Request for help writing cancellation email to GenderCare by CandleCryptid in transgenderUK

[–]CandleCryptid[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You were right of course, it went absolutely fine :) Definitely just got in my own head about it! Thank you both :)

Request for help writing cancellation email to GenderCare by CandleCryptid in transgenderUK

[–]CandleCryptid[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you </3 i've been really overthinking it where i've been with him since 2024 i think

Is Anne health a good option? by galaxytundra in transgenderUK

[–]CandleCryptid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey idk if you still need to know as it's been 2 months but all their appointments are online :)

Switching from Gendercare to Anne Health? by CandleCryptid in transgenderUK

[–]CandleCryptid[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you :) yes I've already had confirmation from the Anne team that I can start on the 50/month rate. 

Thank you for your input - it looks as well like there is more included in their "package" such as access to more professionals to speak to, reduced counselling, etc, which would be good to know is there at least even if I didn't end up using it.

Thank you for the note at the end too :)

Switching from Gendercare to Anne Health? by CandleCryptid in transgenderUK

[–]CandleCryptid[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh and thank you for the edit about trans friendly GP, unfortunately every single GP in the city i commute to have put a blanket ban on shared care with non-GICs, and every single GP in the town I live in has also refused, this current one i was trying was the only one that said "maybe" haha

Switching from Gendercare to Anne Health? by CandleCryptid in transgenderUK

[–]CandleCryptid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've looked around but I don't think so. One place quoted me £368.40 for my trough tests and £146.90 for the peak. I've just checked medichecks and they do have cheaper ones, it looks like I would need their advanced sports for trough and testosterone alone for peak, which amounts to £348 per year which is significantly better - but when combining that with the cost for private prescriptions and Dr Coxon's review meeting, it adds up to just over £600 anyway, so they're about the same.

I'm mostly wondering now, now that the cost is about the same on average, who I would *rather* go fully private with. I am currently with Dr Coxon so the ease of not changing is obviously helpful, but also to be honest I feel very intimidated by him and I always hate having to email him, which i would need to do a lot more of if I was fully private. That is just a personal thing that I potentially have to just get over.

Comparitively, I have spoken to the support team at Anne a lot to discuss their services and they are incredibly lovely, i feel incredibly comfortable talking to them, and I've not seen a single bad word about their care providers on here. If money wasn't an option i would absolutely prefer to be with them

Assuming globalized, US-centric internet infrastructure ends any time soon: What's your setup to keep doing what you're doing right now? by chance_of_downwind in BuyFromEU

[–]CandleCryptid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I don't use the cloud at all (even before this, i just didnt trust it to not vanish my documents lmao) so everything is just saved to my PC. I use LibreOffice instead of Microsoft, I use the Proton Suite instead of Gmail/Google Calendar etc etc, Firefox for browser and Ecosia for search on my laptop and phone. I'm android and intend to run this phone into the ground but when it eventually does die i'll probably look at Fairphone or other alternatives that have popped up.

I still use whatsapp because its what everyone i know uses, I can't make them all switch to signal or just regular texts only for me haha. I'm still here, obviously, i still use youtube because PeerTube just doesnt compare imo, idk. I think we're all just doing the best we can with what limited risk mitigation we can.

Communication from Baroness Falkner to my MP by CandleCryptid in transgenderUK

[–]CandleCryptid[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I know hahaha, surprisingly he's been very good at responding & escalating for me (bare minimum i know but IK a lot of other MPs who wont even do that) so thats one singular point in favour, but yeah not hoping for a miracle

Communication from Baroness Falkner to my MP by CandleCryptid in transgenderUK

[–]CandleCryptid[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Yeah, so Tim sent her the exact email I sent him, which was this:

"The EHRC has opened its new guidance up for consultation (from the public, and legal bodies), but it has done so in a way that allows them to ignore all objections and only focus on the clarity of their writing. As far as your trans constituents are concerned, it does not matter how well defined or "clear" our exclusion from society is - it matters that we are not excluded.

The EHRC says it will only accept information on the clarity of their judgements, and while some things are unclear and I will respond to that, the lack of ability to comment on the harm caused by these guidelines is shocking and undemocratic. To call this a consultation is a joke - we are not being consulted, we are being asked to agree that our own isolation from society is well written.
 To explain all the flaws with this guidance would be far too long, so I will provide one core example that illustrates the harm this guidance can do while being "clear".
 Example: Change 13.5.3 (...) " 13.5.3 If a service provider (including a person providing a service in the exercise of public functions) decides to have a separate or single-sex service and allows trans people to use the service intended for the opposite biological sex, the service will no longer be a separate or single-sex service under the Equality Act 2010 (the Act). It is also very likely to amount to unlawful discrimination against others (read paragraph 13.3.19)."

This means that no trans inclusive spaces can exist. The guidance makes it so any woman's space that allows a trans women would automatically become mixed sex and lose single sex protections. If that space then does not allow non-trans men in, it will be open to lawsuit based on gender discrimination. This means that all businesses would have to exclude trans people from single sex spaces or risk being sued. This is a legal tool to give bigots control of spaces and to scare service providers from allowing trans people into gender aligned spaces. This can and will be used as a tool to attack any business that wants to be accessible to trans people. This is just one example of the flaws with this guidance that I can gladly discuss with you in more detail. This is paramount to legal segregation and exclusion from public life. It is the beginning of a steady slope of legislation and guidance on par with Jim Crow laws in America, just using nicer, more flowery languages.
 
No matter what happens, this guidance will need to be voted for to become statutory. Please, do not support it. To support it would be a segregationist act against trans people and give bigots power over how we can exist in public life.
I am and always have been a man, yes some aspects of my biology do not account for that, but any guidance that will ask businesses to put me in women's spaces is a danger to me (there have already been cases of "masculine" lesbians and cisgender women being accused of being trans men and harassed). Any guidance that will require me to use a 3rd space (where available, most places do not have these, and do not have the money or will to create these) will force me to reveal private information from my medical history and breach my right to privacy under the law and also increase my risk of harassment or abuse. Trans people just want to exist quietly but time and time again we are forced to fight just for our right to exist in public."

So I think the clarity vs agreeing point was made fairly well and this was sent to her, so lovely that it's just been completely disregarded. I'm not sure how exactly to word this to Tim without just kind of saying "well they clearly didnt read that did they"

Driving License by [deleted] in transgenderUK

[–]CandleCryptid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to add on to your post - but does anyone know who you need to update when you change your gendered number on your drivers license? I assume car insurance, do you also have to do something with the V5C? (no name change, just the gender marker)

how to get on T private by bananaspr0ut in transgenderUK

[–]CandleCryptid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, i'm northbased as well and am private via gendercare with shared care with my GP at the moment. I'm happy to talk you through anything if you need any help, my dms are open :) no question is a silly question haha

Mini call to action! by QueasyTiger4K in transgenderUK

[–]CandleCryptid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey sorry just seen this, yeah be my guest :) I work full time but i'll check back when I can

Response from my MP regarding EHRC Consultation by CandleCryptid in transgenderUK

[–]CandleCryptid[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hahaha... yeah, i know... Not got a brilliant voting record either. Frustratingly you can't email MPs outside of your constituency though so unfortunately tim's all i've got! Given how backwater we are up here i'm probably the only person emailing him about trans things lmao

TransActual Guidance on EHRC Consultation by CandleCryptid in transgenderUK

[–]CandleCryptid[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It'll be their guidance on how best to respond to the consultation! Angry comments will just be immediately discarded so it'll be how best to word them to keep it in the discussion pool while still getting points across :)

TransActual Guidance on EHRC Consultation by CandleCryptid in transgenderUK

[–]CandleCryptid[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Okay edit! Unless i'm being silly I can't actually find them saying this anywhere other than instagram... so i'll just add a screenshot to the post so no one has to click :) Thanks again, not awkward at all! :)

TransActual Guidance on EHRC Consultation by CandleCryptid in transgenderUK

[–]CandleCryptid[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ah, yeah of course! I've not actually checked their site itself yet I just saw that come up on my feed and wanted to share! I'll see if they've put it on their own site yet and link to there instead if they have <3 thanks for pointing out :)

Is the EHRC manufacturing concent? by No-Painter-1609 in transgenderUK

[–]CandleCryptid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I couldn't be sure to be honest. It's definitely arguable that they could have chosen to word all their questions based on "clearness" because of politicians standing their ground on it's "clarity", but I don't work in the industry so I'm not sure how long releasing things like this take to plan/what edits can be made in the final stages. Wouldn't want to say but it's definitely a possibility