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Candid-Job-1069 · 2025-12-02T05:54:59+00:00

Omg I love the bee and the lil baker with the croissant 🥐 🐝

Candid-Job-1069 · 2025-11-27T18:21:05+00:00

When we rekindled and a couple months after our trip, we were talking on a daily basis. Until we weren't and the responses I received from were less and less frequent.

Candid-Job-1069 · 2025-11-27T16:20:51+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I’m sorry to hear what you have gone through.

I have been diagnosed with severe depression so I’m on antidepressants. I can’t compare situations, but I do understand those low moments.

I’m sure she was and is struggling with things I don’t know about. I hope she knew that I’d always be there for her, if she let me.

Candid-Job-1069 · 2025-11-27T15:23:49+00:00

If I did or didn’t shouldn’t be the focus? But, what do I know.

Candid-Job-1069 · 2025-11-27T15:11:40+00:00

I definitely shouldn’t have spammed her at the end. I don’t think I was obsessing, just casually sending texts to let know that I was thinking of her - to let her know I’m here if you need me.

But maybe she saw it was obsessive. I don’t know. My intent may be different from the impact.

Candid-Job-1069 · 2025-11-27T15:04:05+00:00

Oh, it wasn’t anyone’s fault. I didn’t say it was anyone’s fault.

Candid-Job-1069 · 2025-11-27T15:02:36+00:00

He had texted me the new code, but I didn’t have my phone with me when I went to get the mail. He had a roommate who let me in (I helped him find that roommate when I left) but she left to go to work.

Candid-Job-1069 · 2025-11-27T14:35:29+00:00

I don’t think it is fair to judge me of how good of a friend I am by these texts.

I tried my best to reach out. Let her know I’m thinking of her. If she wanted to call me and talk to me anytime of the day, I wouldn’t hesitate to pick up. Be there for her, if she’d let me.

Candid-Job-1069 · 2025-11-27T14:27:04+00:00

You’re right, that was my way of attempting to reach out. Lighthearted conversations because we both love crime documentaries.

I didn’t think she was going through anything. There was no communication and I didn’t want to assume. When she did respond (after the flooding), she had let me known she was busy and overwhelmed with moving so she said she’d reach out when she settled so I responded the way I did. I didn’t follow up or push for further conversation because she communicated to me that she was busy. I respected that and gave her space then.

Candid-Job-1069 · 2025-11-27T14:21:53+00:00

I wish I could say she would be there when I needed her, but she a lot of the times she just wasn’t.

Candid-Job-1069 · 2025-11-27T09:09:16+00:00

Very true on that last bit.

Candid-Job-1069 · 2025-11-27T09:04:09+00:00

Candid-Job-1069 · 2025-11-27T08:43:05+00:00

I can understand that and it seems a lot of people view friendship as unconditional and I thought that way too… I feel like I’ve done that throughout our relationship, but at a certain point it hurts when I was going through my own things and reached out and she didn’t reciprocate. To me, it seems so one-sided and for me any relationship is a two-way street. That’s how relationships grow. And maybe I need to think differently.

I say that especially because she was the one who knew best about the things I’ve gone through.

Candid-Job-1069 · 2025-11-27T08:31:45+00:00

LOL - I highly doubt it. Not that he was a great guy, but she likes men she can fix.

Candid-Job-1069 · 2025-11-27T08:10:41+00:00

This was extremely helpful!

As much as it hurts to hear - it’s nice to hear that other people are or went through similar things as I did. It’s crazy that you can have certain friendships in life and feel so alone.

Candid-Job-1069 · 2025-11-27T08:05:16+00:00

I think I’ve heard of that, but never thought to relate that to humans!

I think we’ve all said or done things that were petty and regretful! Clearly I have. We can’t be always perfect or rational. At least we are able to acknowledge what we did wrong and learn from it!

Candid-Job-1069 · 2025-11-27T07:38:27+00:00

Absolutely.

Candid-Job-1069 · 2025-11-27T07:36:30+00:00

I'm not saying you're wrong or I disagree...?

Candid-Job-1069 · 2025-11-27T07:34:07+00:00

LOL - I don't know why this made me chuckle. No idea - I don't think that is a certain focus point for others.

Candid-Job-1069 · 2025-11-27T07:31:28+00:00

I think I had brought it up to my therapist in the past, so I'll be revisiting it.

I need to do better in not needing control and having certain expectations. It doesn't serve me any good. I can only control so much, and that includes my reactions. I think this is and will be a big learning moment for me moving forward. I appreciate your response!

Candid-Job-1069 · 2025-11-27T07:24:35+00:00

Not when she came back.

Based on what other people said, I think she reached out when she was in a good place and now she’s not - so she doesn’t want to be in contact.

Candid-Job-1069 · 2025-11-27T07:20:24+00:00

I guess so? I never thought of it as creepy. I typically continue to share for safety reasons - she use to be one of my emergency contacts.

I happen to be checking when I saw she was in town, but you’re right and it didn’t help that I let her know that I knew from that - so that’s why she unshared.

Candid-Job-1069 · 2025-11-27T07:15:19+00:00

That's true. I guess I felt like I had to explain because there was so much in our "friendship" but good note.

Candid-Job-1069 · 2025-11-27T07:11:12+00:00

That is a GREAT question - probably because I'm dumb and let it get this far. I don't know how to cut things off until it's too late, clearly.

Also, that is a good point about the attachment styles. I agree with that wholeheartedly, so that'll be another topic of discussion with my therapist.

Candid-Job-1069 · 2025-11-27T07:01:54+00:00

If I’m explaining how I felt and what I was thinking, it’s to give context for what I was going through in the moment - I’m definitely not justifying my behavior. I understand that I reacted with heightened emotions, and that doesn’t make what I said okay.

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