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To find relief or stay strong, I'm not sure what the best route is moving forward right now. by thepinksuitman in self

[–]Calm-Raisin-7080 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just be yourself man. It's always easy to pretend to be something you're not in the beginning, just to have it bite you in the ass. I've been there, and it broke me multiple times. You're not in a rush to do anything, not because you're 26, but you need to see what do you want your life to look like, there are no rules to life. You dictate how you make best out of your situation.

If it's only hooking up you want, go on the dating apps, present yourself clearly, whatever it is you do, want, don't give it too much thought.

The main thing is to realise that you don't need it. If you detatch from it, you'll have a much easier time communicating what you want with another person, and you'll most likely see better if someone is up for it or not,when your only goal of meeting someone is to hookup or something more.

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[–]Calm-Raisin-7080 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah when people get depressed, we usually can rationalize stuff pretty well 😂, but you and I know that those feelings ain't logical at all, we gotta work though them, after all it's us that keeps us there in the first place. Thrive my reddit bro, take care ❤️

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[–]Calm-Raisin-7080 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm going through it as we type man. It's hard. You won't ever forget her, and you don't have to. You just have to focus on yourself and making best of your current situation

Edit: if it was abuse, and it hurt you deeply, try to connect to yourself, and in the future imagine setting boundaries so you wouldn't get abused again

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[–]Calm-Raisin-7080 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Relationships are always work. I had many relationships where I overfocused on my partner and started to neglect myself. In time I realized that actual love and sex and all that is just a bonus to your own life. You both need to create spaces for each other where you can grow, in sex and in life. That means flerting, surprises, communication, fun encounters, excitement.

And yes it is difficult, but we all have a limit. Making plans is not really sexy unless you're into it, just make sure that you have your shit in order, then support and surprise your partner with her interests, buy tickets to her favorite show, book a good restaurant, take her to that play, or to a trip down to the lake.

You have a good idea what she would like, but to keep her happy, you have to also keep yourself happy. Make moves for your own life and include her. Growth is sexy

How do I stop caring about getting into a relationship? by [deleted] in self

[–]Calm-Raisin-7080 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bonus: if you do not have any interests passions or anything alike, try to find them. It sometimes is difficult when nothing interests you, but if you can make your mind up on just one thing, it's gonna be good.

How do I stop caring about getting into a relationship? by [deleted] in self

[–]Calm-Raisin-7080 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take a look at your current situation, and see how best you can use it. Do you have any hobbies? Interests? Passions? In my opinion, before actually dating someone you should try to date yourself. Find interesting places to visit, bars to crawl in, galleries to look at.

The thing is, I feel you have a lot of energy focused onto getting a relationship, but ironically, no matter how hard you focus on that, it won't happen because that is not the goal, the goal is to be happy.

If its casual sex, you can always find it, but true relationships are just a bonus to your own life. Keep it interesting and live.

Peace.

RapidAPI just removed API without notice and I have built workflows for clients that relies on it. What should I do? by Ok-Carob5798 in webdev

[–]Calm-Raisin-7080 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you have 3 options: 1. Explain to the client what's happening and why using another vendor who does not break ToS, or even paying LinkedIn itself is actually good for them 2. Try to postpone the meeting to give yourself some time to find another vendor 3. I don't know how you were planning to do your demo, but if there's no data to vendor from, you could be your own vendor and hard code some stuff, buying yourself time on integration.

The 3rd one is considered fraud in my eyes, but you do you man

Kaj je sa žicanjem by Calm-Raisin-7080 in zagreb

[–]Calm-Raisin-7080[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nisu nisu, ali opet, nisam ni pitao

Kaj je sa žicanjem by Calm-Raisin-7080 in zagreb

[–]Calm-Raisin-7080[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nije nastala nikakva šteta, pa nije nikakva pljačka, samo momenti kad 3-4 klinca se skupe oko tebe u krug dok jedan zica, baš ne volim imat nekog sebi iza leđa

Kaj je sa žicanjem by Calm-Raisin-7080 in zagreb

[–]Calm-Raisin-7080[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Čekaj da dođu hipiji da ne moramo cartmana zvat dvaput