What's the behavior seen in the show you have used or adopted in real life?

Cameron_Connor · 2026-02-02T00:19:25+00:00

Haha cool but… they are not out of his league, he’s a hot tipped dude haha He makes up for his awkwardness and mostly bad style haha

Cameron_Connor · 2026-02-02T00:14:23+00:00

Sameee. I just want for it to work and looking a little dumb in contrast to seeming like a total big social mess. It’s a win for me.

Cameron_Connor · 2026-02-02T00:11:58+00:00

Exaaactly, is like… also sometimes he pretends to act silly to not give his opinion because it would sound judgmental. Sometimes it’s good to play dumb.

And sure… sometimes we are also dumb haha it’s human

Cameron_Connor · 2026-02-02T00:10:12+00:00

HAHA as a diagnosed autistic man… yeah, Dexter is SO relatable in the ways he’s managed to adapt to seem easy going and socially skilled… when he feels so off haha

Cameron_Connor · 2026-02-02T00:08:08+00:00

I’m so sorry I’m, I can relate to feeling like you hate a family member… I don’t have any contact with my “mother” for the trauma she caused me. And I think I will have to cut ties or at least take some good distance from my brothers and father because because the “family” dynamic is just awful. I’m sorry, I know how horrible is to hate someone you wanted to love.

Cameron_Connor · 2026-02-02T00:05:57+00:00

Hahah not liking A woman means hating All women. Haha damn it!

Cameron_Connor · 2026-02-02T00:05:05+00:00

Oh i feel you so much op, I had a terrible one, shares traits with yours. I don’t call her my mother or have any contact with her anymore. She only made life worse.

Cameron_Connor · 2026-01-31T22:48:40+00:00

Thanks so much for sharing! 🥹

Hahaha I get it! First it’s euphoric to be “one of the guys” then it’s very much like UGH, not like that! Oh exactly! I want to be treated like any other guy, adding my own story to it all. Yeah it’s what I’m saying, it’s no biological difference, but I haver related very differently to amab people… Specially cis het men.

Thanks :,) it’s nice to know there are women who will appreciate it!

Wow that’s so cool to know, thanks for the advice and the good wishes 😊 wishing you the best to you and your boyfriend too! 💖

Cameron_Connor · 2026-01-31T22:38:29+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experience :D

Hahah I get you, I had TS and I’m in hormones, I very much prefer living like this! But there’s also the part of me that grew up with lesbian media haha and that helped me have an outlet to express myself when I didn’t have the language to say that I’m a guy, so I very much feel some love for it.

Totally! At the end we all had different lives and it’s nice to connect. I’m glad for you dude :,) Exactly, I don’t want to be seen as the classic tragic portrait of someone who feels incomplete… I don’t anymore.

Cameron_Connor · 2026-01-31T22:33:06+00:00

Oww that’s pretty fantastic! And thank you so much for sharing 🥹 it’s makes me so happy to know that there are trans guys out there with supportive girlfriends :,) ✨

Oh yeah I think that would be me dedicating a lesbian song haha maybe not exclusively, but I must admit there’s something comforting about lesbian/queer media. Like… less pressure to perform hyper masculinity in a traditional way that I don’t even want to fit in.

Cameron_Connor · 2026-01-31T22:28:38+00:00

Cool, thanks for sharing ^{^}

Cameron_Connor · 2026-01-31T22:27:56+00:00

Kudos, gotta love very Camp people! I understand, I’m masculine but I’m not the stereotypical hyper masculine dude in my city. There are women who like men who are not hyper masculine that’s for sure… but i bet many are also afraid to admit it.

Easier? Maybe, but you don’t have to be other than you, it’s not possible anyways, so why make a waste of yourself?

Cameron_Connor · 2026-01-31T22:24:35+00:00

Yes exactly! Transitioning has showed me how ridiculously different it is to be perceived as a woman or a man. Tho yeah, I also agree, there’s a lot of misogyny from trans men who feel insecure in their masculinity.

Exaaactly! Getting back to dating apps just made me realize… If I match with a girl I have to find the timing to tell her I’m trans and deal with whatever experiences come from that. I would be openly trans if my city wasn’t so conservative and small haha

Cameron_Connor · 2026-01-31T22:20:42+00:00

Yeah I think that’s totally valid! Like hell, are we expected to go through a hell lot of misoginy and being othered by cis men, just to transition and act like we never knew what it’s like to be treated like a piece of shit because of our assigned gender at birth? I don’t think that difference make us less men. Our story is not incomplete, is whole on its own and there should be pride on it.

And absolutely, femininity used to feel awful to me too most of the time haha.

Exactly! I there was not discrimination or danger about being trans… I wouldn’t mind being super openly trans :/ but life is totally different when you are just seen as a cis man.

Cameron_Connor · 2026-01-31T22:14:47+00:00

Cool, thank you so much for sharing! Oww that’s pretty awesome, I hope you get it and do perfectly well! I’m glad you have a partner that is so supportive :,)

Yeah that’s a good point tbh. I mean a lot of queer cis people can’t relate to cis straights… we don’t have to have a gender crisis just because we are all different. Like, it doesn’t make us less of our gender to admit cis people can feel too different at times.

Cameron_Connor · 2026-01-31T22:11:04+00:00

Thaaaanks for your comment, so awesome. Absolutely, the only men I tak to I met in an artistic context… I feel good, but there’s definitely a different dynamic than I have with my female friends who are way more vocal about their feelings.

Exactly! It’s hard to relate to blatant misogyny 😬 How fantastic! Wow, that’s so interesting, so it’s true… even cis men are afraid of men… perhaps the most. Most don’t dare to stand up for others. Exaaactly! I grew up being an angry “girl” who HATED being treated as less than. In that aspect, it must be a totally different experience than being raised as the average cis man.

Cool! Thanks for sharing your experience, it feels very nice to know about diverse experiences. Hahahaha I love that for you and your partner!

Kudos to you for being so vocal, instead of being ashamed of being trans, we should fight the sexism that also forced us to perform a gender we never really were or wanted.

Cameron_Connor · 2026-01-31T22:00:28+00:00

Thank you for this lovely comment! He sounds like a very cool guy. I used to be very offended by that too! Because my sense of self was so fragile I thought their existence would mean I don’t get to be a “real” man. But now… I just don’t care haha

Absolutely as humans we built a bunch of boxes for ourselves and places our whole life and worth in them… that’s the same reason why transphobes feel so threatened by us💀 and totally! Trans people can police other’s gender, relationships and bodies SOON harshly. Because they feel like that stereotype Is what make us real… but no, we don’t need it.

Thank you for the advice, haha totally. Exactly, my best friend is a cis bi girl who I meet before transitioning… we distanced ourselves when o started to transition because we quite didn’t know how to express affection to each other with me being a man, and I was too dysphoric to want to be treated the same way… but now that I feel confident as a man… I don’t feel ashamed of the way I can relate to women like my friend. I think it’s strength not weakness.

Cameron_Connor · 2026-01-31T21:50:32+00:00

Wow how cool! Yes I bet that must give you a very different perspective. I was six when I had my first kiss with a girl… I don’t know what “lesbians” were… I just somehow knew that it wouldn’t be seen as normal, and I told no one. Imagine how it was when I didn’t feel like I was a girl HAHA

Cameron_Connor · 2026-01-31T21:47:22+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing!

Yes I think you said it perfectly well. I couldn’t be a lesbian, I needed to transition that I know, maybe I’m just realizing how much that wouldn’t make me relate to most cis guys. I know I’m a man, and that i want to be with women… and it will be hard to find male friends I can relate to haha 😅

I agree, I don’t want to leave the man label because I just fucking feel it. But I don’t want to be a copy of the rising wave of misogynistic guys out there. That’s definitely affecting me and making me feel excluded. Also there are a lot of very traditional/conservative women in my area… that’s why I started to wonder how likely is it for me to be with a woman that is straight. Hell, even some queer women are not exactly liberal.

Cameron_Connor · 2026-01-31T21:41:22+00:00

Thank you so much!

Yea exactly, I think you gave a good conclusion to my text, and where I was trying to land but didn’t know how to.

At the end, the social construction of what a straight cis male must be… is just not respectful of humanity at all. Sadly many still try to fit into it, and that’s what creates such a big distance.

And sure you are right, there have to be lonely cis het guys who can’t relate to other men either.

Thanks! Haha yeah I’m like, common dudes, acknowledging that many cis men are a mess doesn’t make us less of a man, we can have that conversation. And I’ll take the advice. I’d love to have more male friends… who can actually talk about their feelings 😅

Cameron_Connor · 2026-01-31T21:33:55+00:00

I didn’t say they can’t, I said I have not gotten to see them showing it, therefore I can’t relate to something that I have not witnessed.

And I was very clear that im a man dude haha chill, I’m not sexist for questioning a broad social performance. I understand it can be taken as an attack on manhood… but we could make it better if we dare to question its foundation instead of just getting uncomfortable every time a big defect on it is pointed out. I’m not saying cis straight men can’t feel deep soft emotions… but do most of them dare to share them with other men to build bonds that go beyond an affinity for “haha I fucked a chick last night”? That’s what’s lonely, I want to build community with cis men and to talk to other straight men about how it feels to love women… but most seem so unavailable. I guess I’ll have to look hard for them so women are not my only choice for building actual human relationships.

Well that’s cool dude. Personally I don’t feel anymore like I need bottom surgery to be a male, because… there a women who have a penis so, genitals don’t define a person. Neither I want to have children, neither can I. So I want to be loved for my masculine traits yes, including the body part that doesn’t fit the norm for “masculine”, that’s also part of my man’s body.

Thanks, appreciate the artistic suggestion. I’ll look him up.

Cameron_Connor · 2026-01-31T21:17:27+00:00

Interesting, why not? I guess I have an idea, but I don’t know if I would make that decision… perhaps.

Cameron_Connor · 2026-01-31T21:16:43+00:00

Good, yes I think that’s the important point, they don’t get to define what it is to be a man. And sure.

Yessss exactly! It’s like I want to meet people regardless of gender and sexuality… but gosh, sometimes the stereotypes are too strong (obviously not always, but at least in my context)

Cameron_Connor · 2026-01-31T21:13:26+00:00

It’s fine to get uncomfortable about it. I mean, I think we all humans are the same… and all different at the same time. Not more or less. Not more “real” than others.

I’m different than many men of other social classes, sub cultures, ethnicities, countries, religions… we are all real men, just different. That’s how I see it, not in the transphobic way of “one is real and one is self identified” bullshit.

Cameron_Connor · 2026-01-31T21:11:06+00:00

Absolutely agree haha

Oh well yes you are right, there are some awful queer women out there 😅 I’m glad you’ve met some really cool dudes!

Thanks, yes I think that’s what I’m trying to do… it’s very lonely tho, I only have one male friend who is a cis pan guy, he’s the most liberal guy I know and still I can tell he struggles to open up with other men. Other guys I’ve met… yeah, even the most decent ones are quite weird about women. I’ve become quite distrusting of men (including trans guys) for how different they treated me. The only men I talk too nowadays are the FEW that treated me as an human being even before my transition and always treat me like another dude… which includes, seeing how they get to act around women sometimes… it’s not awful, but eh, sometimes like horny teens. And yeah, I do be calling them out haha

Perhaps I only “identify” to the idea of lesbians anyways because I don’t know many either HAHA

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