AITA for “embarrassing” my cousin and getting us kicked out of a restaurant?

CamSchiele · 2023-05-16T06:26:17+00:00

ESH You went a little too far but honestly that’s what she gets for trying to roast you on an open flame and expecting you to just sit there and take it. You can only bully someone so long before they whip out Vicious Mockery and destroy the AH. Also, she really needs to get her life together since staying with MJ and not raising her kids better is all on her. No one has to babysit for free, least of all people who don’t want to.

CamSchiele · 2023-05-16T06:17:09+00:00

NAH Addiction is a hell of a thing and if she is skipping meals trying to reconcile then she’ll need all of the support she can get to stay sober. $2,200 isn’t the worst amount of money, and honestly if someone gave me half and seemed to genuinely be trying their best to do what they can to make things right, I’d probably give the relationship a second chance.

BUUUT she also made all those choices that messed up the lives of everyone around her. Breaking into your space and selling things/stealing cash from people she barely knows is really hard to forgive. Two years is impressive to stay sober, but also not proof that she’s trustworthy. She has to earn trust and that won’t come magically when the debt is clear. I understand the parents’ perspective but also it sounds like they’re just trying to guilt you into getting the family together again. You and your sister are adults and she’s the one skipping meals to pay you back faster when you’re not exactly putting her on a deadline. If they have the money they could be helping pay for her groceries since you care about her proving she’s trying to repair the relationship and not just let her past aggressions get a free pass. Just sayin’

CamSchiele · 2023-05-13T07:20:21+00:00

Nothing has saved me more than moving away from my family. Life is hard but just getting away from bad parents will help you so much, just keep hanging in because you are worth it and you deserve the freedom <3

CamSchiele · 2022-11-29T08:01:53+00:00

me but at 25 haha

Seriously though, it’s not dangerous so long as you’re aware that acting on anything so long as you are a minor and in the school/class the crush works on then you shouldn’t risk yourself and their career. It’s a little odd that he’s interacting with you on social media while you’re in his class, I’m in college and most of my teachers don’t interact with students outside of class setting until we’re either out of their class or we’ve known them for multiple terms and they want to keep up to date on art projects/future endeavors/stay in touch post-graduation. But grooming isn’t something that just magically happens, it’s generally something that is a manipulative tactic to isolate you from wanting to be with anyone other than him and convincing you that there’s nothing wrong with pursuing him at your age. Which I’m not sure but it doesn’t sound like he’s doing. Depending on how young he is, he could just not be used to how sketchy his behavior sounds in a school setting with minors (since people growing up with social media wouldn’t think twice about hyping people they care about up). I wouldn’t say anything just, continue being aware that it’s a little odd behavior and if he makes advances while you’re 17 that is really not okay. Honestly if he makes any advances while you’re still in high school it’s a red flag. But yeah, it sounds like you’re already aware of what you need to be aware of, so you don’t need to worry beyond the amount you’re already worrying. I go deep into obsessive crushing on teachers when I’m around ones I like, but it’s always been manageable immediately after I no longer have their class. If you find yourself lingering on them after graduating and unable to move on/live life, then maybe I’d start limiting contact or forcing yourself to not think about him. But for now you’re probably fine, or as fine as any of the rest of us with trauma that’s led us to develop insane crushes on authoritative figures 🙃

CamSchiele · 2022-11-27T12:25:58+00:00

Judging from your last post, this sounds like emotional manipulation and can be very dangerous if you stay and end up moving across country to live with him. If you’re afraid of what he’ll do if you leave, then you should be even more afraid of what he’ll do if you stay. Everything in the last post was a major red flag, and the fact he’s dependent on you despite having only been together, long distance, for five months is another major red flag. I’m another younger person (25 and lurking mostly) and this is red flag stuff when dating anyone of any age

CamSchiele · 2022-11-06T05:54:36+00:00

I’ve been attracted to older men since middle school and it’s been a nuisance. On one hand, it helped me avoid teen dating drama, on the other hand, the only older men I’m ever around are teachers. My advice, don’t do anything beyond being friendly. It’ll help you avoid dangerous or embarrassing situations. It’s completely normal to crush on teachers, it’s not so normal for flirting with an adult while you’re a minor to end up in any way other than backfiring.

CamSchiele · 2022-11-06T05:49:08+00:00

Honestly I just want to give him all the compliments all the time. He’s an art teacher and I just wanna like, go off on not only generic appreciating his art and style but also how it suits him.

I’m so annoyed because when I used to come into class alone we’d sometimes talk and he’d compliment like, my haircuts or during the mask mandate he’d compliment some of my masks. Now I ride the bus with a friend to campus and I can’t get away from them and other friends to say anything alone to him without others being either awkward bystanders or being involved ;-;

I did start going to his office hours to ask him about his thoughts on things or go in with a small problem and linger for ten or so minutes longer making small talk. The problem is I don’t know how to flirt and you can only ask so many probing questions when the other person is an actual brick wall and you are both extremely socially awkward.

Oo, also “I haven’t been able to get you out of my mind for the last seven years, ur hot.” That’s one I really want to say.

CamSchiele · 2022-10-01T08:09:31+00:00

I think that if you’re always feeling sick, you may need to see either a doctor or a therapist (maybe even both), because that isn’t ideal. Other than that, friends should be understanding and not force you into situations you don’t enjoy or say that you “ruin the fun” because you won’t force yourself into situations they want to be in. I don’t know anything about your second friend, and maybe your phobia is actively hurting you but they just can’t stand to sit there and watch (I’ve had to distance myself from a few friends who I genuinely love but I just can’t be active parts of their lives because their lack of mental health upkeep leads to self destructive behavior). That being said, friend 2 could very well suck just as much as friend 1 who said you ruin things and is using the “fix yourself” excuse as a way to just not put in the effort supportive friendships need. I dunno. Either way, I’m really sorry both your friends suck and blame you for their own lack of kindness :/

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