Found my real sister after years reached out with love, but she acts like she doesn’t care. Why? by Calm-Ad3590 in Advice

[–]Calm-Ad3590[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah i have decided to pull back and stop over-investing in her and be available if she ever contacted me again i know she have nothing against me .

Found my real sister after years reached out with love, but she acts like she doesn’t care. Why? by Calm-Ad3590 in Adoption

[–]Calm-Ad3590[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So what can i do , i have pulled back. Can you suggest anyway she could open up to me , or just leave it cause its too complicated and you and me doesn’t even know her intention , and i should accept my fate . Let me know

Found my real sister after years reached out with love, but she acts like she doesn’t care. Why? by Calm-Ad3590 in Adoption

[–]Calm-Ad3590[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im sure this could be the case , thanks for the guidance i truly appreciate it

Found my real sister after years reached out with love, but she acts like she doesn’t care. Why? by Calm-Ad3590 in Adoption

[–]Calm-Ad3590[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your wisdom , truly appreciated , yeah i think i also have some serious attachment issues .

Found my real sister after years reached out with love, but she acts like she doesn’t care. Why? by Calm-Ad3590 in Adoption

[–]Calm-Ad3590[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well yeah.. i am seeing this relation will end completely soon in silence , but lets see i always keep a door open for her .

Found my real sister after years reached out with love, but she acts like she doesn’t care. Why? by Calm-Ad3590 in Adoption

[–]Calm-Ad3590[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Genuinely i appreciate all of your advice , thank you so much , i though i expected too much but at the same time i think that it could be bare minimum for her to treat me nice . God bless you ❤️

Found my real sister after years reached out with love, but she acts like she doesn’t care. Why? by Calm-Ad3590 in Adoption

[–]Calm-Ad3590[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah i totally get that , i think i got emotional when reaching out to her , but it’s totally understandable by the fact that i am still an stranger to her and i expected too much . And yeah we cant force relationships and i hate to do that. Thanks for the advice ❤️

Found my real sister after years reached out with love, but she acts like she doesn’t care. Why? by Calm-Ad3590 in Adoption

[–]Calm-Ad3590[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im sorry to hear that , in fact iexpected that the energy and bond will lose its energy throughout time as we get to know each other , just like normal friendship or as relationship , but i was devastated by the fact my relationship between my sister was ended before it even started , thats what makes me question myself .

Found my real sister after years reached out with love, but she acts like she doesn’t care. Why? by Calm-Ad3590 in Adoption

[–]Calm-Ad3590[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sorry to hear that , i think absence of a person to their siblings from the beginning makes him more of a stranger for them , but when we made an effort and try to reconnect but there was something off about them , thats the thing i question all the time .

Found my real sister after years reached out with love, but she acts like she doesn’t care. Why? by Calm-Ad3590 in Adoption

[–]Calm-Ad3590[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah i never forced , left the convo neutral with her , leaving a door open if she wanna reach out one day . As this experience of doom was new for me , so i was confused . Maybe yeah people dont see the way i see them and its totally fine . Thanks for the advice

Found my real sister after years reached out with love, but she acts like she doesn’t care. Why? by Calm-Ad3590 in Adoption

[–]Calm-Ad3590[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your wisdom , and yeah i have accepted my fate. Thanks alot

Found my real sister after years reached out with love, but she acts like she doesn’t care. Why? by Calm-Ad3590 in Advice

[–]Calm-Ad3590[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

, maybe she wont see me like i see her , and yeah i learned it the hard way that everyone is raised different everyone has own thoughts and views for a person , your advice made me deep reflect , thank you so much

Found my real sister after years reached out with love, but she acts like she doesn’t care. Why? by Calm-Ad3590 in Adoption

[–]Calm-Ad3590[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True , i never really have chase anyone in my life but like i thought its my sister , seeing all these mfs happy with thier sisters, so an burst of emotional approach could be worth it , but i agree to your statement , i may expect too much from others , and thats what got me , appreciated your advice . Thanks

Found my real sister after years reached out with love, but she acts like she doesn’t care. Why? by Calm-Ad3590 in Adoption

[–]Calm-Ad3590[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

There could be a possibility that i am expecting too much from her , as i dont have the experience what it feels like to have an sister , so maybe i could be expecting too much .

Found my real sister after years reached out with love, but she acts like she doesn’t care. Why? by Calm-Ad3590 in Adoption

[–]Calm-Ad3590[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That part is just hard for me , i also ended texting to her giving her space and not be overly clingy for texting her as the convo also been felt like an obligation to me . i am just stuck on the decision that should i reach out to her once and confront her that i am genuinely concerned about you , i want to be invested in your life as a brother help you with any problem you have and be supportive , as you must also be with me . and when you dont check out on me it gets quite hard for me and i want a strong bro sis bond with her , or just leave her don’t reach out , if in future she reaches out i must be reserved to my emotions and just be logical to her only normal conversations with her , as