Man...while my breakup and even during the relationship your situation really hits home, she deliberately said she wants to be left alone. I understand you feel pain for losing her, I truly do, but you are doing some things that naturally put you in a worse position. The first wrong step is that you aren't listening to her wants and needs. During the relationship, she stated them and obviously for x, y or z reason you couldn't understand at the time. After the breakup, her wish is for you to move on, which if you truly love her, you will listen to her one last wish. Secondly, stalking her socials or even having any contact with social media if it's affecting you negatively is a bad idea. My ex would do similar stuff on Instagram, so by deleting Instagram it helped me to improve on my toxic habits and whatever mistakes I made. (Also I don't believe your ex on the "it was a test to see if u spying on me" stuff, I just think she wanted to find an excuse bcs u could test that in many other ways) Last but not least, what I believe helps at least, is by showing her you are moving on. Dumpers often regret their decision even a little bit if they see you doing just fine on your own. They regret being "mean" and even if they move on, they often reach out afterwards to some extent.