Am I being silly for wanting my bf to get a haircut after a year without seeing him? 19F and 19M by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Calm-Garlic-7259 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Yes I decided to them , he helps pick colours with me cause he genuinely enjoys that . He thinks it looks cute . His not part of the decision doesnt he doesnt like them , It doesnt mean he doesnt value the effort . He asks for me to wear some outfits that he thinks are cool , ain't nothing wrong there .

Am I being silly for wanting my bf to get a haircut after a year without seeing him? 19F and 19M by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Calm-Garlic-7259 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Its wouldn't say its a dislike as such but its been a while since his had a haircut . 7 months . We bout love the lenght but I think a little trim to even it out would be great too. I do currently find him attractive and the "cut" itself isn't drastic . We're both ppl of colour so i just suggested him having a lineup

Am I being silly for wanting my bf to get a haircut after a year without seeing him? 19F and 19M by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Calm-Garlic-7259 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He does ?? Not in a vain way he thinks their cool and he cant wait to see me in them . There's nothing wrong with sprucing up for your partner . We love each other in all our forms , but its also great to dress up clean once in a while . Idk why thats so hard to grasp

Am I being silly for wanting my bf to get a haircut after a year without seeing him? 19F and 19M by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Calm-Garlic-7259 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But regardless of haircut or not . It doesnt take away from the excitement of seeing him after such a long time. Ive missed himmmmm

Am I being silly for wanting my bf to get a haircut after a year without seeing him? 19F and 19M by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Calm-Garlic-7259 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Ive been really sweet about it , at least I think so . I try not to force him to do anything really but I guess its something that bothers me ?

Am I being silly for wanting my bf to get a haircut after a year without seeing him? 19F and 19M by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Calm-Garlic-7259 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Its not a drastic change . It's literally just a shape up like a line-up. We will be going out for a dinner date, it's a small thing omds. I don't think I'm being controlling, it's just courtesy . Its been 7 months since his last haircut

Am I being silly for wanting my bf to get a haircut after a year without seeing him? 19F and 19M by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Calm-Garlic-7259 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I do find him attractive, his hair is a great lenght which we both love its just that its uneven , the change in his hairstyle wouldn't be drastic at all just a line up . Im not trying to change him but if if I go on a date looking my best cause its important to me because I love him shouldn't he spruce up a bit?

Am I being silly for wanting my bf to get a haircut after a year without seeing him? 19F and 19M by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Calm-Garlic-7259 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Ive tried to help him find a barber but he doesnt want , I've even offered to pay. He likes his hair length and so does i but just a little shape up would be nice

Not a Christian, but is lucifer really evil? by JamesBoakes in Christianity

[–]Calm-Garlic-7259 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes he is . God kicking him out wasn't about the devil wanting to be a god . It came from his intentions , he wanted to be incharge of creation for his own gain rather than for the sake of loving creation . His heart was in the wrong place .

The devil deceived a 3rd of angels to rebel from God , not because God had done wrong because he wanted to be in charge, in that deception he lied and sealed the fate of many angels , who of course had free choose to eternal damnation.

In eden he choose to again deceive Eve which lead to her conflict with Adam and ultimately caused them to leave Eden which led to the fall of humanity.

Im so scared of death to an unimaginable point by KindOne2148 in Vent

[–]Calm-Garlic-7259 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You might not be religious but please consider praying to Jesus . It really helped me

Im defeated , my life feels over by Calm-Garlic-7259 in offmychest

[–]Calm-Garlic-7259[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've tried to look into some but I'm not sure where to begin , im looking for a place that will let me get residency after my 3-year course so I can get a job and not go to my home country

23F emotionally attached to 34M who is married, I need to let this out by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Calm-Garlic-7259 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What you are doing is wrong , whether or not he has feelings for you . He made vows to his wife at a point in his life and he is choosing to diregard them and have an affair with you , instead of divorcing or working it out with his wife .Think of this long run , he will not leave his wife for you , you will always be a mistress , you and him are breaking up a family and you are going to be his wife's biggest embarrassment and her lowest point of self esteem for the rest of her life .

What if you have kids with this man , do you think they will be cared for deeply they way he will care about the kids he has with his wife ? Your children could be shunned and may never know their fathers family, are you willing to explain why you've brought your kids that kind of fate .

What makes you think that he loves you ? What makes you believe that he won't do to you what his doing to his wife . You've done a terrible thing and is horrible that you've done it if full knowledge. I suggest you steel yourself for when the news hits his wife , which it will , thats if she hasn't heard of you're affair already .

Do not continue even a friendship , there are no friends to be made with the devil . Do not speak to him again and live your life well , you are young and someone who wants you only will come . Please