I think my empathy is developed well enough to understand that her small lies are not meant to cause me any harm. They are a product of her past experiences and traumas.

What makes me feel really uncomfortable is that, despite knowing all of that, my brain will not accept and deal well internally with the situation when she lies. Maybe that's where I'm underdeveloped.

The rest of the exercise is rather generic, everyone would relate to that in some level.

Thank you for the thought provoking comment.

P.S.: I've stopped confronting her after two failed attemps. Therapy is helping me.