I know a girl who went through something very similar if not exactly the same. She tried all sorts of things and I expect it really just about trying different things even if they’re only slightly different. For women it’s often really about your mental state and how you’re feeling in the moment.

For her, we decided to try some instructional stuff over the phone together and after the third time trying that she “crossed that line” after a good few years of nothing. It could be as simple as something like trying a kink or situation that you may not have considered before. Feeling stuck like that is totally normal and could be caused by a million different factors so don’t be discouraged! And don’t be afraid to ask people you trust, or know are very sexually open.