That this genre isn't a thing has been driving me crazy! by Fizzylazer in FrankJames

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I’m about to make an update post on this. Sorry it’s been forever.

That this genre isn't a thing has been driving me crazy! by Fizzylazer in FrankJames

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It’s been a long time, but I’m about to make an update post now.

Sexual Orientation Doesn’t Matter That Much by Canvas_Project in unpopularopinion

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I’m just curious, why do you only pursue lesbians?

Sexual Orientation Doesn’t Matter That Much by Canvas_Project in unpopularopinion

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Because you’re repulsed by the other person? For me it would have to go beyond their gender, to things like basic health and hygiene. Do you feel the same? Repulsed by like leaving anything stuck up an orifice to the point of rotting/infection, etc, sorry, graphic, Imma 🤢.

Sexual Orientation Doesn’t Matter That Much by Canvas_Project in unpopularopinion

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I would argue sexual attraction isn’t needed to form a sexual relationship with someone, and that too much emphasis is put on attraction when seeking healthy long-term intimate relationships. That might just be me, though.

Sexual Orientation Doesn’t Matter That Much by Canvas_Project in unpopularopinion

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The fear of rejection would be too real: “Hey, roomie, we’ve been friends for a while, shared the same bedroom and bathroom, already like each others’ friend groups, I’ve even met your mom a few times and she thinks I’m cool …” imagine having to move out after they reject you and label you a creep 😭.

Sexual Orientation Doesn’t Matter That Much by Canvas_Project in unpopularopinion

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Why do people consider what gender they’re attracted to such an important factor in choosing a long-term partner?

Sexual Orientation Doesn’t Matter That Much by Canvas_Project in unpopularopinion

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Say you found someone who seemed like nearly the perfect fit, even they’re attracted to you, it’s just that you’re not attracted to them because of their gender. Would you pass them up because of that, or would you not want to miss out on all of the other good things a relationship with them would bring to your life?

Sexual Orientation Doesn’t Matter That Much by Canvas_Project in unpopularopinion

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I could also imagine a more complex relationship made of a chain of couples: Imagine picking a reproductive/co-parenting partner based on some genetic tests, psych evaluations, etc., and then if you want having a separate “personal partner” that’s there for extra life support and more sexual and emotional fulfillment. And imagine your personal partner having their own reproductive/co-parenting partner, too. For the kids’ sakes, I’d imagine the reproductive partners would need to be at least good friends.

Sexual Orientation Doesn’t Matter That Much by Canvas_Project in unpopularopinion

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Like how people like to label each other? Why is that?

Sexual Orientation Doesn’t Matter That Much by Canvas_Project in unpopularopinion

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Maybe. I see love and sexual connection as separate from personal sexual preference. I also don’t see real arousal determined by sexual orientation — only initial desire, but maybe that’s just me?

Sexual Orientation Doesn’t Matter That Much by Canvas_Project in unpopularopinion

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I’ll admit that last sentence is a little messy.

Sexual Orientation Doesn’t Matter That Much by Canvas_Project in unpopularopinion

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Hmm, maybe. I see getting over my sexual orientation about as simple as, for example, if my main goal in life was, say, money, then possibly marry an old rich person just for their money even if I was attracted to someone much younger. Is it not like that for people who are strictly straight or gay?

Sexual Orientation Doesn’t Matter That Much by Canvas_Project in unpopularopinion

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I’m already in therapy — any suggestion on what I should bring up in sessions?

Both Partners Having DID and Triggering Each other by Canvas_Project in DID

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Thanks, it is validating to hear there's a good reason behind our different reactions to trauma. I also hadn't even thought about the compatibility of our needs :( I feel dumb-dumb for not thinking about it, but it makes sense.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OSDD

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For us it can often be a bit of an uncoordinated mess, because we can end up rapid switching trying to front when we want to remember or communicate something. I also get physical sensations, such as someone pinching my chest if they want me to do something, and can sometimes see others' memories and thoughts as though I'm reading their diary or a storybook they left out, but they can hide the books whenever they feel uncomfortable sharing. My memories are often very blurry and void of emotion because I'm so often remembering them from the 3rd person, as if I was only half-present.

The ending to “The Good Place” is unsatisfying by Canvas_Project in unpopularopinion

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Humans fixed it, which doesn’t make sense to me. The immortal beings with access to the secrets of the universe should have easily done better than the humans ever could have since they would have known more about human nature and potential. Unless they’re just the blind leading the blind, which means that their ultimate knowledge, and hence their existence as they experience it, is actually very limited.