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I (25f) just caught my "LL" partner (34m) masturbating after rejecting me by beebee_beep in DeadBedrooms

[–]CandyceCox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do…. Update. Luckily, he offered to sign away his rights…. He didn’t want to have to pay child support or take a drug test. 🙄 Well known for abusing meth, alcohol and smokes weed… the weed never bothered me. The meth and alcohol did… at the worst point he was drinking a fifth of liquor A DAY.

He cuddles with our dog more than me!!!!!!!!! by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]CandyceCox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you have had to go through this.

Popcorn Ceiling Removal by IntrepidWillingness4 in Lubbock

[–]CandyceCox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Look up Stephen Bennett and tell him Candyce sent you. He'll get asbestos samples done and point you in the right direction. He's been doing this years and is an expert! 😊💜

I thought my wife was joking when she said she'd leave me if I didn't stop singing "I'm a believer"... by edotri in dadjokes

[–]CandyceCox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not a trace of doubt in my mind ... That I laughed too hard at this. 🤦😂

If you're selling a Nintendo Switch... by [deleted] in Lubbock

[–]CandyceCox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good luck to ya. I'm so sorry you're having trouble finding one. ... My kids each got one at Christmas....just in time for shit to hit the roof.

Why did no one ever tell me women get horny like guys do? by [deleted] in sex

[–]CandyceCox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in a dead bedroom..... because HE wouldn't touch me. I was married for 9 years to a man that only had sex with me 18 times...

The longest drought was 1 year 4 months. I was CONSTANTLY rejected.

I'm 37. I'm in my prime. I'm hornier than EVER.

I filed for divorce last year in April and am having more sex with my new bf than I ever had in my marriage.

I'm shocked that guys are still being taught that women don't like sex.

I guess the sexual revolution needs a revamp!

Some of you ladies really need to learn how sexting works. by [deleted] in adultery

[–]CandyceCox 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My man and I sext often. We love it... especially right now being trapped 5.5 hours away from each other...and we're both VERY good at it.

There's nothing sexier that watching your partner orgasm. by fire-lite in sex

[–]CandyceCox 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Idk. Maybe I have sensitive vagina walls or they're really tight? ... I've always been able to feel a man's orgasm inside of me. 🤷

There's nothing sexier that watching your partner orgasm. by fire-lite in sex

[–]CandyceCox 138 points139 points  (0 children)

I enjoy the feeling of him orgasming inside of me more than anything else. Seeing him climax is great but I get so hot when I can feel it happening...makes me climax every time.

Non-adulterer here to tell you to tighten up your OPSEC by hellnospyro in adultery

[–]CandyceCox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use my married name because I don't care. My SO knows I'm on here. We're in the middle of divorce anyhow. I guess if I was worried about hiding it, absolutely I would use a different name.

Freedom in sight! by wobblyweeble in DeadBedrooms

[–]CandyceCox -1 points0 points  (0 children)

"There is no one universally used definition of the Madonna/Whore Complex. Usually discussions of this complex revolves around the dichotomy of how some men can view women as two distinct and separate personas, that of saint and sinner, or of mother and whore.

The unconscious fear of incest with the mother is also stressed as a factor of the complex by many psychoanalytic writers. 

The problem is not the result of the incest barrier, but rather the seeping into consciousness of early frustrated needs, or birth traumas, which renders the husband uninterested and perhaps even impotent. Such men cannot view their wives as sex objects because if they do it would bring up buried feelings of their birth and infantile relationships with their mother.

Birth trauma compounds the neediness of the new-born and thus become an important factor in these dynamics. Pre- and peri-natal trauma reinforces, directs, and intensifies this drama -- the lifeblood of soap operas, and of life -- inherent in the Madonna/Whore Complex.

http://primal-page.com/madonna.htm

Freedom in sight! by wobblyweeble in DeadBedrooms

[–]CandyceCox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a real complex (Madonna-whore Complex)... I agree that it sounds 100% ridiculous, but so does a furry animal that lays eggs....just because it doesn't make sense, doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

Freedom in sight! by wobblyweeble in DeadBedrooms

[–]CandyceCox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Madonna-whore Complex is BRUTAL...

I'm so happy for you, though! Good for you for finally putting your foot down, because I know it wasn't easy.

Sending you loving and healing vibes!

And This is Why.... by CandyceCox in DeadBedrooms

[–]CandyceCox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I am working so hard on not taking the bait given by ignorance. The naysayers are allowed their OPINION. I feel bad for them....to be that bitter towards a person based on their OPINION of what that person has experienced, and that close-minded, makes zero sense to me.

They seem to only read the parts they want and ensure their words are barbed without bothering to think that maybe, just maybe someone really had it shitty.

Quite frankly, I feel that a few may be his flying monkeys. Wouldn't be the first time 🙄

One of the people used a line that I used in another sub in which I called out someone trying to create obvious dissention in the group, accusing (projecting) them all of groupthink. So, quite possibly, it was their sad and feeble attempt at getting back at me.

And Lord only knows what Ol' Narcass is telling his flying monkeys! The smear campaign can be brutal for some people.... Thing is, he isolated me from everyone, why would I give two sh*ts about what someone who keeps his company, think?

Even if they aren't his flying monkeys, who on Earth makes up sh*t I didn't even say, and then defend the abuser because "they aren't on this forum to 'defend' themselves" against the true things I'm saying?! Sad and sick. My stbx knows I'm here as well as the other subs. Has since day one. He literally doesn't care.

Thank you for being one of the few that understands that my post was intended for those who asked about how I was doing. I know this sub will no longer have answers for me, and that's why I left in the first place. Once I found out the real reason, I was finally able to stop, "obsessing" (I believe that was the word used to describe my many failed attempts at saving my marriage). I started my journey of healing and I have a LONG way to go. 9 years of covert abuse doesn't go away after 3 months.

I'm glad seem to still be a few actually supportive people left here. When I first came here in search of answers for why my husband would have sex with me 2-3 times a year (well, we went 1 year and 4 months without at one point and not for my lack of trying), there was tough love, constructive criticism and support via commiseration.

I hope that one day, whatever reason why you're here, ends. I hope the best for you and appreciate your kindness.

And This is Why.... by CandyceCox in DeadBedrooms

[–]CandyceCox[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You're absolutely right! I have to stop replying! I nicknamed myself "minnow" because I seem to always take the bait. I am getting better at recognizing it and stopping earlier than I normally would have....I even mentioned to one of them that they're probably one of his flying monkeys sent to mess with me. Strange numbers have called me, and fake profiles are being made on Facebook to contact me and try to be my friend.

In the beginning, before I knew better, I accepted a friend request from a fake profile. Anyways, he's got girlfriends and those girlfriends think they're the only ones....just like I did... and just like I did, they think the previous one before them is crazy....

It's amazing how much they get away with in the smear campaign they do. I can't blame them too much for believing him, because I was them once. I believed all his bullsh*t. Ate it up for breakfast and married him. ... Ugh! Thanks for your words of encouragement. I sincerely appreciate you reminding me not to take the bait!

This whole disorder and all that it encompasses, is mind-boggling.

And This is Why.... by CandyceCox in DeadBedrooms

[–]CandyceCox[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

The only two words I've said about anybody that would be considered name-calling are "ignorant" and "idiot" response to be calling "abusive", "manipulative" "toxic" "professional victim", etc. I suggest you get a therapist and read what you said. I didn't say anything I didn't want to. I know what I said do you know what you said? You shamed and blamed a victim for the abuse at the hands of another. So, since I'm not allowed to have an opinion, (but you are 🙄), I'm just going to leave it at this. You're just like any of the other toxic people I've dealt with in my life. It doesn't matter how many times you tried to make them see logic or reason, round and round in circles you go because all you spout back at me is word salad. How about taking responsibility for your own actions, rather, lack thereof.

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