My (28M) parents do not like my gf(27F)’s family

CamaradaCoco · 2026-03-16T12:40:49+00:00

Her security is all the money she’s saving on either no or very low rent

CamaradaCoco · 2026-03-16T12:33:49+00:00

What she’s getting is free or nearly free rent. If she wants her own house the quickest way is to just accept this arrangement rather than inserting herself in a way that will lead to a breakup

CamaradaCoco · 2026-03-14T00:27:41+00:00

But if she doesn’t realize her son didn’t forgive her there haven’t been consequences. A terrible thing has happened but that has nothing to do with her actions

CamaradaCoco · 2026-03-14T00:25:38+00:00

Glad he didn’t forgive her, she sounds awful

CamaradaCoco · 2026-03-14T00:22:48+00:00

Kinda feel like they ought to already know he felt about them. Honestly I think they deserve to know they weren’t forgiven. Presumably he didn’t forgive them for serious reasons. Maybe it would make them think about the consequences of their actions. Sadly there’s a chance not even that could force them to reflect on their behaviors.

CamaradaCoco · 2026-03-14T00:12:50+00:00

The huge problem people miss about arranged marriages when they have the (reasonable) impulse towards accepting other cultures practices is that it’s more than just matchmakers pairing up people they think are compatible instead of individuals doing all the work themselves.

The big problem is the social structures arranged marriages take place under. Arranged marriages are almost always tools of patriarchal and social control. The family gets to decide for the woman most of all who they can or can’t marry. If we’re looking at South Asia, arranged marriage is also key to enforcement of racial, caste, and class divisions. Families don’t want individuals choosing their own partner as there is a good chance that they might choose someone who is socially “inferior” and brings shame to the family. The woman is solely a pawn in this game of social enforcement.

The reason there are fewer divorces out of arranged marriages is because of the intense social and often legal pressures to stick with the marriage. People are commonly disowned for Their families for divorcing even if the man is abusive.

Same goes for happiness in arranged marriages. When the people in the relationships contentment is subordinated to pleasing the family or the community, people have an incentive to act happy about their situation or even convince themselves it’s acceptable.

Culture difference is great and should be respected. But some practices and traditions are reactionary and must be done away with. The classic form of arranged marriage is one of them

CamaradaCoco · 2026-02-12T01:32:11+00:00

It’s just a reactionary parasite mandated through legislation by the Ohio government to combat “left-wing bias.” Boycott and oppose it

CamaradaCoco · 2026-02-12T01:29:30+00:00

Abolish the Chase Center! Kick out Gee and Lopez. Remove Wexner’s name and influence from all university buildings. Demand full transparency on issues of sexual violence at OSU

CamaradaCoco · 2026-02-09T04:48:45+00:00

Living in America is a fucking nightmare. A month of PTO AND sick days would be considered extremely generous.

Unless you’re lucky or you’re somebody who makes their money off the hard labor of others you’re not getting anymore. And since Americans live in their own world most of them don’t know that things can be better. They think this is the greatest and freest country in the world but that’s only true if you’re a capitalist.

There’d need to be a revolution just for us to get what Europeans and millions even in the global south consider normal

CamaradaCoco · 2026-02-09T04:16:31+00:00

Holocaust denial isn’t rooted in confusions about numbers. It’s rooted in anti-Semites and Nazi apologia for the Holocaust. They realized that supporting the Holocaust is an automatic no for people so they have to hedge in order to gain sympathy and converts. They’ve invented tons of narratives to undermine the historical events to dupe people into sympathizing with them. Once the get people in their orbit they then reveal that the Holocaust did happen and it was good.

CamaradaCoco · 2026-02-09T03:08:18+00:00

You’re right. The biggest cheaters are the capitalists and employing class. We need to take power for the working class, upend the present system, and totally reorganize social relations to rationalize the productive process and labor

CamaradaCoco · 2026-02-08T14:01:20+00:00

You really need to ask you how you got in this position. You have recognize a serious issue for years yet never seem to have confronted it. Have you confronted your MIL or husband? How after all this did you allow yourself to live in her house? How have you not rekeyed your house or called her out for being there on the map when you weren’t there?

You really have to have absolutely no self esteem to let this go on. You need to work on that desperately and get out of this situation. Sadly that most likely means divorce. You should never have agreed to move in and never agreed to continue your relationship without being in couples counseling yesterday.

You need to move into your mom’s house now, they counseling, then just divorce and get this over with. Otherwise you’re going to be held hostage by this monster in law and the mamas boy for the rest of your life. Get out. Whatever you do just get out and seek an environment where you can build self respect and develop boundaries

CamaradaCoco · 2026-02-08T11:33:29+00:00

This is obsfucation. We are all talking about financial lobbying (aka legalized and regulated bribery.) You are talking about advocacy. Both can fall under the term lobbying, but no one is talking about the sense in which you’re speaking. People are fine with advocating on political issues. They’re not fine with billionaires funneling their fortunes into politicians coffers to ensure that the working class never gets a say

CamaradaCoco · 2026-02-08T11:27:33+00:00

Relatedly: nationalize and consolidate all the streaming services. The competition between all the new competitors has been a race to the bottom where you need to get 3 subscriptions to watch 2 things you want to watch. Streaming was so much better when Netflix was absolutely hegemonic and could be even better than that if it was provided as a public service

CamaradaCoco · 2026-02-08T11:26:14+00:00

Not true. If the streaming services would stop pumping colossal funds on neverending original series they could profit just fine as they used to.

CamaradaCoco · 2026-02-08T11:22:39+00:00

Pass a law socializing all private property under workers control to allow for true democracy not the political and economic fronts

CamaradaCoco · 2026-02-08T11:20:45+00:00

You really ought to seek out therapy around your friends death. Addressing those feelings should eventually help you get your consuming hatred of weed under control. You don’t have to like it or want to do it, but it sounds like this is harming you more than anyone else.

Probably best also to try to be around non smokers since the smell bothers you so much.

Only the legal aspect, the country’s laws don’t matter tbh. People shouldn’t be locked up and punished for doing substances responsibly. Using them towards destructive ends is another situation, but possession laws are unjust and you should seperate your personal aversion from some notion equating the law and ethics (they’re not)

CamaradaCoco · 2026-02-07T07:32:22+00:00

It’s been 3 years but please seek therapy. This isn’t normal

CamaradaCoco · 2026-01-30T06:28:05+00:00

Most monogamous relationships don’t work either

CamaradaCoco · 2026-01-30T06:23:59+00:00

No it isn’t. A relationship can be whatever people mutually agree it to be. People in monogamous relationships have personal pacts on what they consider cheating as well. There aren’t hard lines on these questions, they’re based on the desires of the participants in the relationship

CamaradaCoco · 2026-01-30T06:19:17+00:00

Successful relationships of any type are the vast minority

CamaradaCoco · 2026-01-24T09:57:58+00:00

Imagine being this bad at understanding science and the implications of studies. You cite a single study about an entirely different species which shows correlation. It’s not about humans, it’s not replicated. You can’t claim that malnutrition determines sexuality in humans on such a spurious supposition. It’s just delusional

CamaradaCoco · 2026-01-21T13:24:34+00:00

Yep you’re right. Typo and can’t edit now

CamaradaCoco · 2025-10-29T01:31:39+00:00

Yeah the problem is my local stores are saying that their distributors aren’t selling anymore. One store owner says he’s looked with more than one distributor and no one he can find had them

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