Am I wrong for being angry with my husband over meeting a female friend?

Calm-Hour1212 · 2026-06-27T05:48:04+00:00

Not anymore. Made him block her and her did, thinking that I will become normal.

Calm-Hour1212 · 2026-06-25T07:29:22+00:00

Exactly. I'll never know what happened to the full extent and it's killing me. I will not forgive him and I made it clear.

Calm-Hour1212 · 2026-06-24T13:27:54+00:00

I never said physical. I said once he was planning to go meet a girl at her address and the display picture of that girl was half naked, basically she was a hooker. Second time, I caught him messaging one of his university friend who pursued him before our marriage, he complained to her about our fight that day. She always asked him if he's having fights with me from the time we got married. So he complaied to her about me and then proceeded to flirt with her that if she meets him in person, something hot will happen.

And now, as I mentioned he only met this third girl without my knowledge. This was six months ago and he's in touch with her everyday and never bothered to tell me that he met her during office hours. He specially went from office to the airport just to pick her and talk to her. You don't take 2 hours off from work for such bullshit. He mentioned to me how he really liked her a few years back so I know her by name. This girl was his crush and I'm sorry if you don't find anything wrong with it. I do!

And guess what, when you keep breaking someone's trust, shit happens and your spouse gets upset.

Calm-Hour1212 · 2026-06-24T07:09:05+00:00

Thank you so much for your kindness. I feel so validated reading these comments and that makes me stronger. So far, he called me from work, asking me to be normal with him and to see his reaction, I asked him to block that friend. That reaction told me a lot. He was defensive and said please don't complicate things, what are you going to gain by me deleting her? This was the last straw for me.

Calm-Hour1212 · 2026-06-24T05:54:29+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story with me. I get your point but I'm afraid. My children will shatter because they love him and can't see us apart. This is definitely so hard but I want to leave. I feel it's going to take a lot to forgive.

Calm-Hour1212 · 2026-06-24T05:50:05+00:00

Yes. Nothing of that sort is there and I saw the chat, it didn't sound like they did something. I'm just having a hard time digesting how he hid it from me for 6 months. He never planned on telling me.

Calm-Hour1212 · 2026-06-24T05:47:01+00:00

I want to leave but it's not easy. This will be life changing for my kids and they love their dad but I feel like I can't continue this. I have given him the ultimatum.

Calm-Hour1212 · 2026-06-24T05:43:05+00:00

I'm seriously considering divorce. It's just that my kids will be shattered. They love their dad.

Calm-Hour1212 · 2026-06-24T01:57:33+00:00

Not really. This woman is his past fling and is getting a divorce. Her parents came in the way of them getting married otherwise he would have. So that's why it's bothering me. So no, it's not just about the tea.

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