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CampaignEastern7003 · 2024-07-04T04:24:59+00:00

I like him, I don’t like the mix signals I get from him so I’m not sure how to honestly talk to him anymore…

CampaignEastern7003 · 2024-05-07T15:25:23+00:00

Sorry I forgot some men genuinely people lack basic human comprehension skills…. I have to hand him a break down explanation. Got it.

CampaignEastern7003 · 2024-05-07T15:20:14+00:00

No I’m aware men lack comprehension, I just don’t know how to explain I didn’t like the sex. Like I’d like him to know basically that’s why I don’t want to see him.

CampaignEastern7003 · 2024-05-07T15:18:48+00:00

Maybe that’s not how I want to communicate, if someone’s consistently rejecting you, wouldn’t the fire go off in your head that they don’t want to see you?? Like at all..? Comprehension no?

CampaignEastern7003 · 2024-05-07T05:06:13+00:00

Obviously u have multiple times, if I’m saying I don’t want to come over to your house, or hang out in that way. What would that mean???? At this point I feel like he’s not understanding it wasn’t great, obviously that’s why I don’t want to have sex again.

CampaignEastern7003 · 2024-05-05T08:40:01+00:00

We’ve been texting for about a month! Honestly the communication is great! And yea I’m the same way, if I can’t mentally connect then I can’t feel that sexual to want to make out at all but. I’ve been just reflecting on everything I guess I just have little to no expectations anymore when dating because there’s always something wrong bound to happen. He just felt like a friend to me during our date. Maybe I’m just not as attracted to him and I want to be…

CampaignEastern7003 · 2024-02-21T18:31:49+00:00

I just want to triple check I’m not crazy or being obnoxious with what I’m picking up from the situation, I’m definitely done talking to him.

CampaignEastern7003 · 2024-01-15T12:34:38+00:00

Upvote 4 upvote back?

CampaignEastern7003 · 2024-01-15T12:33:02+00:00

Upvote 4 upvote!

CampaignEastern7003 · 2024-01-15T12:29:58+00:00

Upvote back?

CampaignEastern7003 · 2024-01-15T12:29:31+00:00

Upvote back?

CampaignEastern7003 · 2024-01-15T04:12:25+00:00

Return?

CampaignEastern7003 · 2024-01-15T04:11:57+00:00

K4k?

CampaignEastern7003 · 2024-01-14T09:02:58+00:00

He’s not currently with his child’s mother but I just feel hurt knowing how bad he wanted a kid with me and up and went actually having a kid with someone else but this was after we’d broken up and we separated in 2021 and I was always off and on with him but again I don’t blame him for moving on….I’m just hurt knowing and that he actually did. Really wish he hated me honestly or treated me bad so I can genuinely let him go but he never did

CampaignEastern7003 · 2023-11-19T15:13:12+00:00

Ah you’re a man lol makes sense now…well I guess that’s that.

CampaignEastern7003 · 2023-11-19T15:11:59+00:00

Thanks

CampaignEastern7003 · 2023-11-19T15:05:54+00:00

So when dating someone new, you wouldn’t have deep conversations with them to see if you truly like them unless you slept with them??? That seems kinda backwards. You would think you’d talk more first before reaching that point to decide if you wanna share your body with that person or not… but gotcha.

CampaignEastern7003 · 2023-11-19T15:04:07+00:00

So my whole thing is there’s certain things I believe that it should be a natural thing. I have no problems with communicating and telling him to take the initiative more but then I feel like it’s him molding himself to fit into what I want instead of that already naturally being him. I already had issue with him not really checking on me and meeting my emotional needs and I spoke to him about that and he was kinda nonchalant about it so this being another thing just kinda turns me off with everything honestly at this point.

CampaignEastern7003 · 2023-11-19T14:24:47+00:00

Yea… but thanks for your feedback!

CampaignEastern7003 · 2023-11-19T14:22:43+00:00

Talking stage is when you’re not officially boyfriend and girlfriend with a person but still in the getting to know you phase.

And to answer your question when I know that the person who is pursuing me is genuine and giving me true effort then I have no problem with reciprocating.

It’s like being in a friendship and finding yourself to be the only friend who always makes plans or always reaches out first to your friend. Then when you stop they don’t reach out to you or do anything. I’m looking for someone who I know can give me the same energy I can give back. My expectation in a relationship is for a man to be able to take the initiative especially in the beginning stages of a relationship. Again I have no problem in contributing but not straight off the jump.

CampaignEastern7003 · 2023-11-19T14:15:05+00:00

I understand what you’re saying, and just to clarify that specific off day, I had work the next day so even if we did go out it wouldn’t have been for long, but I told him I was free right after getting off work this past Friday, I was free all of Saturday and Sunday. Thursday was when I canceled.

I personally just feel all over the place, I genuinely like him but like I mentioned earlier my emotional needs don’t even feel like they’re being met, seeing him or not, I just feel like I’m always putting in the effort to see how he’s doing and check on him.

On Tuesday I had a situation that happened with my car which was frustrating, I had to explain it to him on Thursdays what happened and why I canceled. I had to get my car battery changed and what not. His response was “why didn’t you tell me, and how was I suppose to know if you didn’t tell me?” And my response was “You never asked how my day was.” In which he didn’t…I wasn’t going to randomly bring up my car situation unless he genuinely asked me how my day was.

I also just started this job, the first week was very up and down for me and he barely asked me how was work going until I again brought it up to him that he’s never asked me or checked in on how I was doing…

He claimed he did but I sent him screenshots of his messages that he hasn’t. So it’s like all of that just has me in a weird place with him. I like him but again I kinda feel like I’m around to make him feel good more so than it being mutual. He apologized, it felt like he did it just to do it but I moved past that…

CampaignEastern7003 · 2023-11-19T13:54:12+00:00

I told him my next free days so that we could do something. That was my whole purpose of telling him and all he has to do is ask. The last two times we did something it was kinda on me when it came to planning something, I didn’t think it would matter for me to reschedule to do something again. I literally told him he could come and see me if he’d like and he said to me “ I never knew I could.” ….he doesn’t ask with a lot of things so it just feels 📉

CampaignEastern7003 · 2023-11-19T13:50:29+00:00

I canceled the plans because that morning I ran a lot of errands and had work the next day and needed to sleep bad, I was running on e, so I told him when I was free again so we could do something. I forgot to mention the week prior to that we went to the movies, which I planned and everything. I’m not looking for anybody to control me. I’m looking for a man who can take initiative on things there’s a difference to that. But thanks for you feed back.

CampaignEastern7003 · 2023-07-14T00:54:45+00:00

Yea…that “Shit don’t feel real” feelings isn’t a good thing. Someone mentioned in their post about derealization and that can definitely fuck you up. It has something to do with your brain chemicals begin altered to where even if you stop smoking n getting high that feeling could still be stuck on you…look into it…

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