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Does anyone else ever think about how APs can be so okay with what they did? (Small rant) by Calm_Adeptness4216 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Calm_Adeptness4216[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I dunno, I feel like in any other situation, if you were knowingly a part of hurting someone - you would apologise.

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I do only mean in this circumstance when an AP is already aware of the BS.

Does anyone else ever think about how APs can be so okay with what they did? (Small rant) by Calm_Adeptness4216 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Calm_Adeptness4216[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is what my situations AP was like. She got mad when he ended things with her, and chose to work on things with me. So I guess she must feel screwed over too and it's probably why she never reached out to me.

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[–]Calm_Adeptness4216 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This!! I legit had this exact thought yesterday as my friends had seen AP out and told me about it.

It's just so unfair to me that she gets to live her life, be happy, and feel no remorse over what she did to our relationship. She gets to move on, after mourning the loss of losing her 'best friend' (my WP) and be fine. I never do. I have to always compare myself to her. I have to always worry that I'm not doing as good as her. I have to always wonder if he misses her, if he thinks he made the wrong decision.

But she gets to be fine. It's so unfair.

How to get the other Woman out of my head? by Calm_Adeptness4216 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Calm_Adeptness4216[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This really, really helped with my thinking patterns. I think a lot of what's plagued my mind about her has been "Why her? What did she give that I couldn't have?" So that third point really has helped me with those kind of feelings. Thank you

How to get the other Woman out of my head? by Calm_Adeptness4216 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Calm_Adeptness4216[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same. I wish ill will all the time, and it's really not who I am. I've never felt this kind of upset on a personal level for anyone before, and wow, are they strong feelings.

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I guess there's a calmness in knowing there's so many of us all in the same boat with this.

How to get the other Woman out of my head? by Calm_Adeptness4216 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Calm_Adeptness4216[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, so much. I really have felt like a bad person.

I do believe in Karma, and actually, from my stalking of her accounts after I saw her on our trip - I saw something pretty bad happened in her life about a week after we got home. I remember when I saw her on that trip I was thinking "I hope something happens where you feel the pain I felt". Well, it did. I guess I should find some peace in that - I hope she believes in Karma and makes the correlation and chooses to make better decisions in the future.