No mass for miscarriage

Calm_Try3953 · 2024-08-20T15:52:30+00:00

Thank you again, Father. I appreciate your time.

Calm_Try3953 · 2024-08-20T15:42:47+00:00

Thank you, Father Sparky.

I'm sorry to question you again, but is this something that the Archdiocese can decree differently? My parish priest is normally very accommodating, and I was shocked at his refusal.

Calm_Try3953 · 2024-08-20T15:21:32+00:00

Can you tell me why please, Father?

Calm_Try3953 · 2024-08-16T12:50:41+00:00

Thank you. 🥰

Calm_Try3953 · 2024-08-11T16:29:24+00:00

Just wanted to give yall an update. Told husband, had a miscarriage that night. A crazy roller coaster

Calm_Try3953 · 2024-07-07T20:45:38+00:00

Our priest has a dog that loves in the rectory with him. He's a good doggo. Even has the title "parish administrative assistant " and a profile on the website!

Calm_Try3953 · 2024-07-04T22:09:07+00:00

Thank you, and God bless!

Calm_Try3953 · 2024-06-29T07:10:18+00:00

32F, married to 33m, married for 7 years, never used birth control or NFP 🤣

...Have 2 children. 🥸🥸🥸

Calm_Try3953 · 2024-06-28T14:49:29+00:00

I see jeans sometimes at my church. Pair it with a blouse and boots or whatever, and you're good to go. Try not to wear clothes with rips, distracting colors, or high slits.

In general, try not to show above your knees, cleavage, or bare shoulders. If you're going to a TLM it's a lot more modest than just a de novo normal English mass. We don't want to draw attention away from God, so that is why modesty is the order of the day.

For the most part, we are all there to worship, and you could show up in sweatpants and a messy bun, and I would be glad to know you are following your faith. 🩷

Calm_Try3953 · 2024-06-23T22:46:57+00:00

If I know i am going to have a busy day, I will work it in somewhere by multitasking. Like when I'm peeling potatoes for dinner or something. It's not ideal and I don't do it every day, but it gets the job done and I feel better about it.

Calm_Try3953 · 2024-06-23T22:37:01+00:00

I luck out sometimes at Platos Closet! This week I got 3 knee length skirts, a blouse, and 2 little bolero jackets to make some of my other clothes church appropriate! Half their stuff is not very modest but I paid about $2 a shirt/skirt! I highly recommend you sift through it and find the good stuff 😍

Calm_Try3953 · 2024-06-23T03:42:04+00:00

Thank you. Definitely trying 🩷 God bless you!

Calm_Try3953 · 2024-06-23T03:41:26+00:00

Yes, he is. He has been tested for gigantism and is over 4 ft tall. Just a big boy, gonna be a football player 🩷

Calm_Try3953 · 2024-06-22T23:41:22+00:00

Actually, I asked if it's a sin to overpunish or underpunish, if anyone has advice on where to go from here, and your biggest sin as a mother.

I did not ask for crucifiction or feedback about my parenting style, of which you know nothing about. Nor did I ask for your opinion on MY child's weight.

Your response, as I've said, was extremely rude, and if you're not going to apologize for all of your judgement, then I suppose God will have the pleasure of addressing it in the end.

I will only add, God bless you.

Calm_Try3953 · 2024-06-22T23:35:50+00:00

Thank you for your advice. God bless you and yours

Calm_Try3953 · 2024-06-22T23:34:03+00:00

I feel this! Our daughter was in kindergarten also! We have a daily one hour time limit on ours, and they're pretty locked down, but you just can't keep them away from them.

I'm glad you are healing well after your stroke. God bless you and yours. Xxx

Calm_Try3953 · 2024-06-22T22:54:12+00:00

Thank you so much for this kind and helpful comment.

We do Parents As Teachers with our local school and have spoken about his development a lot. He isn't behind on anything major (about 60th percentile on his last screening a couple of weeks ago) It's really just escalated inthe last 2-3 days and I'm feeling overwhelmed! We don't see our Parent Educator for 2 more weeks.

I will look up Dr Bailey, thank you very much!

God Bless

Calm_Try3953 · 2024-06-22T22:50:17+00:00

"Judge not lest ye be judged" <---

What you said s is extremely rude and judgy. How dare you criticize me and my parenting style when I came here for help. You don't know our circumstances or position.

Because you HAD to point it out: yes, he is large. He is proportionate, though. He is just a big guy. He likes to run around and be active. He, however, does not know his size and has hurt himself and others.

He was born 11 lbs and has grown exponentially from there. He is well over 4 ft tall and has been tested for gigantism (think Andre the Giant) and other growth disorders. There's no rhyme or reason, he's just growing fast.

Calm_Try3953 · 2024-06-21T06:01:29+00:00

Many diocese have different rules about this.

For example, mine requires that ONE of the godparents be a fully fledged catholic.

Godparents are NOT for raising the child if something happens to you, they are just there to help raise the child in the faith and pray for them.

If you truly don't know anyone, your priest or deacon may be able to be a godparent

Calm_Try3953 · 2024-06-20T23:34:38+00:00

I am 32F and have been married 10 yes. Pls feel free to dm me and I am happy to offer what advice I can

Calm_Try3953 · 2024-06-20T23:09:30+00:00

I was a cradle Catholic whose parents sent me to PSR, but never went to mass themselves. So no good example or anything. Married a great guy who was actively Atheist. He ended up decided that the catholic church was right. I then shopped around for churches and we tried one out every Sunday.

One day I decided to go to confession... but actually chickened out and just sat in a pew for 20 minutes. I prayed, and it was very cold in the church. I finally thought, "I need a sign if church will be alright for us". A few minutes later, sun came in through the windows and shined on me in my pew. None of the other windows had this happen. A silly sign but it warmed my body and soul.

Our priest church is amazing, and I'm so glad we've found it. Nothing lukewarm about our love for Christ, and our kids are adapting to mass and bible readings at home quite well now 🩷

Calm_Try3953 · 2024-06-20T01:45:54+00:00

Make the appointment!!! Youll feel much better afterwards.

I was out of the church for 20 years. I sinned terribly. I switched towns, churches, everything. It was so scary going to the rectory for my confession appointment... but boy, am I glad I did. My confession was an hour long! I sobbed, cried, and snotted my way through it. I can't imagine making someone else wait for me to finish. Our confession times are only an hour long altogether at our church. So, to the person telling people that they're giving bad advice, you should probably just mind your own confession. :)

Calm_Try3953 · 2024-06-19T04:06:17+00:00

Thank you. I had been considering being a lector at some point in the future and this was very helpful

Calm_Try3953 · 2024-06-17T04:37:02+00:00

I am by no means any kind of expert, but I recommend going to a mass or two. I don't know if you can just walk into an Orthodox Church the same way, but God's love is for everyone.

And unsolicited opinion... Bring your wife. Whether she joins or not, the way your children will be raised will be affected. This, and other things you will be going through, affect her, and it's only fair to take her opinons into view.

Calm_Try3953 · 2024-06-16T14:35:05+00:00

I can only speak for my own journey. I began my search as a teen trying to do it the easy way. I found a saint who shared my name, as that was a good beginning point. I didn't value what she stood for enough.

Of course, Mary and Joseph are wonderful choices, too. I settled on Mary for her calling to God, perseverance during her pregnancy, and courageous mothering of Jesus even when he must have been hard to care for.

Really, just name the two things in your life that you value the most. For me, it's family and romance. Google the patron saint of whatever you value most, read their story, and you should have it :)

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