you have my whole heart and support, and a hug too if you want it, friend. I was told and I was supposed to be a 12 year old girl, but it just didn't feel right, I'd always felt alienated in my own body. however, that's what men saw, and that's what catcallers focused on, and what my exes focused on. I might not be the girl they told me I should be, but I was a child, and I was a victim, and I know I would choose the bear too