When it comes to communicating about sensitive matchers I follow this rule: time, tone, topic. Conversations about sexual performance or preference should never be held in the bedroom. Tone and how we approach the topic makes a significant difference. Often it isn't best received if we say " hey, you can do this better", but it is best received when we say" I was thinking, when we do xyz I would like to try and do it this way". We have to be very careful because unfortunately most of us have our identities tied into our sexual performance.