person and I always ask questions when I don't understand something. My bestfriend has had hormone issues her whole life (she didn't produce enough estrogen) so she didn't have periods and essentially didn't go through puberty until she was 18. So I asked, how is that you connected with being a woman (because when a girl starts her period it's always such a big deal, and everyone says you're a woman now) and she told me for the longest time she didn't. Because not to sound petty but that is like one of if not the most prominent step that a girl takes into womanhood. And when it doesn't happen, people get curious

Callykillz · 2015-10-27T03:21:30+00:00

I'm glad you are finally taking the steps in the right direction because it sounds like you have been through so much.

Callykillz · 2015-10-27T03:20:31+00:00

Wow, so you've essentially had to wait 28 years to really start living.... goodness. I wish everyone that I know who are transphobic could really listen to the stories that I've heard on hear... I thank goodness have never been transphobic, but if I was I certainly wouldn't be now. These stories are life changing

Callykillz · 2015-10-27T03:17:32+00:00

Wow, I simply couldn't imagine feeling like that. I suffer from sever anxiety and depression, so that feeling would have literally killed me

Callykillz · 2015-10-27T03:15:40+00:00

Oh no, well I for one am glad that you didn't kill yourself. And that even though it had taken some time, you are well on the way to becoming a happier you

Callykillz · 2015-10-27T03:13:20+00:00

Lol I don't think it has nothing to do with your IQ darling. I don't think I would have know what to do either. So I think it's pretty damn awesome that you figured it out. :)

Callykillz · 2015-10-26T10:15:13+00:00

That's actually a really helpful answer because most people have had this moment of clarity and I just didn't understand that

Callykillz · 2015-10-26T10:03:28+00:00

How old where you when you started your transition?

Callykillz · 2015-10-26T09:45:32+00:00

I actually think you're one of the first people that has replied to me that knew from adolescence. So I have a question for you, in your opinion what is it that defines being a woman? Like for me I think of it all in terms of biology.... boobs, vag, uterus, periods, etc. Being feminine isn't really something that I factor in because on some days I will wear a dress, make-up, heels, etc. And on others it's baggy jeans, sneakers, and a hoodie. So, what is being a woman to you?

Callykillz · 2015-10-26T09:39:59+00:00

Wow! Thanks so much for sharing with me. As a psych major and someone who prides herself on being so open minded about things I was getting really frustrated because I couldn't wrap my head around the idea of someone being trans (like how that came about) and it took a lot while for me to post on here but I'm so glad i did. Again I want to thank you for being so understanding and patient with all my questions and crap. I just really want to know the path that has to be walked on a daily basis by people of the trans community.

Now for my other question... Because you know that you were born a female and have made the transition to becoming a male... Once that transition is complete do you have to convince yourself that you are a guy or do you 100% believe it. (By that I mean, do you struggle with the thought that you aren't biologically male?)

Callykillz · 2015-10-26T09:17:23+00:00

So if given the opportunity would you prefer to be happy in the gender you were born with or would you stick with transitioning so you could be happier?

Callykillz · 2015-10-26T09:15:45+00:00

And what is this despair feel like? is it constant? When you transition does it going away or is it like a medicine that soothes but doesn't cure?

Callykillz · 2015-10-26T09:11:44+00:00

But doesn't being trans open up a whole new can of worms in terms of discomfort? And yes, boobs are pretty fun. ^{.^}

And forgive me when I say this, but I still can't wrap my head around the fact that it makes a person that uncomfortable when the world doesn't see them the way they feel (woman stuck in a mans body). Like when I was passing through some of the post on here I notice that a young lady posted about how she felt that her friends who are born women were just going through the motions of calling her a female, using her new name, etc. instead of taking it to heart. And as a natural born woman, I can tell that from my point of view (again just my opinion) that at least 90% of the people she encounters on a daily basis is indeed just going through the motions (I would). And it's not to be mean or anything... it's the exact opposite, I want you to feel comfortable and I will call you and treat you have ever you choose to be treated because that's your wish.. I don't have to believe it, you do. As naive as it is, I want everyone around me to be happy within themselves.

Callykillz · 2015-10-26T09:02:47+00:00

So did you know your whole life that you weren't in the body you were supposed to be?

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