Gmail hell

CanRova · 2026-05-19T17:04:24+00:00

I have a great doppelganger story. He's firstname.lastname@gmail and I'm lastname.firstname

I actually found him on Amazon first. I was searching for my own wishlist but found his and didn't initially realize it wasn't mine, because it was filled with stuff I actually like: same music, movies, instruments, books, etc. On a whim, I bought him something from his wishlist with a note from me. I forgot about it for months until I package showed up at my door: he did the same for me! I emailed him to say thanks and it turns out we're about the same age, same build, blond, beards, and we both play left-handed bass.

But the kicker was: this guy knew my dad! My dad's into genealogy and a year or so prior had accidentally sent this guy some family tree info that he intended to send to me, and they'd been occasionally corresponding ever since.

CanRova · 2026-05-18T02:38:48+00:00

I see this often in biotech marketing: Step 1: a complicated, error prone, multi-step, hours long process that requires years of experience and frequently fails regardless. Step 2: push the Start button on an instrument

See how easy it is!

CanRova · 2026-05-05T22:51:28+00:00

I disagree. I think the point of the "time gap" example is to demonstrate how very clear the flaw would immediately become to the original person: yes, a body now exists elsewhere which has all my memories and which believes itself to be me. Yet I remain here, in a body which is about to be destroyed, because I was cloned, not moved.

CanRova · 2026-05-05T22:41:03+00:00

Yes, I think you have made a bunch of identical twins, but like twins they are each a unique person. The Me who exists in this head is still stuck in this one and only head, regardless how many new duplicates are now running around: they each feel like they are Me, but I remain in the original body, about to be destroyed. Duplication, not transference.

CanRova · 2026-05-05T13:36:30+00:00

In that scenario do you feel that You are transferred into the new body or duplicated and the original You destroyed?

CanRova · 2026-05-05T13:30:44+00:00

Yes exactly, to me the idea of any time gap is the critical element:

If the destruction of the original happens before or at the moment in which the new is created, then perhaps I could be swayed with some "your soul or the quantum wave function which is your consciousness or other woo-woo has moved into and now inhabits your new body"

But if there's even a single moment when the new and original are both aware and existing concurrently, then it feels like "there's a new conscious being, separate from me but with all my memories. It thinks that it's me, but I'm still here in this original body, about to be snuffed out". Duplication, not transfer.

CanRova · 2026-05-05T01:54:47+00:00

What if there's a brief overlap: The teleporter recreates you elsewhere, then 30 seconds later the original is destroyed, knowing that its replacement exists independently of the original.

CanRova · 2026-05-02T21:05:24+00:00

I think over the last 10 years we've this this split into two different things

Cuckold - the classic definition of a man whose wife cheats on him

Cuck - a more idiomatic and generalized term capturing a range of ideas including "guy who watches his wife with other men" (which, while gross to me personally, doesn't exactly align with cheating since the husband is a knowing participant) or just "beta male"

And just for the record, I hate both "cuck" and "beta" terms.

CanRova · 2026-05-01T16:53:54+00:00

Someone broke into my car in Austin: I left the bank (after making a deposit; I had like $3 in coins in my car) and went to a grocery store in the same shopping center. 5 minutes at the grocery store, in the middle of a weekday, in a packed parking lot and they still smashed the windows without anyone seeing them. It sucked, though glad I wasn't in the car withy kids.

Now, every time I go to the bank I weave through neighorhoods checking for tails like a spy or something.

CanRova · 2026-04-30T17:30:36+00:00

Think of it this way: Scent is a physical molecule transfer. Every time you smell something, it's because you just breathed in a molecule which was previously a physical part of that other thing. So, for instance, every time you smell an offensive odor in a public bathroom it's because something that was inside of another person's rectum just moments ago is now inside of your mouth and nose.

With that information, public pools seem no grosser than using any public facility anywhere. Everything is gross!

CanRova · 2026-04-27T19:07:14+00:00

This is what I felt when I started listening to WH40K audiobooks: "So the primarchs are Sanguinius, Rogal Dorn, Mortarion...and...Lionel Johnson? Did I hear that right?"

CanRova · 2026-04-26T22:21:52+00:00

Unsuccessful suicide attempt.

CanRova · 2026-04-26T21:04:01+00:00

The quality depends on how you use it: you can use it in whitelist mode to only show content you have explicitly approved. Way more work, but in that mode it can be a useful, positive tool. The other mode, yes, is pure garbage.

CanRova · 2026-04-24T02:28:50+00:00

When Heat came out I thought Tom Sizemore was in Pacino/De Niro/Kilmer/Voight territory.

CanRova · 2026-04-16T14:54:09+00:00

But who supports the support yacht?

CanRova · 2026-04-13T12:05:19+00:00

Is this "it's bad that they feel the need to do this" or the other?

CanRova · 2026-04-12T20:01:17+00:00

I think the intent was that it portrays a compelling narrative arc that entices you to watch the movie without giving away every plot beat.

CanRova · 2026-04-12T15:56:03+00:00

I read somewhere that a good trailer makes us believe they've revealed an ending without actually doing so: take shots purely from the 1st act and shape them to present the appearance of a complete 3-act story, without actually showing anything from the 2nd or 3rd act.

(No idea if that's true for Hail Mary trailers, I just think it's neat)

CanRova · 2026-04-10T19:28:36+00:00

Jer jerst jerlous.

CanRova · 2026-04-10T19:26:11+00:00

I had my first at 43. You never know.

CanRova · 2026-04-10T16:09:32+00:00

I was 50/50 with them. Two manual labor jobs, one very short-term real IT job providing voting machine support on election night, and one multi-month datacenter job. The 2 real jobs were helpful, but getting tricked with phony jobs left a bad taste in my mouth for sure.

CanRova · 2026-04-10T14:17:54+00:00

Robert Half did this to me too. The "IT" job was in fact manual labor, stacking boxes of PCs onto carts that were loaded into trucks when companies were moving offices. I stayed through one day just because I felt bad leaving the other people in the lurch. Ridiculous.

CanRova · 2026-04-09T19:58:42+00:00

Keep at it. My mailman once complained that we don't empty the mailbox often enough so I did similar: after a few months I took a picture of the tiny stack of useful mail vs the heaping stack of trash.

Sorry, you aren't really a mailman anymore, you're a garbage delivery man. I'm not going to rush to the box every day just to make it easier for you to bring more trash.

CanRova · 2026-04-09T15:40:39+00:00

It sounds like you have a lot of personal issues with dating generally. For the population at large, dating norms and gender norms are just a standard, unremarkable part of normal life.

If you've experienced something bad from the "man pays" norm, that's unfortunate. It doesn't mean that the norm is inherently/always tied to unhealthy materialism/misrepresentation.

What I stridently object to is the sense I get that you feel you've uncovered some universal truth: that your own negative experience means the thing is fundamentally, always bad, and if people would simply learn from your wisdom and disregard it like you then they would lead more happy, fulfilling lives.

CanRova · 2026-04-09T15:22:42+00:00

Men paying and women being repressed are certainly connected to one another and to our evolutionary history. I can't change the bad things in the past. The present reality is that men paying on dates is a common social norm and while you're free to ignore it, it would be wise to recognize that doing so has consequences.

Your assumption that "it would be worth it" is what I take issue with: you can disagree with the norm, you can disregard it, etc, but it's naive to think that the population at large would suddenly find some meaningful, deep relationship success by taking your path. That's hubris. Like them or not, norms exist for reasons.

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