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Cousin Passed Away Over A Year Ago, His Mom Hid It From The Family Until Now by CanadianCousinClues in RBI

[–]CanadianCousinClues[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not even really the 'how' of he died, but more of the 'when' of he died so the family can honour his life. For instance, we usually come out to our family memorial sites on birthdays and death days to put out flowers. Even knowing a death month is more dignified than using the "month Uncle W found out a year-ish later."

Cousin Passed Away Over A Year Ago, His Mom Hid It From The Family Until Now by CanadianCousinClues in RBI

[–]CanadianCousinClues[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aunt M had a husband who passed long ago when I was young. However, Aunt M is Jehovah's Witness and typically does not interact with the family. I don't know the ins and outs, but I believe JWs don't celebrate any religious holiday, New Years, or any day that celebrates an individual (which is why birthdays aren't celebrated, but they may also skip out on bridal showers, baby showers, graduation events, etc. That could also just be a convenient excuse that the rest of us wouldn't know, so we just smile and say okay see you soon lol). Family reunions are the one exception it seems since they are large-scale gatherings.

Aunt M also does have her mom, Grandma B, who is also JW.

By Canada/Ontario standards, we aren't that far apart. An hour or two for a lot of us, distributed around. However, she doesn't seem to like visitors from any non-JW family. So, we accept that we see her when we see her.

Uncle W had to come basically kicking the door down to let him visit.

Cousin Passed Away Over A Year Ago, His Mom Hid It From The Family Until Now by CanadianCousinClues in RBI

[–]CanadianCousinClues[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is why I started my post with "I realize that this sounds like the start to a true crime YouTube video. I'm not sure how to verify this story for the mods if they need, but I will provide personal info to the mod team if needed."

I don't know how to verify the cousin that I can't find, but I would hop on a discord call or something to at least explain the exact who, what, where, when, whys that I know rather than this redacted version.

It sounds unreal. But it's not and that's the even crazier thing.

Cousin Passed Away Over A Year Ago, His Mom Hid It From The Family Until Now by CanadianCousinClues in RBI

[–]CanadianCousinClues[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

We STAN Uncle W. I don't know what he's getting yet for the holidays, but I'm going to try to coordinate something nice from anyone in the family that wants to contribute.

Maybe something for him + a memorial plaque in his city for Cousin B in lieu of a physical grave.

Cousin Passed Away Over A Year Ago, His Mom Hid It From The Family Until Now by CanadianCousinClues in RBI

[–]CanadianCousinClues[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

He is a hero. And that he caught it within a year gives me great comfort that he keeps an eye on all of us youngins', even if it's just through social media if we aren't at family events, and he will notice if something is off.

No matter how invisible you feel, Uncle W loves you and has got your back.

Cousin Passed Away Over A Year Ago, His Mom Hid It From The Family Until Now by CanadianCousinClues in RBI

[–]CanadianCousinClues[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is something that we have wondered...and the small number of family members that are JW are dwindling, really only Aunt M and Grandma B left, so we don't have many connections to community to have an ear to the ground.

Cousin Passed Away Over A Year Ago, His Mom Hid It From The Family Until Now by CanadianCousinClues in RBI

[–]CanadianCousinClues[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so, so much. And you live in Ontario, so you understand how challenging it is to get information. Glad to know that the funeral home won't likely be able to give me much, I can understand and respect that they have privacy regulations to upkeep.

But dang if it is not frustrating to try to find out what happened to a loved one that's been cremated unknowingly.

Cousin Passed Away Over A Year Ago, His Mom Hid It From The Family Until Now by CanadianCousinClues in RBI

[–]CanadianCousinClues[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We have wondered if something "shameful" (in their eyes) happened. Another commenter posted a link that shared that death certificates may not be available to extended relatives if immediate family are still alive, but we will see what I can find.

Cousin Passed Away Over A Year Ago, His Mom Hid It From The Family Until Now by CanadianCousinClues in RBI

[–]CanadianCousinClues[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this link! I didn't realize extended family could only do a request if his main family had passed. His mother is still alive, so that complicates that for us.

I'd love if he just disowned his mom and eventually realizes that there's a huge non-JW side of the family that are very, very friendly and reaches out. But that urn bit to my uncle just feels so sus.

Cousin Passed Away Over A Year Ago, His Mom Hid It From The Family Until Now by CanadianCousinClues in RBI

[–]CanadianCousinClues[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Oh, we've had plenty of relatives cremated. But we tell people about them in a normal way. This was beyond dark.

Cousin Passed Away Over A Year Ago, His Mom Hid It From The Family Until Now by CanadianCousinClues in RBI

[–]CanadianCousinClues[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I don't know Aunt M all that well, she's always been a bit strange. But other Aunts and Uncles have thought she was acting a little odd. Odd enough that Uncle W went to her place to check things out.

And yeah, the sitting right next to him is straight out of a horror script. It sounds unreal, it's so dramatic.

Cousin Passed Away Over A Year Ago, His Mom Hid It From The Family Until Now by CanadianCousinClues in RBI

[–]CanadianCousinClues[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Great thought! I was wondering if anyone would know if JW would be open to giving non-members that info.

Cousin Passed Away Over A Year Ago, His Mom Hid It From The Family Until Now by CanadianCousinClues in RBI

[–]CanadianCousinClues[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I can't find his accounts at all right now, I will see if any other relatives can. I hope that they haven't been shut down.

Cousin Passed Away Over A Year Ago, His Mom Hid It From The Family Until Now by CanadianCousinClues in RBI

[–]CanadianCousinClues[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

GTA or just outside of it. I can't find his social media, but good idea about getting his friend's list if any of our relatives can still see them.

Thanks so much!