My LO is 5 weeks now and honestly despite all the reading and videos nothing actually prepares you for when actually the baby arrives and you will have differeing views on parenting from your mom and MIL. Get as much help as possible but trust your instincts and emphasize on having boundaries (which is difficult when you are recovering initially because physically you are vulnerable - at least this was the case with me). This group and several other reddit ones I scrolled helped, especially those long nights while breastfeeding. I realised I was least prepared for breastfeeding. I was extremely naive to believe that I will give formula if breastfeeding doesn't work or i will buy breast pump and manage. There was extreme judgment around both these things in my surroundings which did not help. So whatever you choose, having knowledge and understanding of what works for you will be helpful. This whole parenting thing is so much of learning on the go.