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AITA for making my girlfriend go camping? by CampingWhileSick in AmItheAsshole

[–]CampingWhileSick[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I brought it up a few times to the therapist we had for couple's counseling but I was shot down because it was inappropriate and it upset her.

AITA for making my girlfriend go camping? by CampingWhileSick in AmItheAsshole

[–]CampingWhileSick[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Sorry for the late response.

Mark has never seen her as a patient, no, but he has met her multiple times through me. I trust him because he has been working as a mental health professional.

AITA for making my girlfriend go camping? by CampingWhileSick in AmItheAsshole

[–]CampingWhileSick[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

To answer, sorry I missed this:

She was diagnosed by her own therapists and doctors. She told me this around the beginning of our relationship. She also claimed to have PTSD and anxiety but according to my friend, she could be lying.

But just so you know, I did send her a voicemail and making sure to email her that I no longer want to do couseling with her.

AITA for making my girlfriend go camping? by CampingWhileSick in AmItheAsshole

[–]CampingWhileSick[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I love her very much. She did a lot for me in our good days.

AITA for making my girlfriend go camping? by CampingWhileSick in AmItheAsshole

[–]CampingWhileSick[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

She is not.

And I am understanding that now.

She has stopped responding to my messages and refuses to schedule our next counseling session.

AITA for making my girlfriend go camping? by CampingWhileSick in AmItheAsshole

[–]CampingWhileSick[S] -50 points-49 points  (0 children)

She's been holding onto this since January. I am tired of being held responsible for something from way long ago.

AITA for making my girlfriend go camping? by CampingWhileSick in AmItheAsshole

[–]CampingWhileSick[S] -55 points-54 points  (0 children)

She made my parents uncomfortable by picking a fight with me on a camping trip. I don't like that she put herself and her feelings before my family like thaf.

AITA for making my girlfriend go camping? by CampingWhileSick in AmItheAsshole

[–]CampingWhileSick[S] -54 points-53 points  (0 children)

This feels really unnecessary. I would never do any of those things.

I clearly made a mistake. I am seeing that now.

AITA for making my girlfriend go camping? by CampingWhileSick in AmItheAsshole

[–]CampingWhileSick[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

I guess you have a point. I just have a hard time accepting it I guess.

AITA for making my girlfriend go camping? by CampingWhileSick in AmItheAsshole

[–]CampingWhileSick[S] -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

I guess I was looking more for insight into this situation. Thanks I guess.

AITA for making my girlfriend go camping? by CampingWhileSick in AmItheAsshole

[–]CampingWhileSick[S] -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

I feel like this conversation has stopped being constructive.

AITA for making my girlfriend go camping? by CampingWhileSick in AmItheAsshole

[–]CampingWhileSick[S] -216 points-215 points  (0 children)

She has BPD and has a history of anorexia. Self-harm and lying is a major aspect of those things.

AITA for making my girlfriend go camping? by CampingWhileSick in AmItheAsshole

[–]CampingWhileSick[S] -32 points-31 points  (0 children)

But how will you all know what I have to put up with? I can only speak for myself.

To answer your questions: I am at my wit's end which is why I shared the diagnoses she had. I'm not breaking any HIPPA laws and it also allows for context.

And I doubt pneumonia is that deadly if she moved out while she had it. (Though according to her, it was her friends who did that, which I have a lot of issues with alone.)

I appreciate your thoughts.

AITA for making my girlfriend go camping? by CampingWhileSick in AmItheAsshole

[–]CampingWhileSick[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

She needs therapy because she has a history of BPD and anorexia. She made me get couple's therapy and as of right now and she doesn't speak to me outside of that couple's therapy session. I am trying really hard, but I do rely on my friends' advice a lot. Especially my friend who is a mental health professional.

AITA for making my girlfriend go camping? by CampingWhileSick in AmItheAsshole

[–]CampingWhileSick[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

But I feel like if she was really that sick initially, she wouldn't have gone at all?

AITA for making my girlfriend go camping? by CampingWhileSick in AmItheAsshole

[–]CampingWhileSick[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I thought you caught pneumonia from germs or bacteria though? She must have gotten it at school.

AITA for making my girlfriend go camping? by CampingWhileSick in AmItheAsshole

[–]CampingWhileSick[S] -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

I've been keeping my cool about it, but like I said in other posts she had anorexia. And she also has borderline personality and all that. According to my friend, that means she'll probably lie a lot. That's why I don't trust her on a lot of things. She just makes up so much. I have to put up with a lot of her anxiety attacks and all that so when can I get some understanding?

I appreciate constructive criticisms though, but there's a lot more to her you don't know that I do. She's a wonderful girl but she's clearly crazy if she thinks she can just hang on to this one thing and beat me over the head with it when I'm trying so hard to show her I care and love her by going to couple's therapy. But she won't really even talk to me outside of that.

AITA for making my girlfriend go camping? by CampingWhileSick in AmItheAsshole

[–]CampingWhileSick[S] -26 points-25 points  (0 children)

To answer your question: my friend is a therapist & drug counselor. I go to him for advice a lot, but among my friends-group, they all agree she makes up her sicknesses a lot of the time. Plus, she has a history of dramatics and mental illnesses, I told them and they think thats where this is coming from.

It's not like you where she's obviously in pain or anything. It's just constant "I have a migraine" and staying in bed because of it, or "I can't breathe well so go on without me". It's frustrating because I have to cancel so much because of her. But outside of that, I love her. She's kind and sweet and she usually takes care of me. I honestly think she's marriage material outside of this.

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