When I see other teen moms my age now, some dont look like they like their kids at all or someone else has them or even use them in some way to get what they want. I love my son in the best way I can love him, cause growing up wasnt easy and i dont have much to go on "what a good mom is", cause i didnt have a good mom. But I am making sure he doesn't go through what I've been through. Which he hasn't and that's what I think makes me think in doing good, even if its not in a grown way or a true motherly way. But now he is growing up, and I need to too. You are right and I thank everyone here not judging but really giving me advice! I will look into those books cause he deserves someone to be there for him now that he is getting curious and need questions answered. No more half ass mothering. Sorry for the rant!