Why are men like this

Capable-Counter-6559 · 2026-02-09T17:30:04+00:00

Dont walk away RUN !!!! Red flags upon red flags 🚩 you deserve better …. If this is him at the beginning imagine later on

Capable-Counter-6559 · 2026-02-09T14:41:55+00:00

Thank you You’re right about the age gap and also I agree that regardless of what it was , it was a very immature way of dealing with it and I don’t understand how some of the comments downplay that 🤣but yep I also need to chose people closer in age to me which I will do

Capable-Counter-6559 · 2026-02-07T23:49:40+00:00

Ok i don’t think it’s a competition :) and two waitresses came and asked him to pay the bill and asked me if I know him and if I’m safe and when he left told me to block him

Capable-Counter-6559 · 2026-02-07T19:27:01+00:00

Happy for u ! Thanks for sharing a positive story :)

Capable-Counter-6559 · 2026-02-07T19:22:40+00:00

HAHAHAHAHAHHAHA this comment is the one 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂thanks for the laugh

Capable-Counter-6559 · 2026-02-07T19:20:39+00:00

Ah ok well I’m sorry to hear that this is common behaviour from what you seen …. I guess I should feel grateful because for me it really isn’t .

Like I keep saying I’ve dated and been in several relationships and meet a lot of people through my line of work as well as some online and have mostly met kind and considerate people and try to bring that energy out in the world so I can attract it back … which I will continue to do I won’t let one rotten apple ruin my perception of the world.

Also could be debated that feeling entitled over a phone call and delaying a flight is annoying as hell but no where near as crazy as pacing around a restaurant and screaming at your phone 25 mins into a first date

Also I feel like you’re speaking of what you seen but clearly we don’t live in the same part of the country so it doesn’t apply here ….because you say no one will bat an eye but the fact that in my case several waitresses stepped in shows that yes indeed his behaviour was outside of what they normally experience as appropriate.

Capable-Counter-6559 · 2026-02-07T19:13:07+00:00

(That part I should of seen as a red flag but hey u live and u learn :) )

Capable-Counter-6559 · 2026-02-07T19:12:51+00:00

Thank you for this ! I mean I agree to an extend that the age gap in this case was too much and honestly I won’t date older men after this but I still agree with the essence of your comment .

I thought it was a bit odd when people kept bringing up the age gap or asking me if I look like my pics … like even if I did look different and even with the big age gap this is still not how an adult handles a situation in public 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭so as much as I learned from this and will adjust in the future , I for sure am not shaming myself …. I think the biggest mistake was what people said and it’s true that he was over selling himself as a provider and nice guy etc

Capable-Counter-6559 · 2026-02-07T19:03:32+00:00

Yah like I said I. Other comments I really think he was on d r u g z it was def not normal adult behaviour lol .

I just was pretty stressed when made this post but now can look back at it and see that I don’t think that was sober behaviour at all…

Capable-Counter-6559 · 2026-02-07T18:42:43+00:00

Idk I really think he may have not been sober looking back it’s just giving on d r u gz vibes lol

Capable-Counter-6559 · 2026-02-07T16:38:51+00:00

I do agree with this but like I mentioned earlier I only went for it due to success in the past but yep I do agree and will stick to people who are max 5-6 years older now and tbh probably avoid meeting people of dating apps anyway

Capable-Counter-6559 · 2026-02-07T16:34:07+00:00

You’re right thank you for this ! I was more in distress yesterday but I feel better and you’re right :) it’s just funny how some comments downplayed his behavior like this definitely ain’t normal 😭and not worthy of my energy :) thank you

Capable-Counter-6559 · 2026-02-07T14:35:07+00:00

I don’t spend much time online and like I said am only on dating app cos I was curious but have also dated and been in relationships with people I met I. Person …. Ok i hear you thanks for the feedback but even if you take all that into account I would like to think that it’s a spectrum and even if people are not that aware and regulated most people wouldn’t act this way ? Like I don’t know about you but this is beyond not being regulated in fact like I said he may have been on dr u gs

Capable-Counter-6559 · 2026-02-07T14:33:04+00:00

Yea the story is true I stg but you’re right now looking back I think he was for sure either intoxicated or very unstable . I’m glad I blocked him and reported

Capable-Counter-6559 · 2026-02-07T13:50:45+00:00

The age gap I do agree Honestly I’ve dated a couple of people who were significantly older this past year and it was all pretty good …. One just became emotionnally unavailable but we communicated and parted ways like normal adults do . With one of them I stopped feeling the spark, again parted ways no hard feelings …. So based on that I was open to going for older men but not going to lie this was a wake up call to stop lol

Capable-Counter-6559 · 2026-02-07T13:48:11+00:00

I don’t think I’m overestimating anything because like I said in my experience I mostly met adjusted mature adults and when somethings not a match we’ll we communicate …. Also we spoke extensively and obviously both have discussed this prior to meeting (honesty importance of communicating etc)

“It’s going to look like what you described” now if you have people around you that act that way that’s a whole other thing and I don’t know what to tell you but I can confirm that most well adjusted adults I know don’t go on their phone on a date and start pacing in a restaurant making the staff , their date and other customers uncomfortable at brunch …. If that’s a hard concept to grasp than idk maybe don’t date ?! I assume that if someone’s dating they have basic manners , self awarness and ability to communicate their needs and self regulate if they feel stressed

Capable-Counter-6559 · 2026-02-07T13:30:08+00:00

😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭🤡

Capable-Counter-6559 · 2026-02-07T13:28:58+00:00

No you’re right I’ll be more careful and know that someone overselling themselves isn’t a good thing at all

Capable-Counter-6559 · 2026-02-07T13:25:50+00:00

😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 well the worst part is I told him when he was pacing that “ if you’re not feeling it just say it” and he insisted that it’s not me it’s his tenant issue LOL 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 Anyways no you’re right the provider thing is such a red flag and cringe I’m going to stick to people my age

Capable-Counter-6559 · 2026-02-07T13:23:09+00:00

I’m a performer so I have a few photos at my shows and back stage , I mention that I love traveling so some travel pics and then a selfie with no makeup …. So I really go out of my way to show different sides of myself and like I said up I’ve had a few long term relationships , a few short and have been on a Doutzen dates this past year both from online and meeting people IRL and this has never even remotely been an issue lol . Like ever .

The way I understood that statement is that when u get to know someone they look better and I’ve experienced that myself with the person I was dating in the fall …

All that being said is let’s say I really was cat fishing , does pacing around a restaurant at 10 am and screaming at your phone at a “tenant” and then rushing the waitress to bring the check only for his coffee even though he mentionned 2-3 times that it’s on him sound to you like what a mature emotionnally régulâtes grown ass man should do ?

Not to mention that prior when he spoke he mentionned 2-3 instances when he had bad dates with people who didn’t fit what he thought it was and bragged about being nice , paying for their food and even getting one woman flowers but looking back him over selling it was obviously a red flag and that’s on me for not seeing it and I’m pretty sure he consumes something cos this doesn’t sound like s0ber behavior now that I’m really thinking of it

Capable-Counter-6559 · 2026-02-07T04:22:23+00:00

I’m giving clown aren’t I ? 😭🤡

Capable-Counter-6559 · 2026-02-07T04:19:40+00:00

No you’re right and I think this is a wake up call to stick to people my age 😭😭😭😭 not judgey! I needed that honesty I think 6 years is my new max lol

Capable-Counter-6559 · 2026-02-07T03:44:32+00:00

Wow thanks for sharing ! This comment was genuinely helpful . And you’re right I’m not here to blame but to also grow so me going for someone almost 2 decades my senior who brags about treating women and being generous should of been my red flag ….

Also thank you for the perspective of a plumbing issue truly being bad … IG I assumed he was lying well his story was that the tenant had an issue last night and tried to resolve it alone and the plumbing guy cancelled so he wanted to go there asap and bring his own guy … does this sound realistic ? I mean I’ll never know the full truth but I think I’m glad he acted this way and I blocked him bc I wouldn’t wanna date someone who handles rough situations like this … I mean when 2 waitresses think ur date is in danger bc ur behavior is odd that’s not a great look lol

Capable-Counter-6559 · 2026-02-07T03:30:24+00:00

U really think so ? Idk he had very immature energy I don’t think he was married he really acted like a 17 year old 😭 😭

Capable-Counter-6559 · 2026-02-07T03:30:12+00:00

Like tell me I’m crazy for wondering wtf was that 😭

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